Please help me figure out what on earth to do about 11mo sleep

[MintGreenLife]

I feel completely at a loss as to where to go next…

Almost 1yo DS has always been a bad sleeper. Until he was 4mo we couldn’t get him to sleep in his cot at all and he had to be held for all sleep. At 5mo he began waking every 20-60 mins and this slowly progressed to again not going in his cot.

Now almost a year old, he has stopped feeding to sleep (bf) and needs an energetic jiggle at bedtime and night wakes for 20-30 mins to get him to sleep. Again this has turned into also not being able to put him in his cot as he wakes as soon as he is put down. At best he spends an hour or two at the start of the night in his cot, after that he sleeps in his pram (still frequently waking, and being rocked back to sleep). I can’t carry on like this. My entire evening is taken up by rocking him and trying to get him to bed, and it starts all over again in the night and I’m often up 1-2hrs just trying to get him back down again, and then he wakes very early in the morning. We tried putting him down awake last night and singing and patting to soothe him to sleep, but he just cries and cries!

please can someone help me figure out what to do! How do I move on from rocking, is he under-tired, overtired, what’s going on?! This is is current routine… fyi he has all his naps in his pram and I push him up and down on the gravel outside our house.

6ish wake up
9-9.30am ish first nap (1ish hours)
2.30am ish second nap (1ish hours)
7.30-8pm bed time

please help 😭

In 15 minutes!!! Wow that's amazing! Your job is done _

At the start (he was 6 mo and teething), he cried the entire time i was out of the room and only stopped when I came back to check on him. It was brutal. They're supposed to start crying down at some point and settle to sleep, but mine never did. Eventually he just... didn't cry when I left, and because he wasn't working himself up he was able to drift off to sleep.

Honestly 15 min is the ideal and realistic amount of time to fall asleep. Just keep doing what you're doing and he'll realize soon enough that it's okay, Mummy is next door and now is time to sleep.

@Sbena today it’s been less than 5 minutes for both naps and at bed time, and less crying too. Still a little bit of crying, but doesn’t seem to stop him falling asleep…perhaps he will always cry a little as he nods off. Hopefully not though!

We found the shirt crying continued for quite a while (sorry!). Deff a couple of months.

I worked on the basis that any other method of getting her to sleep was giving hours of screaming at various points in the night, so this was the better alternative.

@Honaloulou we had similar, in that he completely stopped feeding to sleep, and rocking to sleep would take 20-30 mins with him arching his back, trying to push away and whinging, and then once finally asleep we’d put him down and he would start screaming instantly, and the whole thing would start over! I was spending a good hour or more trying to get him into his cot at bed time and at every wakeup. I really don’t see what else we could have done, even though he is crying when I put him down awake 😭