Baby won't sleep in cot!!!

[tiredmumma1]

10 month old baby will only sleep on me or directly next to me! Every time I put her in her cot she wakes up instantly! Any ideas?

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Sorry this isn't what you'll want to hear, but you just have to stick with it. Put her down. When she cries give her a snuggle and try again. After a few nights she'll get it x

I tried this but couldn't bare her crying for even a minute! 🥹

I bought guard rails for my bed when this happened to me.

look up sleep stacking, my boy needed rocked to sleep until we tried sleep stacking. He was a contact napper too.I couldn't leave him to cry. It does take a bit of perseverance.

Is this a new thing ie she used to sleep in a cot and now doesn’t, or has never slept in a cot?

You either persevere with the cot or cot sleep. Bed rails are only suitable from 18 months you will need to put your mattress on the floor.

She was doing well in cot but as she was teething really bad I was sleeping her next to me 😬😬 so totally my fault

Mine (11 months) sleeps well in his cot for the most part but now and then still ends up in bed with us. Teething, illness, sometimes he just wants to. We bought a bed rail and just go with it during those times. I'd rather sleep than fight it.

Any other ideas / suggestions please x

I certainly empathise about not being able to stand even a minute of crying, but I think you do have to follow Iceicebaby123‘s advise - or you have to accept that you’re going to cosleep for a while. She’s “learned” this new way of sleeping and you’ll have to help her learn a new way of sleeping, and it’s going to be difficult for her/she may not like it, and she’s going to show a little displeasure. So, you have to think about which situation is worse.

We side carred our cot to the bed so my LO is next to me but in his own cot. Over time he even started rolling away from me and sleeps in his cot by himself

Safe cosleeping saved my sanity! Your baby doesn't need a cot.

Babies cry - it's their way of telling us they need something but also their way of telling us they want something. If I gave in to everything DS has cried about, I'd have a child that just gets used to getting his own way all the time.
He cries when he gets dressed - hates it, but it has to happen.
He cries when I change his nappy - every single bloody time - but I have to do it.
He cries when the strawberries run out - but there's a limit to what I'll give him.
He cries at bedtime because he wants to carry on playing with the toys - but it's bedtime and without his sleep he's the devils child.

I put him in the cot and everytime he cried picked him up re settled him and put him back. It was brutal on my back and lasted 3 hours the first night, but by night 3 I wasn't picking him up at all and he settled first time.

I'm not saying it's a perfect method - sometimes after a 4am wake up I don't even try and lie him in bed next to me, but it's sorted the first stretch of sleep at night.

Sleep training!

I like pick up put down but you have to be patient. Controlled crying worked quicker for us with DC2 and if it was getting too much me or DH would go out and let the other take over. Good luck!

Ohh I feel your pain on this issue , ds will absolutely not go to sleep by himself in his cot , he cries that much he makes himself sick , we now have to get him sleep downstairs and transfer him to the cot where he will sleep through, not ideal but it works .

Does he not wake up as soon as placed in cot? Xx

I bought a bedrail and Co slept. We had tried everything and nothing worked. (Baby 3 loved his cot.....so it was used in the end!!)

I it has really helped me sleep too! I'm just nervous when we try to put her in her own room! X

If you can put the cot directly next to your bed with the side off, you can put baby on his own mattress but he's still very close to you?

I have to leave him a good 10 mins after he’s dropped off , and make sure he’s snugging his favourite blanket . And the way you put them down can also cause them to wake up , when he’s having a rough night he’s straight in our bed though, hang in there and do what works for you.

Neither did mine. Ever - from the day she was born. We finally moved her straight onto a mattress on the floor. She was much happier.