I want to have a family, but I have worries and hesitations. Would like to hear your stories/opinions.
I think what I want the most of a child/family is to enjoy a close relationship. Nothing makes me happier than having a strong and loving relationship with someone, to love and to be loved.
However having a child doesn't guarantee a close/loving relationship at all. I have seen too many unhappy families, heard all kinds of complaints about families, witnessed all sorts of family issues.
There was a thread on MN this morning, in which many people admit they don't have a good relationship with their mothers. I had a miserable original family myself. My birth marked the darkest day in my parents life because they wanted a boy only and I let them down, purely culture bias and nothing that I could change...
The horrible original family experience depresses me very much and gives me no confidence to build and maintain a happy family of my own.