14 month old suddenly hates Grandpa???

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I am so lucky that my Dad is able to take DD while I'm at work. She was fine for the first month going to grandpa, completely thriving. In the last week, she has started refusing to go in the house when we arrive and will scream from the moment we drop her off until the moment I pick her up. My poor dad has tried everything, even resorting to putting on her favourite TV show but nothing helps. She just screams and screams all day and refuses to do anything for him. It's making me wonder what is happening there that makes her hate it so much!!!

What could have brought this on so suddenly? Is this common or should I be concerned? I don't know what to think.

Cut down* not navel?!

I'm not surprised he leaves her mostly to herself if he has her every day 8-5. 14 month olds are exhausting. My in laws have our 2yo 1 day a week 10-4 because that's all they can manage and they look so tired by the end of it. Where's her dad? How long is this supposed to last? It's just not reasonable or healthy for either of them.

I'm not sure how long you can go on with this, OP. I'm probably in the same age range as your Dad and I couldn't have my grandchildren every day, 8-5. Sometimes I have my 8 month old granddaughter for the day, and I'm shattered by the end of it. If she was walking like your LO is, I'd be dead ! And your Dad is doing it every day . Sorry but you're putting a lot onto him, and your DD is collateral damage. You need to find some other solution to your child care needs.

What a depressing situation all round. No one would gladly look after toddler 8-5 5 days a week it's absolutely knackering.

Firstly I think having a 14mo 5 days a week is too much. Toddlers are hard work, you can't take your eyes off them. I personally think two days a week would be enough for most grandparents. If you can't afford childcare you can't afford to work.

Your dad must be a feisty little thing to cry all day - I would have thought even really miserable toddlers would eventually calm down with a gentle distraction like looking at a book or be distracted out on a walk in the pushchair. Or does she calm down and then your DF goes off to get in with his household chores and your DD cries again?

It's time to start looking for a childminder or nursery, at least for a few days a week, because at the very least this isn't fair on your DF.

My niece went through a phase around this age of hating men with beards, even her own father. Would scream and scream if being held by a family member with a beard or even being in very close proximity- like on sitting the sofa. Maybe it’s a phase if she’s always been happy with your dad before?

No way in hell I’d be leaving my baby there

Not privelidged, just child centered... I took 2 months unpaid extra mat leave to settle my little one into her childminders, it put us in debt but at least i knew she was happy, which is worth more than money any day.
Work should never come before family welfare...health before wealth and all that.

Of course we all need enough to live on, but generally part time work and benefits (if a single parent) or one full time worker and one part time worker (if a couple) should provide enough for the essentials, especially with only one child.

Sadly the OP won’t be back.

I suspect she has adopted the head in sand ostrich pose

meanwhile her baby doesn’t quite have that luxury

Sounds like she's going through that awful clingy phase No idea what's best.

All I can say is. Change your job change your hours do something different and stop working 5 full days a week. I leave my daughter who is 14 months old for 2 full days a week with the childminder and then she sees my mum and sister for the other 3 days while I work for a couple of hours on those days. I’ve only had her cry once when leaving her at the childminders and she’s been going 6 months now and she’s never cried when I’ve left her with my family. Every baby is different but there’s no way On earth I’d suggest or even want to leave my 14 month old for 5 full days and miss out on so much of her.

i really would try and find something that allows you to be around your daughter alot more or send her to a childminder/nursery for a few days because she will be able to interact with other children there too. It isn’t working and you may see that after putting your daughter through another 2/3 weeks of it but it really isn’t healthy for your child.

Some of the responses on here. Jesus. People need to get in the real world. Yes this is not the best situation, but just changed jobs? Drop hours? Use nurseries? Like everyone just has that luxury.

Some of the responses on here. Jesus. People need to get in the real world. Yes this is not the best situation, but just changed jobs? Drop hours? Use nurseries? Like everyone just has that luxury.

Yep. And this is the man that shouted at the baby when she choked on the crisp that he shouldn’t have given her, then threatened the mother.
But OP’s head remains in the sand because the baby is “mostly safe” with him.