What do you call your partner…

[Patientlyw8ing]

in front of your children?

So for example your in the room with your children and calling to their dad in another room. Or just in general conversation with each other but dc are around.

dc is 10 months and I’m starting to feel like I should call him daddy in front of dc not his name but I feel silly. We both use each others first names to get each others attention. But if we were talking to dc then it’s mummy and daddy I.e. pass the ball to daddy

I call him Daddy or 'name', equally as often as each other. Our DS is nearly 9 months old. As another poster said though, he's 'daddy' to the pets aswell (wasn't sure whether to admit that but hey-ho😁) so has had the name daddy for a while, even before DS.

If you don't you run the risk of the toddler copying. My Nephew refused to call my brother Dad or Daddy and wouldn't only use his name, as that's all he heard people calling him!😅

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Dad as in 'ask Dad ...' or his name, never use pet names, that sounds cringey as an adult. Never address each other as 'Mummy' or 'Daddy'.

LT2 why would it bother you if your DC addressed by your first name ... nothing more irritating that hearing a child call out 'mummy, mummy in a whiny voice'. Particularly when there are lots of mummies around. I remember trying to help a lost child and asking what their mum's name was - the answer was 'mummy'. . She wasn't a toddler either.

Ragwort I was taught that it was rude and disrespectful to call my mum and dad by their names😕 from a very young age though, I refused to call my mum 'mummy'. I only ever used 'mum'.

I call him by his name or "babe", but if I'm referring to him to the kids it's "Daddy or "Pappa"

As others have said, I call him by his name.
When I'm talking to the kids about DH I used to call him Dad/Daddy, now they are older I say 'your Dad'. I've never called him 'daddy' when addressing him directly.

My children are 7 and 4. They sometimes go through phases of calling me or DH by our names rather than mum/dad. We answer to it and don't make a fuss and they always go back to mum & dad after a bit.

My MIL always calls her DH 'grandpa' and it sounds so weird. She never ever uses his name now, even when the children aren't there and she's talking directly to him. She will ring up DH and say things like "grandpa and I will pop round tomorrow". DH will respond "do you mean your coming round with my Dad or my grandad?" (DH's grandfather is dead!) I can't understand why my FIL doesn't correct her because it would drive me potty.

nothing more irritating that hearing a child call out 'mummy, mummy in a whiny voice'. Particularly when there are lots of mummies around.

This is a very good point. We were at a busy playground recently and I heard a child shouting "Addie, Addie", it was much more helpful than all the children shouting "mummy" - I knew straight away that was mine shouting for me!!

Daddy if I'm talking TO the kids,
But otherwise it's his name or a pet name. I think it does kids good to see that we aren't JUST mummy and daddy.

If DD around I shout Daddy then when he sees me we do the "eyebrows" at each other and snigger like the pathetic children that we are. Strangely enough it's just not as funny when he says mammy.

If she can't hear I just use pet names or his name.

Daddy when little. For me, it was Mummy /Mum.
How cringey calling your husband baby, dude, honey etc. We have pet names used occasionally on cards etc but they are private. Wouldn't go using it at home even pre ds. I use my dh's name.

How cringey calling your husband baby, dude, honey etc
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Oh god I know, demonstrating affection for your partner, utterly embarrassing.

How about dude? Occasionally he's dude 😂😂

So "Carol" in a whiny voice is better because?

It depends on the situation but usually daddy when talking about him with the kids, his name when asking him to get something, "your father" when he's done something to annoy me (light-hearted). DD often calls him his full name (first-, middle- and surname) which makes me howl.

Daddy. I always said I wouldn't because it's ridiculous and cringe-worthy. But I do.

His name when directed at him. Daddy when referring to him to DS. DS calls him his name quite often from copying me though😂he does not like it..🤷‍♀️😬

How do you have pet names if you never use them then? Do you just make one up yourself and write it in a card? That's weird.

For some reason my kids call him papa,
but I either call him daddy, his name or dickhead

It does seem odd to refer to DH as Derek normally and then write a card to my mighty snuggle buggy love your cutie-beauty bunnypie

His name if I’m calling out to him, daddy if I’m talking to the kids (or ‘ask your father’ if I’m talking to the teenager because DH hates that ). DH calls me all sorts of pet names.
I didn’t grow up in an affectionate family. My parents hated each other. My DH grew up with love and affection so ‘babe’, ‘hottie, ‘honey’ come naturally to him.

There are a lot of different ways of being affectionate and loving besides using your dh's pet name! We write it in cards and use it between ourselves at times as we've had the pet names for a while, before we married. It's just not, "Can you pick up some milk please snuggle bunny'! Each to their own though.

Generally just Papa or Papa ‘Dave’, I think I only really use his name if its just us with no children around.

I call him by his name 🤷‍♀️