Playing music to baby

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My dd (first child) is 3 months. Before I had her when I was home alone I'd often have music on in the background. I've started putting some on when we're at home and after i've done it I've worried if it'll be too much for her and if it will overstimulate her. She hasn't had any screen time and I rarely watch the tv so she hasn't heard noise off that. I listened to a Motown CD the other day, an old Beyonce CD on another day and Adele's new album yesterday. I haven't had them on very loud but she has been awake when they were playing. I was just wondering if this is ok.

Also should've put, I wouldn't have put anything like heavy metal or rap on when she's there

Goodness, it’s not a problem. My kids were subjected to Verdi opera choruses a full blast from earliest infancy.

@BadGranny thank you, that's reassuring! I know it sounds silly to worry about but she hasn't heard much noise (she's not been in the supermarket or on public transport etc). I've tried to take her for walks in quiet places as well.

total non issue, even if you did want to listen to metal or rap, at a sensible volume obviously.

It's fine, my daughter was headbanging to Blood // Water by Grandson yesterday, she's 16 months, by that standard I'd say a bit of Beyonce is fine. We've regularly had all sorts of music playing since both mine were newborns, my 4 year old loves Queens bohemian rhapsody and a bit of Michael Jackson.

You might be wise to get her used to a little more noise. The world isn’t a quiet place generally, and if she grows up over-sensitive to noise, she may have difficulty in normal situations as she gets a little older.

Can I ask why not? It’s quite unusual I would have thought for a baby not to be exposed to these sorts of things at some point (I don’t have a car so mine was on PT from days old) but nothing wrong with a baby in a supermarket, cafe etc.

Does she have a health condition to be mindful of?

@Skinnermarink I'm not sure really, when she was born I got quite anxious about things being too loud for her. I don't have a car either but I've just stayed local since having her (we live in a village with a butchers, bakery, shop, chemist etc so haven't been to the supermarket etc since she was born). She's been in dhs car a few times and we took her to the swimming pool for the first time last week (it's a pool in an old hotel so we were the only ones there). As she gets older I realise she'll hear more noise with things like baby groups though. She doesn't have any health conditions.

@BadGranny I know I worry about it as she gets older. I think she just seems so small that I don't want to scare her

Everyday sounds won’t do any harm. I think limiting normal sounds like tv, music and avoiding noisy places might do though. That’s a weird way to develop and could make her over sensitive later in life. I think you need to rethink all of this pronto since you may be walking right towards the issues you’re trying to avoid here.

Christ, you’d better not have another then because they’ll likely be tearing around playing loudly with giddy screeches while baby naps… and yes, your baby would nap right through it.

You need to expose her to everyday situations. Keeping her cooped up is not healthy.

Ah OP, Im really sorry but that’s not rational. And your world must be pretty small if you only stay very local to a handful of places most of the time? Is that not a bit detrimental to your mental health? There’s absolutely no need to go out of your way not to expose her to general life and noise.

At three months she can definitely start to experience things a bit more, it’s good for her development.

She could hear all those things before she was born. She won’t be scared if you are calm.

You know the womb is really loud for them right? Its why white noise is recommended. Loud bangs might startle her, lots of background noise won’t.

Wtf? Oh yes Beyoncé has definitely traumatised your child. Definitely. Better throw this one away and have another one in an entirely silent and sterile environment

I hope you can look back and laugh at how utterly insane you are.

Taking her to Tesco won't kill her either

@YellowTreeHouse @livealatte any need for the snarky remarks? OP is a first time mum who's said she's anxious, put a sock in it.

When I think of all the places DS had been at three months!!

at a year old now he’s pretty bomb proof, doesn’t care about the hoover, hairdryer, roadworks, sirens, whatever. Surely you can see that you’re risking your DD developing some pretty nervy behaviour around noise, for no reason at all.

@TescoCustomerService at some point she needs to realise that not taking her child to the shop or not listening to music isn't normal 'first time mum anxiety' and she's been doing it for 3 months.

She needs help

@TescoCustomerService also you sound like you think it's normal for parents to be that anxious?

It's not.

I think the several previous posts from myself and others made that clear without the bitchy undertone.

Thank you all for your replies. I completely agree that I am too anxious and that my behaviour isn't good for my dd. I've struggled hugely since having her. I don't have any contact with my family or have any friends so all the little things that i'd check day to day with someone I don't really get to do. My dh tries to support and encourage me to do more with dd and we've started to venture out a little more to things like the swimming pool and we've taken her to the library a few times but I have found it hard. I think the music thing worried me because she's gone from not having any noise to having constant noise with music

It’ll be absolutely fine, lovely. You do sound anxious, so maybe looking into some support mightn’t be a bad idea. It’s tricky, being a new mum, and sometimes it can feel a bit overwhelming with a whole little person to care for.

I think the music thing worried me because she's gone from not having any noise to having constant noise with music

That’s simply not true. The womb is very, very loud.

Inside your body is SUPER loud. That's probably why DD2 can sleep through DD1 screeching and singing.

If you feel like your anxiety is preventing you living life normally, please see your GP.

My DD is 3 months old, 1st and probably only baby. We listen to rock and heavy metal most days and she loves it, she’s now started to happily coo and babble along to the music! She’ll fall asleep through it if she’s tired. I wouldn’t worry OP, music is good for babies as long as it’s not so loud it’s shaking the walls! You need to get used to taking her out and about to all sorts of places, babies are portable! It’ll do you and her a world of good.