B****y Do-gooders

Megg, completely agree, very annoying. You could try asking them if they'd like to help. Or you could just tell them to f* off! Sorry, not very helpful.

I think you should tell them to f* off and then ask them to help.

I do sympathise. Now I'm a mum I offer to help all the time. If I'm out without ds I lug buggies downstairs, offer my seat on the bus to p/g women, offer to hold kids, try to entertain wailing ones in supermarket queues etc etc. Mind you, I would have done most of this before I had ds. I get told my ds (who emphatically WONT wear a hat) is cold by old ladies - well, duh. Mind you, I did recently see a big woman whacking her daughter who couldn't have been more than five round the head repeatedly and hard, and yes, I did tell her to stop it, that it was dangerous and cruel to hit a child on the head and to leave her daughter alone. She looked stunned and I was amazed at myself.

I think you should help them to f* off !!

But seriously ...... Like aloha I always try to help now I know how it feels but last week I was merrily making faces at a crying little boy ahead of me in the queue at Tesos, who was being ignored by his mum - I was cheering him up too - when his mother turned around and told me to f* off !! I didn't know where to look - I almost died !!! I was too shocked to say anything too !

What's that all about ? Did she think I was a child molester ? I was alone admittedly - but with plenty of kids thinngs in my trolley !!

Perhaps she was just having a bad day ? Ruined mine anyway !

megg - And I thought I was the only person to meet the do-gooder or downright bitchy, unhelpful types, thank goodness I'm not alone. Once upon a time, those sort of comments did upset me, now it brings out the fighter in me and I give as good as I get (though try not to get in a fight about it, and most of the time I just think "Oh off and get life" in my head and ignore the blighters!!)

megg, I am reading your post and agreeing with everything where do these people come from, I'm sure they hide behind walls and wait for harassed mums to come by!

Oh scatterbrain that is so horrible, rude and unwarranted! please don't stop trying to entertain bored little ones because of the rudeness of this woman!

megg, sympathy about the unhelpful man but it is nice to know that people with a brain cell did give proper help.

Scatterbrain, you can entertain DS2 in the supermarket any time you want. He was doing his special Spawn of the Devil act for me this week. Then the little B*** uss his sandy moptop, cheeky grin and enormous grey eyes to act the angel when someone talks to him. Does my self esteem as a mother no end of good...

Don't you just hate it though when you're on the edge of doing something rash with your little one because they have been horrid and then someone comes along, talks nicely to them and they appear all angelic? I get a bit annoyed when I am doing the cross mum bit and someone else tries to make light of the situation. It belittles you and makes you feel worthless - perhaps I should offer the child to the person who wants to play with her so much!

I so agree. I'm plagued by old grannies all the time (where do they hide!)
I was once at a function where there was an outside balcony, all enclosed and safe, but with an odd bit of bird poo and green slime. I was trying to pull one year old, crawling DS1 away from the area altogether when an elegant granny, who had been observing me with narrowed eyes for a while, said 'Oh for goodness sake, just LET HIM GO!'
I've never forgotten how small, inexperienced and seething I felt. I was just coming out of a bout of PND too. Cow.

Ooh Blimey - now I feel like the interfering do-gooder !! Maybe the mum in Tescos was freezing her son out coz he had been horrid and I came along and made faces at him !!!

Eeeeeek - maybe it's my fault !!

Still - no reason to be so bloody rude!

No, no, no! Please don't anyone not smile at my ds. It makes both our days if people smile, talk and play with him. The man in Snappy Snaps was actually bouncing up and down from behind the counter to amuse my ds today, and he was highly amused. It was fab. Mind you, when I left I saw some horrible wizened old bag push her face into her thin, pale, silent but clearly upset grandaughter's face and shout, 'Shut your face!' in the nastiest, most violent way possible. I gave her a filthy look but felt like punching her lights out. So I suppose I am an interfering old bag (but secretly proud of it!)

old people honestly where do they get off! my son opens doors for them without a please or a thank you and i remember when they were babies all the tuts and unwanted advice from strange oldies in general they get on my nerves!

Ds once had a huge tantrum in the school playground. I stood, about 3 foot away from him as he lay down on the floor and drummed his heels. I could tell it was just a strop because he kept looking at me every minute or so to see what effect this was having. He was quite safe, and wasn't hurting himself, or anyone else, so I was waiting it out. One Mum walked past me and asked if I knwe that my son had fallen and was upset. Daft cow! I felt like saying that I always ignored him if he hurt himself, but the irony might have been too much for this brain dead woman.

Interfering old grannies and their unsolicited advice, grrrr... when dd1 was tiny I used to carry her in a sling and we kept running into an old bat at the bus stop who thought this the height of cruelty. 'Look at the poor thing clutching on for dear life', 'She'll get a squint from looking sideways'. It did act as great motivation to pass my driving test though

lol babster! Not sure if I'm meant to though

I've had old people opening a door, looking back and seeing me with my pram, and then letting the door shut in my face. Honestly - and they say we are rude!!!

Babster, that reminds me of a granny in a cafe who proclaimed, tutting, that car seats were the worst thing ever invented as 'babies don't get cuddled any more, just carried around in those things.'
!!!!!!!
I think DS2 in particular would beg to differ. He's constantly welded to my chest.

There's recently been a campaign in our local paper from some miserable b***d who wanted to ban buggies from the town centre, and on buses. Have any of these people tried to get round town or on buses with buggies??? Grrrrrrrrrr

When dd was seven weeks old, we went down to Columbia road Flower Market on a Sunday morning (big flower and plant market in East London with cafes/quirky shops). DD was in sling with me and started crying a little. We were behind a middle aged woman who kept tutting and actually pushed me and baby out of the way at a stall muttering 'no place to bring babies'. Excuse me, this was a beautiful Sunday morning in the open air, family atmosphere. I got out of the way quickly and dh asked her what the problem was to which she reiterated her first point. When he told me, I marched up to her (baby still in sling) and asked her if she had children to which she replied 'yes, but MY children were properly brought up! For once in my life I managed to find the right words and asked her 'So did they like the dungeon then?'. Which was greeted by all the other poeple around me smiling and giving me thumbs up!! I then retreated into a side street and cried my eyes out. OOOH I wish I could meet her again!!

Anais and thumper, God, how awful both these are! Aren't some people just staggeringly horrible!

Thumper ... I am staggered ... did that woman really say that her children were properly brought up in comparison to your 7 WEEK old baby?
I ... er ... well ... (jaw dragging on the ground) am speechless!!!!