As long as I’ve been divorced, I’ve shared 50/50 custody with my childrens dad. He’s always been active in their well being, taking him to dentist, doct’s appointments, on his time and likewise I also do on my time. He’s been to all parent teacher conferences. Overall, he’s a good father to my kids. Except, if something doesn’t go his way, he will use the kids. For example, there was a modification increasing his child support, so he chopped off my daughters luscious curls and pierced my sons ears(left and right).
My daughter has expressed to both of us that she doesn’t want to live with her dad nor does she want to visit on the weekends. Her dad is now remarried, as am I, and he has a son with his new wife. My son, on the other hand, is in love with his baby brother and looks forward to visiting his dad.
Since it was brought to our attention that our daughter doesn’t want to go there, at all. My ex and I agreed to a trial period of letting her stay with me full time. However, he also wanted our son to have a say. (He’s 8) although he wasn’t of concern at this point, I agreed to letting him choose since dad budged to letting our daughter stay with me.
Now, my son wants to stay with his dad. He told me he doesn’t want to come even on the weekends. Which breaks my heart, he’s always been a mammas boy. Am I selfish for wanting to keep custody the way it was with him 50/50 and only allowing our daughter to stay with me full time? I love them both equally. I am torn because I wish nothing more than keeping the siblings together always. I feel like my son is only in it for the playtime, which is legitimate. It’s just hurting me to think that he’s so happy there, so much so, that he’s ok being away from me.