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When did you leave baby with other people?

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Sprat12 · 03/06/2022 09:26

Not what I would really want to be doing at this early stage, but as a household we are struggling.

Newborn is 6 weeks old today. I am isolating in the spare room with covid. DH has been dealing with DS brilliantly, though after a few days of me isolating he could do with a break to catch up on sleep as he has done all the night feeds and 24/7 care for DS.

Friend has offered to have DS for a few hours this afternoon to give DH a break. DH is reluctant, thinks DS is still too small to be away from us, which is a very sweet sentiment but I'm concerned he is going to burn himself out. Said friend has two young children and is more than competent with babies.

WWYD?

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Sprat12 · 03/06/2022 21:10

PlantMummy87 · 03/06/2022 15:38

Sorry this isn't answering the question but I really disagree with the comments about the OP overreacting by isolating when she has Covid. She is clearly feeling very poorly and hard being away from.her baby so doesn't need judgement on top of that. They've obviously decided as their family unit what is best for them and I don't see any harm in it, baby isn't being left with strangers, their other parent is caring for them!

I got Covid when my little one was 9 weeks old, unfortunately little one caught it as I was exclusively breastfeeding so wasn't able to isolate. Little one was very poorly resulting in a hospital stay, on oxygen etc. Little one was a full-term baby, no precursors to indicate would get so poorly (had previously a bad cold a 2 weeks old and had recovered well). I understand this may not be the norm maybe as most babies are fine with Covid, but some are not. It was the absolute worst week of my life so far and although we were so lucky that little one is now okay, so I can absolutely understand a family wanting to avoid this.

In regards to baby going out with your friend, it's such a personal decision to you and your partner to make. But if it would he helpful for your partner to have a break then it sounds like it would be good.

I'm really sorry to hear about your LO, that must have been a horrendous experience. I hope they are well now?

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Sprat12 · 03/06/2022 21:12

Perplexed0522 · 03/06/2022 20:57

I’m sure a few hours with your friend will be fine.

But the husband doesn’t want the baby to go to the friend as he feels the baby is too young.

That should be the end of the matter seeing as he’s the one currently looking after the baby.

Or do his feelings just get dismissed because he’s the father and not the mother?

Nope, certainly not dismissing his feelings at all. The point of this post was not to have reasons to throw at him to make him come round to my way of thinking; i 100% respect his decisions surrounding childcare and if he doesn't want DS away from him, it won't be happening.

Genuinely, I was just curious as to what others have done.

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Perplexed0522 · 03/06/2022 21:14

Sprat12 · 03/06/2022 21:12

Genuinely, I was just curious as to what others have done.

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My post wasn’t aimed at you at all OP but to others who kept inferring your baby should go to your friend’s house even though your husband wasn’t comfortable with it. Get lots of rest and I hope you feel better soon.

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Sprat12 · 03/06/2022 21:21

@Perplexed0522 thanks - I didn't read your comment fully and misinterpreted what you were getting at. I may be a little on the defensive side today!

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ZooKeeper19 · 03/06/2022 21:23

I had covid and 1yo while pregnant, then had covid with newborn and no one isolated. The baby needs you, and you are very unlikely to cause any issues caring for your newborn baby. Never heard of a mum isolating from newborn due to covid, unless so ill that in hospital. I agree, no doctor would advise this imo.

Whathefisgoingon · 03/06/2022 21:23

Mine turned two in Feb and he has never been left with anyone other than nursery, which he started last month.

shivawn · 03/06/2022 21:27

Around 14 weeks my mum started taking him for a few hours every Friday evening so we could go out for dinner and have a date night.

ParkheadParadise · 03/06/2022 21:27

I left dd with my sister overnight at 3weeks.
She also stayed with another sister for the weekend at 6weeks.
She stayed with my inlaws one night a week from 6months.
She's 6 now and loves having overnight stays with her cousins.
She's also been on holiday without us.

Blodaubabi · 03/06/2022 21:30

My eldest was 18 months left with my parents for a few hours.
FWIW my DH caught covid then I caught it off him and my new baby and toddler caught it too. They had a temperature for 24 hours then fine afterwards. But I am breastfeeding both (toddler still has breastmilk) so it’s a bit different I guess what with the antibodies being passed on in my milk.

TimeToChangeItUpNow · 03/06/2022 21:44

Op - totally get my you are isolating. Your DH sounds amazing. Definitely fine for him to grab a break (sleep) for a few hours whilst baby is looked after.

We had to leave my son as a 5 week old with my SIL (husband in hospital) and he was absolutely fine.

woody87 · 03/06/2022 21:59

Even at the height of covid the medical recommendation was not to separate newborns from their mothers so I'm sorry OP but what you are doing is really insane and misinformed.

Totally fine for your friends to take baby for a few hours if you feel comfortable with it. Some people couldn't imagine being separated from a newborn, others don't see an issue with it.

ilkleymoorbartat · 03/06/2022 22:14

Wow some of the posters on this thread.

Namechanger355 · 03/06/2022 22:29

Can people give Op a break. It’s a new illness and her little one was I. Hospital for ten days post birth

she will be out of isolation soon enough and can continue as normal

covid may have been fine for you and your family - but it impacts everyone different ffs

just stop with the preaching

PoTayToes80 · 04/06/2022 13:49

Crikey the only overreaction on here is everyone clutching their pearls at the OP and acting as though she’s going to fuck up her baby by isolating.

Her baby is with the other parent being loved, fed and cared for and will be perfectly fine. There are many reasons a baby might be separated from a parent (or even both parents) early on and this will not doom it to a lifetime of therapy. Or are we saying all babies on NICU will be screwed up? No, because that would be silly.

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Sprat12 · 04/06/2022 16:33

PoTayToes80 · 04/06/2022 13:49

Crikey the only overreaction on here is everyone clutching their pearls at the OP and acting as though she’s going to fuck up her baby by isolating.

It's bonkers isn't it, pearl clutching is a very good way to describe it.

For what it's worth, I spoke to 111 when I tested positive, they spoke to me at length about how rotten I was feeling and they recommended that I plonk myself upstairs away from the baby and husband.

Thankfully I feel a lot better today after a few days of fever, dizziness and vomiting etc. it's a bloody good job I'm relatively thick skinned as some of the comments on this thread are awful.

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pedropony76 · 04/06/2022 18:58

Some of these comments, bloody hell.

I must be the world’s worst mum because I’m sure I left DD for two nights when she was like 8 weeks. DP and I went to a nice hotel to spend some time together and to just have a break. She’s now one and stays at my mum’s house two nights a week so I can get a break.

I now have a 6 week old DS but because he’s only been home for four days as he spent all of his life in NICU, I doubt I’ll leave him for a while. If everything was perfectly fine though, he’d be with my mum in a heartbeat😂

I’d say let your friend look after DS for a few hours to let DH get some rest definitely. If I’m feeling unwell, whether Covid related or not, I stay in a different room from my daughter simply because I have no energy. There’s really nothing wrong with leaving your child to get a break or letting them spend all their time with their dad whilst you get some rest. It’s also really nice for your friend to offer too

PurBal · 04/06/2022 19:03

As someone who’s 8mo baby was hospitalised with Covid I do understand your anxiety. How you manage that is your choice. To answer your question, my mum (so someone I know incredibly well) for 3ish hours at about 5 months. I fed/changed LO so my mum shouldn’t have needed to do a thing. He slept bit and she played with him.

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