Scared to take my baby back to hospital but I’m also scared not to..

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It sounds stupid but I’m scared to take my baby back to the hospital.
This is why.

he is 7 months old, he lost his balance while sitting and he hit his soft spot on a wooden footrest at the end of the bed. It was impossible for him to fall off, I had just looked away for a few seconds and then that happened

I took him in and they examined him, they sent us home. 24 hours later he had a firm, raised soft spot. I took him back in and we were there 9 hours, somehow one of the nurses misconstrued me and thought he fell off the bed, I corrected her and I thought nothing of it. Anyway, several doctors, nurses and a paediatrician agreed it was ok to send him home considering he’s normal, no sign of anything.

I got a phone call the next day from social services.. that nurse had reported me. They said they were going to do a wellness check because apparently I had “two different stories” and the social worker thought he had fell off the bed. I corrected her, she went back and phoned the hospital and the hospital looked into it, found out I was linear and truthful with my explanation (🙄obviously) and social services decided to close the case off the basis of “the hospital got it wrong, i was telling the truth and baby was fine and discharged by the hospital so there’s no reason for socials to get involved”

BUT that’s what worries me, right there. he is fine, but his soft spot is still firm and raised and I’m an anxious person and I’d like to take him back and demand a scan so that my mind could be put at ease . My biggest fear is something happening to him.

But my worry is if I take him back to hospital, would social services get back in touch? I’m a massive overthinker and an excessive worrier so I may be overthinking this but I’d love some input.

Is the fontanelle firm, or is it bulging outward and hard?

@ToBeOrNotToBee obviously their just doing their jobs but I took offence since my baby is very well looked after and loved

You wouldn’t know for certain with a scan, you’d only know what the sonogroapher can see, and just because she didn’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there, sonographers can make mistakes right?

Here is a picture of my son, after 13hrs of skull reconstructive surgery. A firm fontanelle wasn’t his only symptom….. and 4 days later he’d have been dead.

@Cileymyrus its firm, not rock hard but when I glide my hand across his head it is slightly risen

If you’re worried take h8m back, it’s related to the same incident. Not a new injury. It demonstrates you’re caring and prioritising him anyway.

like others have said a ss notification is quite common/routine for stuff like this. Don’t think I ever had social services ring me but the HV often used to after we’d been to a&e.

Don't be scared to take him back - it is more important to get it dealt with. In the unlikely event they contact ss again you just have to explain the situation to them. It is obvious to any rational person that a good parent would seek medical intervention when they feel it is required.

@Jojobees I don't think you are helping anyone. What is the point of posting pictures of something completely unrelated?

You have made your point, I think you should leave the OP be now.

@Blueblell and that is what I have done. I phoned the ward this evening and they don’t think he needs to be seen again. They just told me to attend his health visitor appointment next week to have his head measured since it’s on the 98th percentile

For what it is worth - when my 5 year old cut his head open I was fully expecting a ss visit as my explanation to A&E was absolutely true but sounded very unlikely. It was a few years ago now but I think every parent of a young child is a bit anxious when they go to A&E.

Op, I can assure you many parents get at least one social services call about their kids when they're growing up.

There are so many professionals who are involved in the care of a child and every one has to have safeguarding at the front of everything they do.

I took my son to A&E for a suspected broken foot that happened at nursery and even I got the 3rd degree and got asked for proof that nursery witnessed the incident.

Social services didn't make a big deal of it, don't worry about it. You know you were not in the wrong and nothing should stop you seeking care for your child.

The hospital have stood firm with their clinical view that he is fine. Please be reassured by that, but do take him in if you are still worried.

Just be aware that they may send you away again unless there is another change other than the bump.

When ds1 has a health issue a few years ago, I was very grateful to a paediatrician who explained why they weren't worried. I really didn't believe her but she was very patient with me and just explained what checks she had done to know he was fine.

Please don't worry about social services, they aren't monsters who want to take your baby, you'll be doing the right thing taking him to seek help. If you don't get help and the find out he needed it you'll be devestated.

But these professionals have only just met you, they know nothing about you or your circumstances.
All they know is that they’ve got a small child who has an injury.
It is perfectly correct that they should question how that injury occurred and check that everything at home is ok.
You only have to watch the news to know that tragedies occur when medical professionals ignore possible warning signs. It is not personal, it is procedure. As it should be. Getting defensive about it starts to ring more alarm bells.

Take your baby back to the hospital for you're own peace of mind.

You would know if your baby was different by their behaviour.

You have been reassured by the registrars but nothing will ease your anxiety until your baby is seen again.
If you get reported to SS which you probably won't, you haven't done anything wrong.
You need to think clearly, you haven't done anything wrong so your baby will not be taken away.

There's probably no where else for your baby anyway.

Take her back. Get her checked.

No it doesn't!

Maybe look into how to speak to people with anxiety (or even just, you know, fellow humans).

If you’re worried take him back, don’t ever be worried about getting help for your baby.

Social services closed your case.

If you are worried about your child please take them back to be checked, you’ve do e nothing wrong and the record will merely reflect this is a third visit for the same bumped head SS had no issue with.