10 day old won't stop crying, help me please

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I'm really struggling today, I don't know what to do and it's making me feel awful.
My baby has been crying for four hours. I've changed her, fed her, swaddled her, sang to her, rocked her, white noise. Tried to change the environment so it's calmer. She hasn't done a poo yet today so potentially could be that maybe but she's quite gassy so don't think she's constipated.
I've taken a few minutes to post here as I needed to step away and just clear my head.
This happens every other day and I just don't know why. She was fine yesterday.
This is my first child and I feel like a bad mum already. I hate seeing her so distressed and don't know how to make it better.
Any suggestions highly appreciated. Many thanks.

You are NOT a bad mum.

do you think it could be reflux? If crying for four hours straight and trying all those other things I’d be tempted to get a GP appointment to rule it out. Have you tried Infacol, is she on breast or formula milk?

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My first thought is that it could just be hunger. Sounds very obvious but can be hard to recognise the signs when they’re so tiny. Can you try offering extra feeds?

1st thing - you are not a bad mum!! Its hard when they are this small and likely, they don't even know why they are crying!

Could it be over simulation? Or overtired? Whenever my 2 were like that I'd cycle through all those things eventually something worked. Possibly just time.

Take a deep breath, you've got this!

Ooh, try skin to skin. Do both you strip to underwear, her to nappy and try that, or a bath, or try baby in a wrap and pace?

Could be overtired?
Try taking her for a walk in the pram, will give you some headspace but may also send her to sleep!

I haven't tried infacol- she is formula fed

Seriously, the ass gas tubes. They are magic.

She is a very hungry baby but I'm worried about overfeeding her as well.

I went out with her earlier for a walk, wondering if could be a mix of overtired and overstimulatdd as well? Shes obviously tired but fighting sleep.😫

Warm bubble bath and skin to skin.

Sorry fellow mum: maybe there isn't anything wrong and it's just baby things. Being in the outside world is big and scary for little people. Don't immediately dismiss other people's suggestions, but if you really can't find anything wrong then just ride out the crying. If you're breastfeeding that should be your go-to comfort tactic.

My boy had a meltdown for absolutely no discernable reason every 3 days when he was brand new. It was like clockwork. After 5 or 6 weeks he stopped doing it quite so often, and then stopped altogether.

Good luck!

I'd always offer milk as a solution at that age if you haven't already.

Not sure you should worry too much about overfeeding at that age, better just to be led by demand and to feed until it’s clear she definitely doesn’t want any more.

Do you have a sling or wrap? I'd slip off your top so you can do skin to skin and put them in the sling and have a bounce around.
If you think she's windy you could try bicycle legs and tummy rubs? Have you thought about silent reflux?

Don’t worry about over feeding. They will stop when they’ve had enough. I struggled for 4 weeks to feed my second child via a bottle until we twigged he wanted the teat the other way around. My poor child relied on my husband coming home from work every lunch time to
feed him as I couldn’t. As soon as I turned it over he drained a whole bottle in seconds and was happy after that. I felt so silly but even the nurses didn’t twig this was the issue dedd so pure them visiting almost every day. Maybe it’s the powdered milk? My first child was on prescription prepared liquid milk until 9 months old as he couldn’t tolerate powder milk. Good luck!

My boy was breastfed so might be different but he was non stop on the boob clusterfeeding all afternoon or evening for the first could of months.
Id also go to the GP to run out reflux, allergies, tounge tie etc. Incase something I making them uncomfortable.

Good luck xxx

I would try giving more milk til she rejects it then a wrap sling like a Moby, as held upright it helps with gas and calms them down. Also infacol drops.

Does she have a dummy?

Aye, don’t worry a scrap about over feeding. My phrase at that stage was ‘if in doubt, get the bottle out’

Very young babies cry mainly because they're hungry. Try feeding her more or more frequently, and see if that helps.

How many feeds has baby had in the last 24 hours?

She has a dummy, sometimes she takes to it but when she's like this she spits it out.
She has had 4/5 feeds since 6am today.

Definitely keep upright/moving to get rid of wind too. Good advice! There is a reason babies cry. You just need to
work out what it is but it’s not easy when you are dealing with this. My son would only sleep
on his tummy. Completely against all guidelines but he wouldn’t settle otherwise. I had an angelcare monitor and he slept during the day in the lounge next to me. My health visitor opposed this until she saw what steps I’d put in place to make sure he was safe. Do what you feel is right but I would firstly make sure your child isn’t hungry/dirty/tired as babies just eat, poo and sleep.

Baby is hungry , give more milk you can't over feed at this age don't worry. She probably needs to be fed on demand and not structured intervals .

OP keep offering milk whenever you think she wants it, if you're worried about over feeding then just make sure you pace feed. Babies are only over fed when their parents encourage the baby to drink more from the bottle or hold them on their back so they are guzzling it. Pace feed responsively and you have nothing to worry about, babies know how much they need. Not formula companies.

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See the link about about how to pace feed.

Also YOU ARE NOT A BAD MUM

Hope things are better soon x