10 day old won't stop crying, help me please

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I'm really struggling today, I don't know what to do and it's making me feel awful.
My baby has been crying for four hours. I've changed her, fed her, swaddled her, sang to her, rocked her, white noise. Tried to change the environment so it's calmer. She hasn't done a poo yet today so potentially could be that maybe but she's quite gassy so don't think she's constipated.
I've taken a few minutes to post here as I needed to step away and just clear my head.
This happens every other day and I just don't know why. She was fine yesterday.
This is my first child and I feel like a bad mum already. I hate seeing her so distressed and don't know how to make it better.
Any suggestions highly appreciated. Many thanks.

It's awful when they're like that, but trust me, we've all been there and you are NOT a terrible mum.

If you've tried the usual (feed, change, burp) and nothing is working, try and break the cycle somehow. For me, this was always a bath, a walk or a drive (even if they're the last thing you feel like doing). Sometimes just the change of environment does the trick

I don’t have much to add compared to other posters but double check her fingers and toes for a hair caught around them.

i had my nephew once as a baby and he wouldn’t stop screaming, one of my hair was caught around his toe.

Although not likely if it happened 2 days previously also

I agree with the others that she’s most likely to be hungry. If you’re sure that’s not why try going outside in to the garden for a few minutes (that often helps calm them) or white noise (cooker extractor fan is a favourite here!).

if none of those things work I’d definitely speak to the gp in case it’s silent reflux.

Ah, the 3-week to 3-month screaming stage starting a little early for you. Happy memories! (Not!!)

Yes to a sling!!
Saved DD from being flung out of a window. It was the only thing that shut her up.
Is her dad around? Hand DD plus sling to him when he comes in and off they go for an hour’s walk.

Is anyone else around to give you a break during the day?

One of mine had reflux and settled greatly on ranitidine. The other child, I knew, did not tick the boxes for reflux. She was just a screamer and I honestly think it was her personality. Bored and frustrated at 10 days old. This was the baby who went in the sling. She is now 10, very bright and still very impatient.

Hang in there - it is very very tough! It does get (a lot) better but sadly maybe not for another couple of months so try to get people to help out if at all possible.

PS DH always though the screaming DD was hungry and perhaps he was right. She was breastfed but drained me within seconds, yet kept on sucking. Constantly. But would not take formula. Happy days!

You’re not terrible OP. What you’re doing is so difficult and bad days happen.

the best advice I was ever given in situations like this was change the environment - a warm bath might help (and if they have wind, the warmth might help here too) or take them outside. Taking them outside might not stop the crying but I always found that it made it less deafening and it was better for my head and therefore made everything easier to deal with!

it’ll come Op. keep on going. You can do this

Have your moment, breath. Then go back and start the cycle again. Feed, nappy, wind. Cuddle, walk around, push in the pram outside. She will stop eventually, probably through exhaustion. My 2nd was like this constantly for a very long period of time. He was a colic baby and there is nothing you can do but go through the motions.

Hey OP. I’m 5 months in with a very colic-y baby so I feel your pain. My experience in weeks 2 & 3 was that baby just would not stop eating. To give an idea here is what our feed record looked like in week 2. I was breastfeeding so I don’t know whether it might have been different if he was on formula, but I know that the constant crying was completely exhausting and had me regularly breaking down in tears myself.

you can do this, and remember it is still really early days :)

Hungry or maybe a sore tummy. Don't unde

Feed on demand,she won't take more than she needs. Make sure you wind her and skin to skin as PP suggested.

It's ok, we've all been there,it gets easier.

GP if nothing works and she continues to cry.

Nothing works, I'm going to try and take her to GP. Poor little thing :( Thanks everyone :)

Did you manage to see the GP OP?

Didn't go to the GP yet but had another visit from the midwife today. She offered some more advice and was reassuring, doesn't seem to think she needs the GP. Seems that she's just a very hungry baby and to start upping her feeds slightly and try infacol..

She hasn't been as intense with the crying since she did a massive poo yesterday. She's definitely a windy/hungry/fussy baby. She got very fussy earlier during a feed and afterwards, I changed the environment by taking her to a room that was more dim and white noise and she's now asleep. Seems to be trial and error at the moment.

It's tough but hoping I'll get there.

You will definitely get there. Tick will follow tock and this day will end as quickly as the next one starts. Soon you won’t even remember how loud her crying was. Get through this day, then the next, keep plodding on and it will get so much easier every day!

then you’ll want another because they’re too cute and you’ll forget how hard it was… looking at you ds (dc #3)

There is a you tube video that shows you what all the different baby cries mean.baby language. There is one with Oprah Winfrey .
when babies say

1. NEH sound means hungry
2. OWH Sound for they are tired
3. HEH sound means they are in discomfort 4 EAIR sound means lower gas discomfort
4. EH means they need to burp

Sounds like she’s hungry and windy. We used dr browns bottles and colief with DS2 and he was less colicky than ds1.
Feed on demand at this stage.
You’ll get there!