I need some wise words! I've posted about EXH a few times a while ago. We split when DD was 2, and initially he had her 2 nights a week and EOW.
When she was 6, he moved 150 miles away. Some issues at that time as he declared I had to meet him half way on the journey every time he had her. We went to meditation and sorted out a reasonable solution for both of us
It's been fine for the last 4 years. However things are now starting to come up with DD's social life now she's 10!
She has birthday parties and things like club performances coming up on weekends. Obviously when she's with me she can attend these no problems. When she is with dad, it would mean her missing her whole weekend with him as he lives too far to be able to facilitate. DD is getting upset that she has to miss out on a lot of things as exh says family time is more important
I know that spending time with her dad is important but I'm torn as she is desperate to attend things with her friends. If he still lived 2 miles down the road she could attend. He didn't have to move 150 miles away, followed his partner down there
When does DD start getting a voice in what she does at the weekends?
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Choice4567 · 25/01/2023 18:28
aSofaNearYou · 25/01/2023 18:42
How often would you say these weekend activities are coming up? We live a similar distance from DSS and if something comes up that he wants to do we just swap for the next weekend.
AdviceOnLife · 25/01/2023 18:48
Just reply he didn't put his family ie his own child first when he moved 150 miles away for a woman.
Absolute hypocrite he is.
piggijg · 25/01/2023 18:53
I think at 10 he's right. He can't dictate how you spend your weekends with her anymore than you can to him. I'd offer to swap round weekends if it was her best friends birthday or something like that but other than that it's just the joy of being from a blended family.
Eastereggsboxedupready · 25/01/2023 18:50
Flip it op.
In years to come when dd hasn't much of a relationship with her df she will know you allowed her social life to outweigh a decent relationship with her df...
Judge told my exh to stop making plans for our dc in my time.
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Choice4567 · 25/01/2023 18:58
@piggijg I’m not really dictating though - I have no control over when other children have their parties or club events happen
it’s just sad when she begs me to ask her dad if she can go and then have to tell her he’s said no again
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