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Did you/do you wake your DC up for a night time wee?

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greenbirdsong · 31/01/2023 18:49

Do you or did you ever "lift" your child out of bed when you go to bed to go for a wee?

My son is 5 and still not dry at night. We'll have periods where he will get up at night and go for a wee and then we'll have long periods where despite wearing pull ups at night he's soaking wet.
I know about waiting for a hormone to kick in and guess we still have to wait.

My question is, should I be getting him up to try for a wee at around the time I go to bed?

Did you do that and it did work for your child to be dry at night?

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Sarahcoggles · 31/01/2023 18:55

I've heard that putting kids on the toilet when they're asleep teaches them to wee when they're asleep. I just kept mine in pull ups till they became dry, which literally happened one night and that was it.

Eileen101 · 31/01/2023 18:58

I do, but only because he's starting to out wee a pull up and ending up with a wet bed despite being in a pull up... Or accidentally weeing out of the leg hole or something...

piglet81 · 31/01/2023 18:59

I don’t think it’s recommended but I am not exactly one to give advice since I have a 7yo still soaking wet every night…

Have a look at Eric (bowel and bladder charity) for info.

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DelurkingAJ · 31/01/2023 19:02

We did with both DSs. They were waking for a wee about 5am and then not getting back to sleep…which was awful! Both for a couple of years aged 5-6ish.

YouJustDoYou · 31/01/2023 19:04

We did at 10pm for our oldest (he was then up at 5am), the other two never needed it. Our son's best friend as still wetting the bed at night at 7. Just a super deep sleeper. Doesn't now at 9.

Chowtime · 31/01/2023 19:06

I did it for 3 kids and it worked. it's not recommended no, but then, I did a lot of things that weren't recommended - i just did my own risk assessments.

APurpleSquirrel · 31/01/2023 19:08

No - we've waited till we've had consistent dry nights in pull-ups before removing them entirely. DD was dry by about 3.5yrs & DS (4.5) has recently stopped wearing pull-ups in the last few weeks - so far only one accident.

frenchnoodle · 31/01/2023 19:10

We were told not to do it as it teaches them to wee while half asleep. Rather than being fully awake.

kitcat15 · 31/01/2023 19:11

No never

CatOnTheChair · 31/01/2023 19:12

Absolutely not.
I never woke a sleeping child unless essential. But then mine didn't sleep very well!
Think it goes against guidance - yes, they need a hormone to produce less urine overnight, but they also need to make the connection about needing to wee and waking.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 31/01/2023 19:15

I did and it helped being dry at night.Around 10/11 at night when we went to bed

KickHimInTheCrotch · 31/01/2023 19:16

My DD was such a terrible sleeper and we were all so sleep deprived that I couldn't bring myself to wake her. She was 5.5 and too big for most pull ups when she finally stopped routinely weeing in her sleep.

fuckaroo · 31/01/2023 19:22

I wake ds up twice in night to go for a wee but if I don't wake up to get him up he will deffo wee the bed. I tend to lift him out of bed 5en wake him up though...

WhyDoesItAlways · 31/01/2023 19:23

I did and do not recommend. I believe all we did was teach DS to wee in his sleep. For a few months after I stopped he would have an accident in the middle of the night within a few hours of when we would have taken him to the toilet. Now if he wets the bed it's usually about 7am just before he wakes up.

He is a deep sleeper and bed wetting alarms do not wake him so I don't expect him to be reliably dry until he is naturally ready.

DarkForces · 31/01/2023 19:24

We did at around 11pm each night when dd was about 3. Then one night we forgot, she was dry in the morning and all was fine after

Ringmaster27 · 31/01/2023 19:27

I’ve only done this when my middle one was having regular night terrors, and I eventually figured out that one of the triggers for the night terrors was his brain half realising he needed a wee, but was too into the deep sleep to find his way to the bathroom. So I’d hear him fumbling about, gently guide him to the loo while still in his dopey, awake but asleep phase before the hysterical screaming started and it worked 🤷🏻‍♀️

frostyfours · 31/01/2023 19:29

Yes I've been doing it since she wet through a nappy around age 1! And she never wets the bed - been dry at night since just after turning 3 (now 4 and a 1/4).

Jux · 31/01/2023 20:33

I used to walk too do the loo when I went to bed. She'd generally not ake up.

uegwydjfnbroq · 31/01/2023 20:39

I do between 10/11 and get my DS walk to the toilet (lightly push and guide) then help him pull down his pants and get on the toilet. Currently not wet the bed in a week of doing this. We’re just getting out of pull-ups

DappledThings · 31/01/2023 23:16

Nearly 7 year old was dry last night after we lifted him about 11.30. Ran out of nappies and didn't realise till bedtime so had no choice but to bite the bullet. He had been soaking nappies every night but maybe just as he was waking up and waking up this morning with no nappy just stopped him.

Tried to do the same just now and no wee came but he was very cross at being disturbed and stropped back to bed still half asleep. Poor boy.

So I don't think we'll get a dry night tonight. Fingers crossed though.

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greenbirdsong · 01/02/2023 19:32

Thanks for all the replies.

My son is a deep sleeper and I wondered if taking him to the toilet at night will make him still wee in his sleep rather than recognise the sign to wake.

I know being dry at night can take time - I just hope it happens soon.

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morekidsthanhands · 01/02/2023 19:38

I did with all three of mine. 2 of the 3 never woke up during. Only did it for a few weeks and then tapered off.

confusedlots · 01/02/2023 19:49

I did with DD as I was getting fed up of changing beds and washing sheets a few times a week. I'd wake her up just before I went to bed, she would wake up and go to the toilet and then go straight back to bed and back to sleep. I stopped it as a trial around the time she turned 6 and thankfully there was no more bed wetting after that.

DS on the other hand was dry at night from 3 years old, guess they're all just different

Loafbeginsat60 · 01/02/2023 20:09

Yeah always lifted them for a pee when we went to bed about 11

Never had accidents and they were soon dry overnight (dd at 18mo!) she refused to wear a nappy once we started toilet training so we went with it and luckily was ok.

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/02/2023 20:11

No as they learn to wee when asleep and not wake up

And doesn't actually help them in the room run

It's a hormone thing and when it kicks in they will be dry

If still wet at 8 then talk to doctor and get try alarms to wake them if start weeinf

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