HV saying DD is overweight AGAIN.

[Dipsydoodlenoodle]

Been to get my 8 month old DD weighed at the Health Visitor clinic...and feeling like a complete and utter failure.

This is the 3rd or 4th time they've told me that she's overweight.

She still will not entertain BLW -
she doesn't even put any toy in her mouth (soft ones occasionally, but that's it) - she's more than happy to be fed (anything) but HV said feed an ice cube amount per meal (3 x per day) then moaned she was still having milk. A friend (same HVs) was told to keep feeding her baby food until he turned away!

It's just so frustrating that they say one thing and then another...and keep telling me DD is fat. We go to baby class with babies that have rolls on their rolls...yet we are the fat ones :(

She is 98th centile for weight and 99.5th centile for height.

I'm just having a moan as yes she's heavy...but she's also tall but they solely focus on weight and take no notice of anything else. DD was born on the 9th centile which adds to their argument - DD was measuring small so I was induced early as she wasn't growing, but again they don't take any of this into consideration, just that shes shot from the 9th centile to the 98th :( . I just feel that they don't look at the bigger picture.

Sorry, just feeling low about it and needed a rant.

Thankfully they've stopped all the HV drop in clinics here since covid due to lack of funding. So I didn't get my second baby weighed at all after 14 days until the 9 month check. She's just fine!

Where are you all that see a health visitor? I saw one at six weeks pp and that was it. Saw the nurse for jabs but no home visits at all. Would have refused them if offered.

I really support this.

My DS1 was the opposite 'under weight' and it stresses me out to the point I ended up buying some baby scales off Amazon to weight him before I went, to prepare myself for the good or bad news. Of course it created a very unhealthy obsession and I was weighing him daily.

He's a really strapping 8 year old now and eats like a horse!

I took my second child twice. Never again was I going to go through the bollox and stresses of baby weigh ins. It was a lot happier experience second time round

Ah sorry just read again and you took to clinic - just don’t go!

Stop listening to the hv. Your baby is in proportion. If you have concerns about their health, book a doctor's appt.

Neither of the hvs I've worked with knew how to read a growth chart, and were not helpful in the least.

Some Health Visitors do the profession no favours at all when they spout such bollocks.

Stop going. You are under no obligation to get these weigh-ins.

I went to a few weigh-ins with my first baby, but quickly realised that it was mostly shite, especially when one tried to tell me what a dreadful problem it was that my DD1 had not wanted to take lumpy food from a spoon until she could manage the spoon herself! I never went back after that and DD1 is now a happy and healthy 27 year old.

When DD2 and DD3 were born I hardly saw any Health Visitors and didn't miss the "service" at all.

She is not walking yet. Ignore.

That is seriously crazy.

My chubby tall babies were the same.

They are now tall streaks of nothing as they are still off the charts for height (DH and I are both tall) but only 50th percentile for weight. They were perfectly healthy chubby babies and are now perfectly healthy skinny tall kids who eat like you wouldn’t believe.

I stopped going to our health clinic for similar reasons and just relied on my GP.

My BF who is a pediatrician, said overweight baby/toddler is when their BMI is over the 95th percentile. I got told by a useless GP to wake sleeping 8 week old dd in the middle of the night and feed her formula, despite her being born below 4th centile and shooting up to the 65th as EBF baby because she was weighed twice in a week and didn’t get heavier… some healthcare professionals are useless.

I had my first DD in 2017 and rarely got her weighed after a while. They come up with all kinds of conflicting advice/opinions.

I now have a 8 week old DD and already been given the strangest of ‘advice’ yet again 🤯

Nothing changes, my HV was equally useless 40+ years ago 🙄
DD was exclusively breastfed, and according to the HV, overweight.
DS was formula fed from 7 weeks because I couldn’t keep up with his appetite, on solids at 5 months- the HV at 12 weeks said he was too tall and underweight and ‘didn’t fit the charts’! She kept on like this every time I saw her until one day I asked just what did she want me to do, put a brick on his head? He was an very hungry baby. He is a 6’4”, very healthy adult.

My third has never seen a health visitor due to Covid, their pointless! If she's healthy and happy leave your DD alone, they soon change when they start crawling and walking !
9x10 they don't even have kids and I found them very patronising !
I went to visit my friend a few weeks back who's just given birth. They was telling her that she shouldn't boob and bottle feed an she needs try harder- I did jump in to say I boob an bottle fed, mine was fine with it an she was bloody trying ! Urgh such a big knock for new mums they are

PS I love chunky baby's!! Who doesn't x

I had opposite problem. DD was born 2 weeks late so was on something like 75th centile for weight at birth but settled onto a much lower line. I got constant aggro about her being underweight because she had gone down too many lines. She is now 20, medium build and a normal healthy weight. (Dress size 10/12).

Oh and when she was in y6, I got a letter from the school nurse saying she was overt weight but shortly after that she grew about a foot and 'stretched out'.

Babies genetics just kick in. I always love the fact that boxer Tyson Fury was a premie and I think about 2 lb or less. He is now 6'6" and has won Heavy weight champion of the world. I can only imagine how he went roaring up any percentage chart and then off the chart completely when young, maybe even as a baby.

Your baby is height weight proportionate. Ignore HV.

Just don't go any more, they don't take anything else into consideration like height they just weigh them and then say 'oh they're to heavy' its ridiculous. They kept saying it about my son who was always in the 95s.. he's now nearly 8 nearly as tall as me!! and very slender. I really wouldn't worry about it, i stopped taking him after a couple of times and the next 2 have never seen one at all!

I feel so bad for other parents when I read these threads about useless HVs and the utter crap that they come out with 😭 I’ve obviously been very very lucky - mine is a complete and utter angel!!

As others have said though @Dipsydoodlenoodle , just stop taking her to the clinics! They’re not necessary if you are happy with your DD! Out of interest, what centile was your DDs height at birth? My HV said that the guidance they have is to raise concerns of weight goes up by more than 2 centiles BUT it should be done in relation to height too. So if it crosses 2 centiles but brings baby’s weight back in line with height then there would be no cause for concern.

it also completely depends on the child. My DS is now 20 months and still goes through “chubby” stages. He seems to bulk up then shoot up in height and balance back out (and outgrow all his clothes AGAIN 🙄🤣). But I remember about your DDs age thinking that he had really packed on the pounds and HVs advice was that he’d soon be walking and it would all fall off him - which was absolutely true!

Mine also took a while to drop bottles despite eating solids like an absolute horse! How much milk is she having in a typical day? Is it breast milk or formula? And what is her normal solid food intake?

That’s such an insane and damaging thing to say.. what kind of “health” professional says to stop giving an 8 month old milk?! I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that but please try and wipe it from your mind like the nonsense it is.

Telling you to control the weight of an 8 month old is ridiculous.
I have a difference experience entirely to what is often reported in the UK. I live in Germany and they watch the centile but don't inform you about it, I only know what it is because of the UK. My son has gone up and down and no one has ever said anything to me.
He was born low on the centile, and took a while to put on weight - no one worried. He then gradually put on weight steadily until 6 months then food was introduced. He loved his food and ate loads, but he didn't crawl until 11 months. In those 5 months, he became very chubby, and jumped up on the centile. Again, at his 11 month check up, nothing was said. I was told he was a healthy baby. He learned to crawl at 11 months and then walk at 14. He's now 2 and he has put on maybe half a kilo in the last year and moved back down the centile. He has run off his chub and is completely average weight.
I did query his lack of putting on weight between 1-2 years but the paediatrician just told me he was a healthy weight and not to worry but always come back if I want to discuss my concerns further.
They are more laid back here about babies' development as they are all different and they don't try to police it too young. I feel it is much more relaxed for parents.

Of course, it would be different if the kid was 5. I was an overweight child and think it's important for parents to help their kids stay a healthy weight as mine didn't but a baby is different. They change so much.

Just don't take your baby for these check-ups. Don't see the HV.

My son was 10lbs 13oz at birth. The HV and midwife said he was too fat. They told me to cut down his feeds. I fed him whatever amount he would take. At 6 weeks, I started him on stewed fruit and pureed vegetables. Once he started crawling, he began to slim down a bit. By the time he went to nursery, he was fine.

He's a tall, slim, very healthy 38 year old man now.

Just nod your head, make an "mm" sound and carry on doing what you're doing.

It's a few years ago but I was told to reduce carbs for my dd when she was 8 months old.
I literally never went back to clinic.
Dd was absolutely fine & very healthy, completely normal weight & height adult now.
Glad to hear you aren't going back, they talk absolute rubbish sometimes.

My DS was a bigger boy at that age with all his squishy rolls. Just as they should be.

One HV tried to tell me he was overweight. I argued he wasn't and it was a ridiculous thing to say.

He's 3 now and a little dink.

How can a baby be too chubby?Has the HV never seen a Reuben?

Is she formula fed? Do you pace feed?