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Could my DD be dyslexic? Pic

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:00

I had parents evening yesterday regarding DD9- year 5. I have always kept in touch with the school to express my concerns about her reading/writing/time keeping etc. I brought it up again yesterday when the teacher said DD is very day-dreamy and tends to go off into her own world a lot. She’s also having 1 to 1 with reading as they can see she’s behind, and I asked if it could be possible she has dyslexia, her bio father (not in the picture) and a lot of members on his side of the family have it along with ADHD. I was immediately shut down, told not to label her and they would of spotted if she had something like this. So wise mums, this is her Christmas list, what do you think? I’m just going to go private to get her assessed I think, the poor girl is nearly 10 and we’ve spent years trying to find ways to help her tell the time, even the kids clocks which literally spells out what the time is🙁

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:01

The pic might help…
(had to erase a part as she included what her little sister wants)🙈
I’m still not sure what the first one is, my only guess is book?

Could my DD be dyslexic? Pic
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PuttingDownRoots · 19/10/2022 19:04

Some of that spelling is very similar to my 11yos with dyslexia.

Skiphopbump · 19/10/2022 19:07

There are certainly enough concerns to warrant an assessment.

It can be very difficult to get schools on board . I’ve for example been told that so many have dyslexia that all lessons are dyslexia friendly - they certainly weren’t for my dyslexic son!

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:08

PuttingDownRoots · 19/10/2022 19:04

Some of that spelling is very similar to my 11yos with dyslexia.

Do you know where I would even start to getting her assessed please? All I see on Google is can’t be done through the NHS and usually done through the schools senco, which is looking unlikely considering the way they reacted to me suggesting it!

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Ginxx · 19/10/2022 19:09

My dh is dyslexic and this very much reminded me of him with the spelling how it sounds. Baby yoder instead of baby yoda for example.

UniversalTruth · 19/10/2022 19:12

If she's having 1 to 1 for reading, our school would have put her in for dyslexia screening.

I believe some areas don't do this in state schools though, does this apply?

Ultimately, though, we got our ds assessed as we wanted to know his strengths and weaknesses to best help him. It sounds like if this is something that you think might be useful you will have to get a private assessment. If you're also wondering about ADHD you might need Educational Psychologist which is pricey.

LIZS · 19/10/2022 19:12

Handwriting is similar to how ds' was who is dyspraxic. How is she in comparison when using a laptop or dictating?

AriettyHomily · 19/10/2022 19:15

It would definitely be worth asking the school to screen her, most of not all can do the screening in school. If it flags anything uo you'll likely have to go private to get an assessment but be warned the waiting lists are horrendous. Dts have been waiting over. Year for assessments.

Skiphopbump · 19/10/2022 19:19

As the teachers reported that your Dd is sat-dreamy it may be worth getting an Ed psych assessment which will be more in-depth than just a dyslexia report. It is very difficult to get one via school. A private one will be expensive but detailed and will note the support needed for secondary school.

Stevenage689 · 19/10/2022 19:22

The first one is a bike, I would think

Theworldsgonemad · 19/10/2022 19:23

I don't know if you can but I took my son to The Helen Arkell Dyslexia Centre in Surrey for an assessment. If it's not close to you maybe call them for some advice

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:25

Wow wasn’t expecting so many replies so quick! Thank you!
@Skiphopbump I thought this, then left parents evening feeling guilty that I could even consider her having it, the way they shut me down!
@Ginxx thats interesting, we do spelling tests and she does this a lot, I have tried loads of ways to get her to see it make sense the way it’s actually spelled but she point blank refuses to see it😣
@UniversalTruth this is the thing! I asked since she was behind (and not just in reading, it’s in every subject bar sports!) if something could be done to assess her, mentioned what I thought it could be and was told no way she hasn’t got that and due to funding it would only be done if it was really severe! I should of argued her case but I was so gobsmacked thinking well how is this NOT severe!?
@LIZS she definitely works better when on the chromebook, or when doing a vocal presentation (with the a lot ermmm what was I going to say? Oh I’ve forgotten!)

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:31

Skiphopbump · 19/10/2022 19:19

As the teachers reported that your Dd is sat-dreamy it may be worth getting an Ed psych assessment which will be more in-depth than just a dyslexia report. It is very difficult to get one via school. A private one will be expensive but detailed and will note the support needed for secondary school.

Thank you, I don’t have the first clue about any of it so greatly appreciated!

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:33

Stevenage689 · 19/10/2022 19:22

The first one is a bike, I would think

Now you’ve said it I can see it! Yes it’s definitely bike! I feel even worse now that I can’t even guess🙁

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:34

Theworldsgonemad · 19/10/2022 19:23

I don't know if you can but I took my son to The Helen Arkell Dyslexia Centre in Surrey for an assessment. If it's not close to you maybe call them for some advice

We’re in north wales, but can certainly ring and see if they know of any closer to here, thank you!

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Thurst · 19/10/2022 19:35

She needs support in reading and spelling and finds paying attention difficult. Sounds like it’s definitely worth investigating to me.
I work in schools and my DS is dyslexic. In my experience they often don’t know even the basics.

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:39

Thurst · 19/10/2022 19:35

She needs support in reading and spelling and finds paying attention difficult. Sounds like it’s definitely worth investigating to me.
I work in schools and my DS is dyslexic. In my experience they often don’t know even the basics.

Thank you, all of you for actually reassuring me I hadn’t done anything wrong yesterday, or tried to ‘label’ her. Her teachers words were “I have experience in dyslexia and nothing stands out” cue me looking at her like 🤨🤨 if anything I’m kicking myself that I didn’t argue her case more, but I think it was out of shock where I had this evidence in front of me, and a teacher stating the opposite!

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scrivette · 19/10/2022 19:40

Her spelling is like DS' and he is Dyslexic, I am surprised the school haven't picked it up.
He doesn't get the concept of spelling either.

Sometimes when I am trying to work out what he has written I find it easier to read it out load myself rather than read in my head.

tulipsunday · 19/10/2022 19:41

www.patoss-dyslexia.org

www.bdadyslexia.org.uk

Have assessor indexes I assume they cover Wales.

Junobug · 19/10/2022 19:43

Dyslexia has a genetic element so if a parent is dyslexic, there is a good chance a child will be. If you have concerns on top of this, then it's most likely.
School should screen but probably don't want to do a full test as its expensive. If you go private, expect to pay about £600. It absolutely is worth getting 'labeled ' in any neurodivergency. It will help her understand herself and know that her brain works differently, she isn't stupid and it isn't that she just needs to try harder.
Nessy have a free level 2 understanding dyslexia course at the moment which I'd highly recommend.

Craftybodger · 19/10/2022 19:43

My gut reaction is, if funds allow, to pay for a private Ed Psychologist report. Make sure you find one who can identify the issues that have been mentioned. If you can’t afford it then get a GP’s appointment and ask about referral. You could also ask for an appointment with the school SENCO and ask for guidance.

TooHotToRamble · 19/10/2022 19:48

"I was immediately shut down, told not to label her and they would of spotted if she had something like this."

This really pisses me off. A diagnosis is not a fucking label.

And primary school missed my DS's ADHD and ASC, and plenty of his peer's conditions including dyslexia (that were all later picked up in secondary) so I would take that comment with a HUGE pinch of salt.

I was fobbed off similarly for years. Don't make my mistake.

Best of luck.

Stevie6 · 19/10/2022 19:50

One of my DSs is dyslexic and nothing was done to help him until High School, Primary were not interested at all

Muddypawsandraindrops · 19/10/2022 19:52

Hi OP. Both my DD aged 15 and DS aged 11 are both dyslexic. The spelling is very similar. We paid privately at Canterbury dyslexic centre and my DD was diagnosed aged 10, DS aged 9. We have a report for each DC which has been brilliantly with secondary school and highlights the help they need.
Primary school kept saying they are fine but we knew with our DD her spelling was awful and found reading difficult so we paid to go private.
All I would say, if you have the funds available it was money worth spending. DD is thriving in school. She has full time support with DLS and doing well. My DS has part-time support. He doesn't need fulltime but needs help. They are both very sporty and involved in lots of sports at school. My DD is also very good at Art. I hope your DD gets the support she needs. The report will help the school know where your DD needs help with her learning. Good luck.

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ThreeGoldBars · 19/10/2022 19:54

Junobug · 19/10/2022 19:43

Dyslexia has a genetic element so if a parent is dyslexic, there is a good chance a child will be. If you have concerns on top of this, then it's most likely.
School should screen but probably don't want to do a full test as its expensive. If you go private, expect to pay about £600. It absolutely is worth getting 'labeled ' in any neurodivergency. It will help her understand herself and know that her brain works differently, she isn't stupid and it isn't that she just needs to try harder.
Nessy have a free level 2 understanding dyslexia course at the moment which I'd highly recommend.

Thank you for this. Luckily it is something we can afford so will spend however much is needed. God you’ve just reminded me all the nights before school/ after coming home from school consoling her crying her eyes out that she is stupid and she doesn’t understand anything and her brain doesn’t work properly😢 she’s been like that since around year 1 (so 5😔) but it has got less and less I thought due to maybe her understanding more, and me telling her she’s strong and capable and none of the negative things she thinks she is!!!

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