Anyone else get shamed for bed sharing??

[Peonnies]

I only partially co sleep I’d say. DS is 1 and gets in our bed around 12/1. On nights where he’s poorly or teething usually around 10/11!

I personally like having him next to me:) I suffer with anxiety and feel so much calmer and know he’s fine when he’s next to me! I love when he rolls over and scoots close to give me a cuddle <3

however , not my side I’d say. But DH’s side. Wow

his mum constantly says ‘babies should be in the cot’ ‘all of my children slept right through in their own cots’.
his brothers the same and dad

so now DH is starting to get on the he must be in his own cot all night bandwagon

i think while he’s this young and go so much going on - nursery bugs, teething, constant new skills learning. Why not?

I also love little moments where I look over at him and my husband and think about how blessed I am to have my happy healthy family

It's completely normal and natural to cosleep. No other mammals sleep apart from their infants. Even adult humans prefer to sleep with their partners so why should babies/toddlers be denied that security? I do think the tide is turning on this now, as more people admit to doing it, I had a parent of a toddler confess it to me today like it was a guilty secret and you could tell she was relieved when everyone else in the room regardless of the widely differing parenting styles said they mostly do/did too.

Just interested to know why so much sharing information about sleeping arrangements. Not that it should be a secret but if it is all just what you do then surely it isn't really something to talk about as it isn't interesting. Often helps to try and avoid various topics people have different parenting views on if you don't want to hear unsolicited advice -also see- feeding, discipline, screen time.

Ds, almost 10, will be in around 3am. He always is. Goes off in his own bed no problem, just wakes and wants company.
He is the most affectionate child and so warm, I’m not going to stop him.
DH gets a bit cross but that’s the elbows and knees flying around as he never lies still! Even in a super king bed.
In with me ds will sleep until 7.30 or later. Otherwise he would be up and on the Xbox. I know which I’m happier with tbh.
In case it matters, ds has adhd. He’s much worse if he doesn’t sleep well. For me, this is what I do to keep my child happy and safe, which is all I ever wanted. Other people don’t get to have an opinion.

My 11 and 8 years olds often end up in our king size in the middle of the night. We all sleep well and I love the closeness of knowing they're there. Nobody else's business at all. Crack on, OP!

If you're happy with it, you do you. I personally can't sleep with DC in the bed. Also just be careful, my cousin sleep with her son until he was 11 which I thought was getting a bit old ...

"There are plenty of cultures who think the notion of banishing infants and young children to cots they can’t get out of in separate rooms is awful."

Just as people shouldn't judge those who co-sleep, so too the reverse is true.

My children were always in their cots, then their own room as soon as possible, and we all slept better for it.

On the odd night my son does creep into my bed (usually when he's sick) I let him, but I always have an awful night as he wakes me constantly. Another reason is that it wouldn't be fair to allow him to cosleep all the time and not his brother, but if both were in bed with me I'd get zero sleep. So no cosleeping here, and it's the right choice for us.

Not judging anyone else though. Having children taught me that every child is different, and that you often find yourself making different choices than you thought you would. Because that's just how reality works.

Live and let live.