Are you how you thought you'd be as a parent?

[bigbanana]

another thought for the day...

Mostly yes but am a bit more whingy than i'd like at the moment as i'm 6 months pregnant, have constant heartburn and my 3 year old dd is VERY stubborn at times. I know it's bacause I@M shprt tempered at the moment and hate myself for it!
BUT, on the whole, i think so

no Im much better than i thought

I think I'm a better mum than I was expecting to be, or maybe bean is just such an easy baby. Although I do worry too much and have to have everything planned out, right down to what bean is having for his dinner every night for the next 2 weeks!

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No - I thought I'd be a stay at home earth mother, wandering around in my sandals, baking bread and cakes, doing wonderful creative things with my beautifully behaved toddlers. In reality I couldn't wait to get back to work when my twins were 9 months, only 3 days a week, but enough to have a bit of "me time" which I didn't anticipate I would need quite so much! I'm also a lot less patient with mine than I ever was with my nephews or god-children.

some dsays i feel im a good mum other days i feel not so good those days i sound scarily like my own mum

better than my mother was -so yes, definately and improving with each child and old age creeping up on me....

Sandyballs, I'm with you! I thought it would be my lifes vocation - that it was what I had been waiting for and that I'd be brilliant at it - I have found it the toughest experience of my life and I am shocked at how far removed my experience was compared to how I imagined It would be/I would be!

I hoped it would be my life's vocation and still believe it is but God it's hard - the hardest thing I've ever done. Even so I frequently get to the end of the day and think "must do better tomorrow". In answer to the question I think I'm about as good and useless as I thought I would be - more useless since ds (6mo) came along. The kids seem reasonably content with their lot though.

Ummm, well I wasn't counting on being a mum to a little girl with special needs so it's not quite as I thought it would be. I'm not taking her for bike rides and able to do lots of the things I thought I'd be doing and feel like I'm being held back in some ways and unable to be the mum I'd like to be. Like I tried to make Xmas cards with her and she just didn't get it and I ended up doing it all really while she ate glitter! Only the swings are open to us really at the park, lots of things are still closed to us until she can walk and run around.

I also find there isn't enough hours in the day to be the mum I want to be. I guess that's being a working mum for you.

In general though I'm happy with who I am as me and as Lottie's mum though and I'm happy with the little girls she's turning out to be.

Better at some things (mostly more patient than I thought I was) and worse at others (never have enough time for playing and am always in a rush). I also shout at them far more than I ever thought I would.

me too - I shout loads which I detest in myself - I have far less patience than I thought I would have - don't spend hours on floor playing like I thought I would! Have far more guilt than I thought I would too!!

Yeah i wish I was more patient as well.
And I wish I new more nursery rhymes and could make up fab stories and songs on the spot.

yes, and I wish I was bluepeter creative with him! I would love to me able to make up stories...I worry I'm too selfish to be a parent

Ha, same here, wish i could make stuff out of an egg carton and make her fancy dress costumes.
I'm so not arts and crafty and I know she'll go through school with other kids saying 'what the hell is that supposed to be' when I've helped her make projects in art and stuff!! Ohh I dread that kind of homework! (she's only 3!!!)

mine's only 2.5yrs and already his nursery have asked that they come in fancy dress for christmas show on 23rd. I don't know where to start! He has a dog outfit from IKEA - wondering if I can get away with the classic 'christmas dog' (?!)

H ahhaaa, i just laughed so hard out loud at work at theat, cheers
Ys the old classic Christmas dog costume, klnow it well! L&LoL

excellent thank you. Only problem is he refuses to actually wear the dog outfit!

I have completely surprised myself at the way i am.
Admittedly i had no preconcieved ideas about what a good parent should be so i have no measure of comparison.
The whole thing from conception to today (now DSis 17 months) has been an eye opener and has provided challenges so diverse that i could never have even imagined how i would react to them.
I like to think that i am laid back,accepting and a fun mum. I can honestly say though that some of the challenges that he presents me with have the knack of getting my patience and temper like nothing else on this earth. I can feel it rising in me and this astonishes me.
I am a sane, rational person and yet this little scrap of a chap can bring me to boiling point like i have never experienced with any adult! Bizzare!
The one thing that i adamantly promised myself was that i would never ever be like my mother was when we were children and so far...thank God i havent.

Yes, I'm surprised by the extreme emotions too. I'm more patient and impatient than I ever thought I could be. And the shouting thing really gets me down - every day I break my promise to myself never to shout. But I do genuinely enjoy my kids' company and laugh much more than I thought I would.

I agree with that Hunny 100%.
me too.

Oh it's sooo reassuring to know we are all thinking and feeling the same! Every day I wake up thinking I will be calm and placid with ds, my voice will not raise to banshee/fishwife level today, and I fail miserably! But on the other hand I'm more in love with my little fella than I could possibly imagine, and could spend hours watching him sleeping, stroking his little face.

I feel like the mother from hell some days. I thought I'd be a cross between Maria from the Sound of Music and Mary Poppins, but sadly I haven't turned out that way. I don't seem to play with them enough, or have enough patience, or have the ability to turn a Cornflakes box into Tracy Island a la Blue Peter . Hopefully they'll forgive me my faults and think kindly of me when it comes to choosing my nursing home.