Boy and girl not related sharing bedroom??

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Can anybody tell me if this is legal? Ive googled and theres alot about siblings sharing but not not related.

Prick ex moved in with OW within 3 weeks from when i found out, he had mainly day contact most saturday days and he's had him 5 times overnight in 7 months at his dads house ass they live in in a 2 bed terraced, both her kids have a room each and they sleep in the living room on a bed setee. Hence no room from our Son to sleep. Ive heard off our Son thats they are getting another bed to go in one of the rooms so i think he's gearing up to have him their even though that not what was agreed in medation.

Does anybody know wherebI stand on this one? Both kids boy and girl are 6 years old who i assume are sharing. Her eldest is 16.

Thanks

There is no law on this.

There is no law, and if the children haven't hit puberty it shouldn't be an issue.

Oh and as it is not your ex's house he has no say in who sleeps where as he can be kicked out at anytime.

No law

Council housing:

The new government rules say you can have: One bedroom for each couple or person aged 16 or over living in the home. A child under 16 is expected to share with one other child aged up to 16, if they are of the same sex.

And over 10 for different gender

While it's not illegal for them to share, it's recommended that children over the age of 10 should have their own bedrooms – even if they're siblings or step-siblings.

above from nspcc

At 6yo its fine. In a few more years the teenager will probably be around less, and the adults moved into a bedroom so likely your DC on sofa bed (which is obviously not ideal either)

There’s no law on this, and nothing you can do except speak to your ex. But if there’s no spare room what do you suggest they do? Not give your son a bed?

There’s no law but even at 6 I wouldn’t be comfortable with it unless there was a lot of supervision

Thanks for the replies you've all been very helpful. I'm not comfortable at all to be honest. Firstly because he is going back on what he agreed in mediation and secondly the children's sex and they arn't that close.

It’s not ideal

but Op… you’re at the beginning of your co parenting relationship. Pick your battles

At six I wouldn’t think anything of it.

Two bed terrace and your ex and the OW are sleeping in the lounge?

that will bring an end to the honeymoon period pretty sharpish!

As others have said there is no law and in council housing it’s only when you become “entitled” to a room it doesn’t mean you will get one, in my part of London you have no hope of being rehoused unless you are priority banding otherwise you can forget it. I think it will be even less considering they are not related and you are the RP so even if there house was a council house your child would never be entitled to a room there as they don’t count a child that doesn’t live there and has a main residence elsewhere.

Assume that's for children of different sexes? There's plenty children of the same sex in all kinds of households who share.

There’s no law on this. I beg of you, for your son’s sake, to be positive about it to him, so at least when he’s there he will happy and comfortable. Don’t project your own anxiety and resentment onto him. He’s too important to you to be miserable about the situation. By all means express your concerns to your ex out of earshot of your son. Given their living arrangements I can’t see the honeymoon period lasting forever.

Of course it's fucking legal. Why the hell would you think it isn't?!

There is only guidance for council tenants so that they don't risk 'overcrowding' households, but in reality many people live with having to share rooms that may not be totally ideal for them.

Unless your son is unsafe, let his dad sort it out. It's none of your business. They are SIX year old CHILDREN.

Why would it be illegal? They are 6, I don’t understand the issue. Plenty of children share.

Notanotherone6, is there any need for that.

My issue is they aren't related, his dad has very little imput into our Sons life and our son is very unsettled as it is and I'm worriedfor my childs mental wellbeing. I knew over 10 is a issue but i wasn't sure about under 10 thats why i asked.

They’re six so I would not be concerned at all. The main thing is they have their own beds. I wouldn’t worry until the girl hit puberty and needed privacy- ie when her period starts or they both turn 10 whichever comes first.

Op you now know for a fact that there is nothing you can do about this in any shape or fashion. So put it to bed.

and hope that his current very infrequent visits continue as such

But why are you worried about two 6 year old kids sharing a room?

Are you absolutely sure the plan isn't for the 2 sisters to share on the odd pccassiom he is there? Could you suggest that it not?

Sorry I realise you didnt give the gender of the 16 year old so ignore me!!!

And?

Why are you sexualising 6 year old children?

Also it is more likely the girl will hit puberty first so in 2-4 years will refuse to put up with him sharing her room.