Do your babies sleep through

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Trying to prove a point to DH. We have our first baby who has never slept through in his whole 5 nearly 6 months of life. He’s currently sleeping worse than ever so I’m very tired as he only wants mummy despite daddy trying to settle him

after another bad night, DH turns to me and says “I wish he’d sleep for you” I say “he’s a baby” and then he says “don’t babies sleep through at this age?”

I don’t have any babies in my family and my friends don’t so it’s the first baby in my life but I know for a fact babies don’t all sleep through at this age! It’s the first baby in his life too but someone in his work made a comment about their babies all sleeping through by 4 months (bollocks I say) so then he asked me that question

SO - do your babies sleep through? What age are they?

(also if you have any tips regarding our baby waking up for settling hourly I will take them😩)

Yes, both DDs slept through from 3 months old. Obviously if they're ill it can be a very different story!

I'll do cartwheels if no3 is the same.

My older one started sleeping through at 7 months because we did Ferber.

I have young twins and we have done the same with one, with good results in a few days, now starting on the other.

Basically, Ferber. If I have another child (hahahahaha no) I’m naming him/her Richard.

Our child didn't reliably sleep through for YEARS.... about 8!

Sorry not what anyone wants to hear.

My three DC slept shortish nights at 2 months and 12 hours at three months.
They we’re all good at going to sleep by themselves and I never Co slept.

My DD sleeps through the night maybe once a week, she's 19 months. Started around 16 months.

Mine is 18 months and occasionally sleeps through the night. She first slept through 3 months ago.

I do have a very non sleepy kid though.

DD slept brilliantly from about 3 months. DS never slept through now 2 and a half I don't think he will sleep through until we can reason with/bribe him.

Ds first did it at 10 months but didn't do it regularly until 1.

Then at 3 he regressed and started waking at night again!

Your husband sounds very naive - realistically he has the next several years of his life with spells of disrupted sleep thrown into the mix especially if you're planning on more than one child.

Its normal for babies to wake up, of course it is.

I do think though that on here it can become a bit competitive over who has the worst sleeper.

Anecdotally out of my NCT group everyone is now MOSTLY sleeping through at 18 months. Except mine Sleep training at the moment, and it’s horrendous. I wish we’d done it sooner.

DD is 8.5 months, wakes maybe 6 times a night. Never get an evening stretch, it's exhausting but pretty sure normal albeit on the crap end! She has never slept through and good nights can not be recreated!

First baby never slept through until she was 3! In fact they never bloody slept more than 2 / 4 hours until they reached 5 😫

Second baby slept through from 9 weeks until 18 months, then decided they would only sleep in our bed (still in there now at almost 7) 😫😫

My 7 year old child has never slept through the night...from birth to now

My 5 year old has slept through from day one almost

Babies/kids are all different.

Some sleep some don't.

Mine slept through consistently from about 10 weeks and is now a pre-schooler.

Although we do go through phases of illness/regression where we end up co-sleeping and having wake ups, but these are always short-lived, never really longer than a week.

It's just a gamble! I bet the next one will be a horror to make up for it!

My only child is nearly 2 and I think she's slept through the night once, maybe twice?

I don't think mine sleep through. They are 17 and 15. They also don't wake me up so I don't care.

DS1 started sleeping through most nights at... hmmm... 3 maybe.
DS2 was closer to 6.

My dd has slept through since 8 weeks. Prior to that only woke once at 4am every night up til then. I'm aware I'm VERY lucky with her. We are also formula fed which I think plays a part.
I sometimes worry hugely about her sleeping through though and the SIDS risks.
I have three friends with babies same age who all have theirs sleeping through also (or they say they do anyway)

Babies are all different. One out of four of ours slept through from an early age. Now they’re teenagers / young adults - they’re still up overnight. Good luck!

11 month DD here and she's never slept through! We're currently going through another regression so LOTS of wake ups throughout the night!! Sending big cups of coffee to you all!

From 7 months with both!

fwiw mine was fomula fed too and was the worst sleeper out of a big friendship group of bf babies...
10 years on from the baby years of many friends and family.. there are no rules or boxes and they really are all different.. its honstly luck of the draw

My first slept through occasionally from 5 months 8-5ish, probably slept through 7-7 almost every night from about 6/7 months

BUT went through some awful regressions- one time he woke for the day at 3.30am every single day for 4 weeks!! I had to go to bed at 7pm during this time to survive it as he point blank refused to nap unless being walked in the pushchair or being driven around! He is now 4 and still wakes in the night occasionally- especially since his baby brother was born.

My second is 11 weeks and slept 11.30-5 last night and that was an absolute treat but I'm not going fall into the trap of hoping it will happen again anytime soon!

All babies are different! Try everything but don't panic- they will sleep eventually but it could be a tough few years... my top tip is routine. Same time every night, same routine and keep an eye on day naps to make sure they don't affect night routine- not sleeping too late or too long in the afternoons!

Good luck

And re your DH - threaten to LTB if he doesn't have sympathy for your tiredness or compares to others!!

They don't sleep through. You don't just be born then start sleeping through. Why would you?

Do you sleep through as an adult?

Now imaging waking up at night but instead of thinking 'oh, I need a pee and some water' you think 'omg my mum's gone, i'm all alone and afraid'

what would you do?

Absolutely- we all wake overnight, even as adults - but babies can’t deal with their own needs.

Also - they are literally growing their bodies and more importantly their brains - and need a fairly constant supply of food to do that. That’s the role of parents at this stage.

At later stages we get to tell them to make less noise overnight (when they get back in the early hours) and to stop waking us up again.

Its a joy.

Dd1 slept through from 12 months and dd 2 has just started at 18 month. Some babies will sleep through from 6 months but in my experience of mum friends it's not the norm sorry op x

DD slept through from about 9 or 10 months. I'd say she was a pretty good sleeper (because we got lucky, I don't really have any wonder tips) so at 6 months she'd probably have woken once or twice in a night, fed and gone back to sleep. They're all different though. I have friends whose children more or less slept through at 6 weeks, and ones whose 5 year olds don't reliably sleep through.

If it's a problem, and you're not getting enough sleep, six months is (I believe) when it's generally recommended that you could start doing some sleep training. But that's up to you.

My only real tip is not to jump to it as soon as baby whimpers. I'm a light sleeper, and had got into the habit at one point of just picking her up as soon as she woke me up - seemed to be better than letting her get more agitated. DH pointed out I wasn't giving her a chance to put herself back to sleep, if she'd even woken up properly at the point she made a noise. To my chagrin, he was right - about half the time she'd make a small noise and then go back to sleep (or possibly she'd never really woken up in the first place.)