Sometimes I regret my child.

[LolaFerrari]

Got a fairly young child. Single parent. Ex does shifts and picks and chooses childcare. Currently he can't give me many weekends. I work full time and do 80 PC of care. Its such hard work. I just don't enjoy it and sometimes I wouldn't have had a child if I'd known it was going to be like this. I feel soguilty but I won't be having anymore kids because I feel this way.

My ex is getting arsey. I just cant be arsed with this.

@LolaFerrari what's he getting arsey about?

Maybe we can help you find some strategies for dealing with him that will reduce the stress.

I agree up to a point… but I think the problem is less motherhood, and more nuclear families / society. The way most of us do it feels unnatural. If we all had kids younger, with both sets of grandparents nearby, then the labour and loneliness would be diffused. I care for my child and help care for my father; and my mum died 10 years ago. It’s not supposed to be that way!

If we all had kids younger, with both sets of grandparents nearby, then the labour and loneliness would be diffused

If we had children younger then its grandparents would almost certainly still be in full-time work.