I know this subject has came up before but it’s an obvious a subject of contention. Yesterday was at a local park with my daughter & grandson who is just five, pee up a tree blatantly in a spinney next to a park. Normally this wouldn’t bother me but he turned facing us and said watch don’t walk in the train! He seemed quite proud about it, I was quite shocked aswell as my eleven year old daughter who was stood there with me! Also only a five min walk to the toilets , she did say he’s always asking to go but just seemed like the easy option with the toilet so close. My older daughter also lets him pee in their back garden, something I only have let happen with my boys in emergencies the same as when we’ve been out! I know he’s young now just seems disrespectful of his surroundings/nature and I guess not teaching him well for his adult life! I felt I had to say something afterwards but my older daughter just brushed it off saying it’s something boys do! 😬
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Grandson allowed to pee in woods next to park
Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 07:33
SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2022 07:36
If let either sex have an emergency wee at that age but it's a secret wee. Even in and emergency not acceptable to be threatening people with his wee and trying to wet them.
You've said your piece tho, I'm future I'd just walk away and say "DD and I will wait over there for you" to take the drama out of it
changingroom · 05/08/2022 07:37
Sounds gross and unnecessary, he should have gone to the toilet.
In an emergency I'd allow a wee in the woods but I'd take them in myself deep enough no one could see.
Russell19 · 05/08/2022 07:39
I'm a teacher and have had several reception children wee on the playground because they've been taught its ok to wee outside. It's not ok.
itsgettingweird · 05/08/2022 07:43
Weeping in public never bothers me.
I know it seems an emotive subject with 2 very differing opinions.
However I think you go in a wooded area away from the public.
I don't see it as an issue as bodily functions are normal and if you aren't anywhere near a toilet (long hike etc) you need to drink and therefore wee.
But in this situation I don't agree it was necessary or even appropriate.
There's no denying young boys seem very proud of their penis'
But they need to know from a very young age about consent - not just for their benefit but for others too and to stop them getting them self into a situation - for example they may think a wee in a bush is innocent but someone looking on could see it as flashing.
Abhannmor · 05/08/2022 08:11
I wouldn't worry about the effects on 'nature' . Urine is perfectly natural. Tbh I'd be more worried about some predatory creep seeing him. But yes take him out of sight if possible.
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Georgeskitchen · 05/08/2022 08:31
Your massively overreacting. He's 5, not 35!!
My sons all took a wee.outside when required. So did their little friends, and all tried wee furthest or highest. None of them grew up to be flashers!!
It's natural.little.boy behaviour they grow out of it!! ( in public anyway 🤣)
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