Nans obsession with transgender

[Shellyxx]

So basically. My Nan is 86, and she’s OBSESSED with reading the paper and watching the news (I don’t do either, usually bc it’s full of shit) and she has this obsession with telling me all the horrible stuff going on in the world, all the morbid stuff and things I’ve never heard of… the pst year shes been obsessed and I mean OBSESSED with trans people, and sexual assaults. She keeps telling me about children who have been sexually assaulted and says she’s worried about My daughter.. well I’m like, she’s in my care. Why are you worrying? Then she said that schools are gonna ‘offer’ children if they wanna be girls or boys 🤨 now idm how people live their lives I literally do not care, however I won’t have someone asking my 4 year old if she wants to be a boy… so I always tell my Nan, My daughter won’t be exposed to that type of conversation at a young age. But she is OBSESSED and I mean she won’t stop talking about it. Every damn time I’m there. Even my uncle shouted at her yesterday bc he said she is getting too much with it. Anyway I keep telling her she’s worrying about nothing and she’s got an unhealthy obsession and I’m my daughters mother and just leave it to me there’s no need for her to worry.

ANYWAY. Yesterday I left My daughter with my Nan whilst I took my uncle for his new car.

This morning My daughter has woken up and started talking about girls becoming boys if they want to. I asked her who told her that and she said nanny.. I am MAD. There was no need for that conversation to go ahead. I love my Nan but I’m so mad I could literally scream. Am I over reacting? I mean she’s 4….

@TullyApplebottom , there is that point too. Maybe she's also concerned about having single sex care when she's vulnerable. And you dismissing her concerns, op, is a bit shit.
Recently a woman was raped on an female ward and it took a year for the hospital to admit she'd been raped because its records showed there were only women on the ward. Disbelieved For A Year.
This ideology is all pervasive.

Well there are about 6 or 7 ‘transkids’ in my son’s school and one older girl I know has had her breasts removed and so I think she’s just trying to warn you of the problem of social contagion.
Yes, probably OTT to talk to a four year old girl about it but perhaps she feels fearful that your daughter could get caught up in it and is overreacting.

I don't belive any of this. It's goady nonsense

Your nan has a grip on things. You need to catch up. Do your own research.

As PP's say you won't necessarily notice as your child is only 4, I didn't notice at first until I saw a few threads on here and then my children started telling me things that were happening at school.

Certain teachers pushing this ideology and children being directed to completely inappropriate disturbing websites and organisations not fit for purpose and whose 'resources' the schools use.

Nearly half of my child's friendship group were 'trans' in year 7.
When I rang the school raising my concerns with the various posters around school and material, the teacher told me they have lots of trans children.

This isn't a fringe issue it's a real issue that effects women and children.

Once you start seeing what is happening you cannot unsee it, there are so many factors to it.

I don't understand why people aren't more worried myself.

Just to note that people who are saying tell her to stop reading the daily mail you will find that many left leaning women have had to resort to working with the mail to get their stories out as other papers won't touch them.

I remember when I first came across it thinking people were overreacting, I was wrong.

These are a lot of millennial teachers. The good news is that many teens are treating this new orthodoxy like any other.

Sorry I have t read all the responses, but are you sure your man has 'gone behind your back' and spoken to your daughter, or is the conversation amongst the adults so common that your daughter has picked up on what you Nan has been saying generally? It might be your daughter's way of asking what Nan is on about?

I 100% know she's talked to my daughter about it. My daughter is quite forward and was able to tell me the conversation

Just to add. I haven't ignored or pushed away my nans concerns. When this started, I had a lengthy conversation with her, and I put my views and my side across. I explained a lot of things to her. And I explained I felt my daughter didn't need to know this yet

😂😂😂😂 how patronising. Did you teach her to suck eggs as well while you were at it?

@Rainbowshit this is an adults forum. How childish is your reply.

New here are you?

@Rainbowshit yes actually, I've been living my life instead of causing misery on the internet ;)

Aw pet. If that's made you miserable then don't venture into AIBU. 😂

I meant you must be miserable hun 😊 thanks for the advice anyway!😂

SIOB. Hun? They'll eat you alive. Best pop over to nethuns. More your level. 🤗

you put your views across - but you don’t seem to have attempted empathy with her. Think for a moment how all this seems to an elderly woman who knows that very soon she could be wholly dependent on others for basic care. I can see how it must be very frightening, to see what you always thought of as basic certainties chucked out the window.
its tough being old, in ways we can’t understand. Compassion is called for here.

What @TullyApplebottom said