DH wants me to night wean

[Mamabear04]

DH wants me to night wean our 6mo. DS was 7.7kg when weighed back at the start of December and has taken to weaning really well and is up at 3 small meals a day. He is EBF and will feed 1-2 times a night between 12-1am and between 3-5am. I'm struggling to wonder if its OK to night wean so young. DD dropped down to one feed per night at 6mo and then stopped it altogether around 8-9 months when she solidly started sleeping though. What does everyone else think? Should I try to drop DS down to one feed? Or altogether? Is it too young?

Of course not. Your baby didn’t wake because they didn’t need to.

It’s developmental - so if they’re waking for it, they need it. If they’re not waking for it, they don’t need it.

Why does he think his opinion is even relevant OP?

Mum’s sleep is related to baby’s wellbeing. What baby wants to be cared for by an over tired, crabby mess that just flops around the house all day?

Guess your google is broken then 🤷‍♀️

I think a lot of mums are disappointed that the martyred effort they put in their kids by never sleeping hasn’t resulted in any noticeable benefits, so they fall back on niche ‘studies’ to ‘prove there is a link’. They need to reassure themselves it was all worth it, quite sad really.

If you have an equal parenting relationship with your DH mum shouldn’t be an “emotional crabby mess”.

Its not going to cause any issues. If my son sleeps through with out a night feed its fine.

Too young! I'm still feeding at 18m

A happy well rested mam has a happy well rested baby

I would never neglect my son...

If he did it with no interference from you, yes, he would be fine, because developmentally he didn’t need it.

If you are interfering and taking away his comfort until he stops asking for it because he knows you won’t provide it anymore, it’s not fine.

That is how the neural pathway connections are damaged, because you aren’t meeting that connection.

I did night wean at 6 months - but my baby was feeding every 1-2 hours and it was pretty clearly something he did because he had got used to that being how he got between sleep cycles.

Your baby is only feeding once or twice a night so it sounds like is well on the way to sleeping through so I wouldn't meddle

Anyone forcing their child into something where they no longer ask for comfort because they know it isn’t coming is neglecting their child.

Light the fuse then watch with popcorn!

Guess mine is too. Or you’re full of shit, which is always the case with those who use the “Google it” like when asked to cite their sources. Because their sources are either completely fabricated or completely biased crackpot sites.

You are full of shit.

Yeah, you need to get back in your box.

It's a cycle I need to break. He uses my boobies to fall asleep. He doesn't really need it. As he slept through fine before suddenly waking up once through the night

There’s really no point to this discussion because those who deny their child comfort won’t acknowledge the damage they’re doing 🤷‍♀️

You want to be selfish and prioritise yourself, go ahead, but don’t think it won’t have significant long term damage on your children, because it absolutely will.

If people did more research before having children then the realities of having a baby wouldn’t hit so hard.

And I'm night weaning because I'm going back to work on the 1st. Yes I want to have a good sleep. I don't want to be shattered for work and then get even more tired at work. How am I going to be any good to him. Best for mama to be well rested. Equals a happy baba

Oh sweetie. He slept through for a while because he didn’t need it then, but sleep isn’t linear, and by waking he’s telling you he needs it now.

Your DH should be an equal parent, so you shouldn’t be at all exhausted.

Keep repeating that line if it makes you feel better.

What truth. Its horse shit. My son is not going to feel neglected if I stop the feed during the night as I said I'm not going cold turkey. Doing it gradually. He gets plenty Comfort from me.