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Grandson allowed to pee in woods next to park

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Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 07:33

I know this subject has came up before but it’s an obvious a subject of contention. Yesterday was at a local park with my daughter & grandson who is just five, pee up a tree blatantly in a spinney next to a park. Normally this wouldn’t bother me but he turned facing us and said watch don’t walk in the train! He seemed quite proud about it, I was quite shocked aswell as my eleven year old daughter who was stood there with me! Also only a five min walk to the toilets , she did say he’s always asking to go but just seemed like the easy option with the toilet so close. My older daughter also lets him pee in their back garden, something I only have let happen with my boys in emergencies the same as when we’ve been out! I know he’s young now just seems disrespectful of his surroundings/nature and I guess not teaching him well for his adult life! I felt I had to say something afterwards but my older daughter just brushed it off saying it’s something boys do! 😬

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KangarooKenny · 05/08/2022 07:35

It’s not something my sons did.
IMO it should be stopped now before he reaches the age where he could be done for exposure. He’s old enough to know the difference between right and wrong, he’s not a toddler who can’t hold it.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2022 07:36

If let either sex have an emergency wee at that age but it's a secret wee. Even in and emergency not acceptable to be threatening people with his wee and trying to wet them.

You've said your piece tho, I'm future I'd just walk away and say "DD and I will wait over there for you" to take the drama out of it

changingroom · 05/08/2022 07:37

Sounds gross and unnecessary, he should have gone to the toilet.

In an emergency I'd allow a wee in the woods but I'd take them in myself deep enough no one could see.

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Russell19 · 05/08/2022 07:39

I'm a teacher and have had several reception children wee on the playground because they've been taught its ok to wee outside. It's not ok.

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Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 07:41

SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2022 07:36

If let either sex have an emergency wee at that age but it's a secret wee. Even in and emergency not acceptable to be threatening people with his wee and trying to wet them.

You've said your piece tho, I'm future I'd just walk away and say "DD and I will wait over there for you" to take the drama out of it

Thanks this helps

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itsgettingweird · 05/08/2022 07:43

Weeping in public never bothers me.

I know it seems an emotive subject with 2 very differing opinions.

However I think you go in a wooded area away from the public.
I don't see it as an issue as bodily functions are normal and if you aren't anywhere near a toilet (long hike etc) you need to drink and therefore wee.

But in this situation I don't agree it was necessary or even appropriate.

There's no denying young boys seem very proud of their penis' Grin

But they need to know from a very young age about consent - not just for their benefit but for others too and to stop them getting them self into a situation - for example they may think a wee in a bush is innocent but someone looking on could see it as flashing.

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Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 07:43

changingroom · 05/08/2022 07:37

Sounds gross and unnecessary, he should have gone to the toilet.

In an emergency I'd allow a wee in the woods but I'd take them in myself deep enough no one could see.

Mmm, yeah same tbh! Confused

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Spanielsarepainless · 05/08/2022 07:45

Just gross.

Rollerbird · 05/08/2022 07:46

My dd lets hers have a 'nature wee' if there are no facilities but at the park, definitely go to the toilet. Also at home not allowed to wee in the garden. (although at age 3 he wanted to but it was heavily discouraged)

lunar1 · 05/08/2022 07:46

It's really odd behaviour when there was a toilet within 5 minutes. I remember it happening with a mum and her ds I'd net at play group, it didn't Occur to them to go to the toilets in the park.

Subbaxeo · 05/08/2022 07:57

Isn’t it just a phase they go through? I would not be making a big deal of it tbh. And the poster who said he’ll grow up to be a flasher is being ridiculous. All he needs is a reminder that other people don’t want to see it-trust me he’ll grow our of it.

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Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 07:57

Russell19 · 05/08/2022 07:39

I'm a teacher and have had several reception children wee on the playground because they've been taught its ok to wee outside. It's not ok.

Eww yeah I agree, it doesn't set a good example.

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Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 07:59

itsgettingweird · 05/08/2022 07:43

Weeping in public never bothers me.

I know it seems an emotive subject with 2 very differing opinions.

However I think you go in a wooded area away from the public.
I don't see it as an issue as bodily functions are normal and if you aren't anywhere near a toilet (long hike etc) you need to drink and therefore wee.

But in this situation I don't agree it was necessary or even appropriate.

There's no denying young boys seem very proud of their penis' Grin

But they need to know from a very young age about consent - not just for their benefit but for others too and to stop them getting them self into a situation - for example they may think a wee in a bush is innocent but someone looking on could see it as flashing.

Just felt embarrassed being my grandson!
Yes and fineable in adult life I didn't realise.

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35965a · 05/08/2022 08:04

If there’s a toilet nearby that’s gross. If there isn’t and it’s an emergency then it’s not ideal but I’d ensure they try and be as discreet as possible and always where anyone else is very unlikely to see.

namechanged4it · 05/08/2022 08:10

Very few people get fined for this I'm sure. I'd love to see the numbers.

How old is your grandson? Somewhere like the woods I don't care. Up against people's walls or in gardens (that aren't their own) bothers me.

Abhannmor · 05/08/2022 08:11

I wouldn't worry about the effects on 'nature' . Urine is perfectly natural. Tbh I'd be more worried about some predatory creep seeing him. But yes take him out of sight if possible.

Quia · 05/08/2022 08:15

How is it disrespectful to nature? Nature deals with animals and birds weeing and pooing on it all the time.

Hazelthecat · 05/08/2022 08:20

I agree take them somewhere more private to wee if no nearby toilets and it would be much less of an issue. Young dc have had a couple of years of public places and facilities being closed and not being welcome popping in places for a wee due to covid.

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 05/08/2022 08:22

I suppose a wild wee in the woods is more environmentally friendly than going into the loos.
He just needs teaching a bit of dignity.

LidlCinnamonBun · 05/08/2022 08:24

I have had to let my children wee outside very close to a public loo as the loo was in a very dirty condition 🤢
I did it discreetly and they know it’s an ‘emergency wee’ not a ‘do it in the playground all the time wee’

justasking111 · 05/08/2022 08:29

It's really good for the roses. 😁

Dogs pee everywhere usually in the same hot spots. Boys have tiny bladders I swear

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Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 08:30

Abhannmor · 05/08/2022 08:11

I wouldn't worry about the effects on 'nature' . Urine is perfectly natural. Tbh I'd be more worried about some predatory creep seeing him. But yes take him out of sight if possible.

It's both tbh but deffo the weirdo thing! Nature deserves to be taught respect also in my eyes, if we all went round urinating on it we wouldn't be able to enjoy it in the same way.

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Georgeskitchen · 05/08/2022 08:31

Your massively overreacting. He's 5, not 35!!
My sons all took a wee.outside when required. So did their little friends, and all tried wee furthest or highest. None of them grew up to be flashers!!
It's natural.little.boy behaviour they grow out of it!! ( in public anyway 🤣)

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Tinarose21 · 05/08/2022 08:48

Georgeskitchen · 05/08/2022 08:31

Your massively overreacting. He's 5, not 35!!
My sons all took a wee.outside when required. So did their little friends, and all tried wee furthest or highest. None of them grew up to be flashers!!
It's natural.little.boy behaviour they grow out of it!! ( in public anyway 🤣)

Not all of them do! Plus ok for boys not girls is a bad message to send out.

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 05/08/2022 08:55

It happens all the time here. If it's just a wee and you take your DS to the toilets 2 minutes away people will say "Why did you bother? Just let him per in the bush!" And every time one child does it the others all want to.

I hate it!