Grandparents seeing grandkids

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Currently having issues with my mum and how often she wants to see my baby. She sees her 3 times a week minimum. So I’m just curious, how often do your parents see your children? If they live in the same area I mean.

if you are a grandparent, how often do you expect to see your grandchildren?

My mother saw my dc 2/3 times a week for a couple of hours each time. She lives about 5 mile away. She was happy with this. We visited her. She is still very involved in my DC's life and is always there for them.
Mil lives two streets away and she saw my dc a couple of times a week for an hour each time. Either we visited or she popped around. As the DC got older 4/5 she would see them once a week ( visits tapered off and she was never in if we called) and once they got to 8+ she'd lost interest and maybe sees them once a month for half an hours flying visit (still never in if we call).

Christmas Day. Only because I feel obligated to not leave her on her own.
Always lived 10 minutes away.
Unfortunately, neither set of grandparents have the slightest interest in either me or my kids.

Once a week, was a little more when they were toddlers but I work full time now.

Ils waited until ds arrived then ceased all contact with us.. No argument.. No drama. Just dumped us.
Been nc with dm for years
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When mine were small we saw my parents virtually every day

My in laws see our DC (15 months) as and when they can. They within 5 miles of us) We normally pop over at least once a week but they also help with baby sitting duties and have looked after her over night if we needed. They also offer to have her for a couple of hours as and when. They like to be involved, this is their first grandchild & likely to be their last. They have more time on their hands as they are both retired. They have been very involved since DC birth, however, they are very respectful if we're busy & don't pop over or can't pop over they're not insistent we come & we just arrange it for another time.

My parents are less frequent (live within 10 miles). They maybe see us once a month, however, both my parents work and also look after other children (on guardianship) so they have busier lives and are less available to come round and visit.

At the end of the day you're the parent, therefore, you get to set the boundary on the where, the when & the how often.

I see grandson most Saturdays when it's term time. Once a month or so we have "family dinner" which dgs loves as all my dc and exh come here for a meal. In school holidays I have him three days a week whilst dd works.

My parents probably once every 2-3 months. DD is 5 months and they've seen her 3 times.
PIL live abroad and haven't met DD yet but facetime her 4-5 times per week. If they lived near they'd be here nearly every day.

My dps were 30 mins away and l visited with the dc once a week. They seldom came to us as had a big family with everyone popping in.

My mum and dad will see my kids every couple of months even though they live a 10 minute walk away but see my niece every day without fail

Once a week for local.

My parents look after my son 2 days a week while I work. We also see them an additional 1-3 times the rest of the week for a much shorter visit

Sorry I thought this my own post and don’t know how to delete it 😩

My parents saw mine almost every day until they were young adults & every week when they were in their 20's. DFather passed away 3 years ago, but was still "looking after" them, cooking their favourite food/fixing stuff for them. DM's elderly now too, but taught them all the piano (she's a teacher) & took them to classical shows, helped with homework/took them on holidays & lots of treats from both. We were all close, some because of our culture & some just because...They were amazing & I and the kids were incredibly blessed...

Once or twice a week. I am off on maternity at the moment so every Tuesday I take my kids to my mum's for lunch. And usually MIL visits us on a Monday. Before I came off work, mum looked after DD1 every second Monday and every Tuesday, MIL looked after DD1 every second Monday and every Friday.

Every week when they were in the same country, and we would go visit them in Spain for a week once a year. My in laws maybe three/four times a year? They weren't that interested so it was my husband calling them suggesting we go over (they rarely wanted to come to us).

So why worry about ONE day of the year ? Ive never understood this concept 🙁

I live a 10 min drive from my DDs 2 girls….I see them 4 times a week….sometimes 5……my sons DD lives with her Mum around 30 min drive away…..my DS brings her over once a week

My mum once a week, sometimes 2 weekly if we have things on or have colds etc
My mums very relaxed and just says give me a day you want to come over and we do

My mil wanted daily contact and would turn up unannounced ( hate this ) so we've had to say not to do that. It's over bearing and we've had to tell her this - didn't take it well when I said weekly visits but it's sometimes 2 times a week
She doesn't like it though

When I return to work in June both GP will have a day with baby one day in the week so contact will stay the same - maybe more if I have visits with them

Born mums are local 10 mins away

My parents, at least 3 times a week. They also help when I need to take one to a club and so stay with the others, I have them over for dinner once a week most weeks too.

My MIL, maybe once or twice a year, but we don't live nearby. Even when we did, it was a rarity to be honest.

Depends what works for you. 3 times a week for me would be too much, but then again if you're planning on using your mum for childcare as baby gets older for 3 days a week you can't really kick off that seeing baby 3 times a week is only fine when it is what benefits you.

Thank you for everyone’s responses, very insightful! X

Hello, 3 times a week is too much for me also tbh but she thinks otherwise… and nope no childcare needed from her as I’m staying at home with baby! X