Tried to have one nice night with my toddler and now I’ve ruined my life

[Yebs]

I mean a bit dramatic but I decided to let him come into my bed and watch the Paw Patrol movie on Friday as a treat, he was adorable and got so excited and snuggled up and slept all night in my arms. One of those moments you’ll look back on fondly.

Except now the fucker has slept in my bed for one night he thinks it’s his new bed, will he sleep in his bed? No. Did bed time just take 3 hours cause he’s kicking off to come in my bed? Yes. Is he asleep now? No I passed the baton to his dad who is texting me from his bedroom asking if he can just come in our bed to save the battle.

Don’t do a nice thing with a toddler if it’s a ‘once off’. Lesson learnt.

Sorry OP but that did make me chuckle. I hope he settles soon.

Hahaha we have all been there. Its the same as don't get in the bath with them rule. Don't give in or it will forever be his bed!!

Let him have your bed and you and DH squeeze into his toddler bed?

That's hilarious. I can definitely attest, with DS (8) sat in his regular spot next to me in bed, that you have ruined your life 😄

Fucking tiny terrorists ... I'm lying next to one now who is refusing to go to sleep.

SEND HELP!!

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My 8 and 10 year olds are like this.

Any one off treat suddenly becomes a rule (e.g. DS1 was struggling at school. came home one day with 3x 20/20 in his tests so as he didn't have much homework and as he had done so well I let him have 20 minutes of video games. Big mistake as he now thinks he deserves it every time he gets good marks or doesn't have much homework ).

However, when as a one off one of them does something helpful like emptying the dishwasher or hanging out the washing it doesn't become a new rule 🧐

DS1 has ADHD and gradually moved to sleeping on our floor every night when he was 7. Took 3 nights of him crying (1st night 1hr, then 20 minutes, then 5 minutes) to break that.

So good luck, your toddler will learn its not every night but you have to stay firm today

Haha! DP did something similar the other night, “Do you want an early bath then to come downstairs in your pyjamas afterwards for a bit?” I overheard this and came running in from the kitchen in slo-mo: nooooooooooooooOOOOOOoooooOOOOOOooo

Too late. She loved it, but then at going back upstairs time wanted her real bedtime bath BECAUSE THAT’S THE FUCKING ROUTINE, he said no, she kicked off, all hell broke loose, then the next night she wanted downstairs pyjama treat time again. Fucking arse!!!

This is hilarious.
I'm apparently quite terrifying when someone suggests my youngest dc can 'just once' have some juice instead of water. Because I know, I absolutely know it'll destroy it forever. He bloody loves water.

Yes, you will have to move house.

When my dd was about two we used to walk past a lovely coffee shop four times a day on the school run. One day I was just about to say 'let's go in here and have a hot chocolate and a cake' when I realised that I was going to have to walk past it a thousand more times and I wasn't going to listen to the nagging so we never ever went.

I did it once and never again 😂. Don't give in op

I heeaaarr you!! Bough DS an ice cream at least 2 weeks ago from the wretched kiosk that has sprung up in our very average play area. We still can’t go within 20 metres of a fecking slide without negotiations for ice cream. How can he have to cognitive ability to remember that but not to pee on a potty?? 😂

It’s McDonalds happy meals for mine.
Went past one on Saturday and she believed me when I said it was shut so all is not lost yet …..

I once took DD3 into a cafe for juice and crisps because I was desperate for coffee and a wee, and now every time we go to town she's talking about how we're getting juice and crisps, and I think we'll be regulars in this cafe until she's at least 20.

Ha ha this made me smile I gave my friends four year old dd squash once without realising squash had never passed her lips before. Not sure I’m forgiven yet and it’s been about six years!

I decided to treat my 2 year old to an ice cream from the ice cream van. Now he’s obsessed.
freezer is stocked but nope that’s not good enough.

Yup. Once let my toddler choose a freddo after being very patient while I did a full weekly shop round tesco. Now she thinks she gets a treat every time we’re in tesco 🤦🏼‍♀️

There was a period of about fourteen years in my life where I considered changing my middle name to NO.

As an aside, I'm just thankful that mine were all too old for Paw Patrol by at least a decade and a half.

@Yebs My toddler went to bed at 7.30pm and I’ve been in to his room no less than 20 times already 🙃😬 Tonight was on track for being the first ever Mummy’s bed sleepover but your post has caught me just in time 😅 I’ll persevere with the trips to settle him 🤣

I feel you. 2 year old was sick last week and had a day at home with dad. The next day I had to remove the daytime dummy again, after 4 weeks withou it, and 4 days later I was being shouted at at 2am 'where is my tablet? I need a tablet!'. She still tried demanding it today. So now devices are banned completely.

Did the same op and DS is 6 and still getting in our bed in the middle of the night 🙄

but he’s a good lad and he sleeps through and we’ve got a spare room with a comfy bed so whatevs

See, my theory is this is how becoming an absolute wanker parent starts.

Your child is now in your bed for the foreseeable. You could endure the endless tantrums as you tell the child it's your bed not theirs, while everyone says 'I told you so'. Or, you could style it out and pretend you always intended to become a super-turbo-attachment parent who just adores baby cuddles at 4am.

Those are your choices.

Oh dear. This is why I always try to think through every small decision with DS as once he has something once, he thinks he can have it EVERY SINGLE TIME.

He’s almost 4 and DH and I no longer have squash at meal times as we know he will want some.

For months we had to compose a song at bedtime every night before he would sleep. It had to be the same tune, but DS would dictate who the song mentioned and what they were doing. “Harry and Archie went to the beach, they had a lovely time but couldn’t find a seat” and so on. If it wasn’t to his satisfaction we couldn’t leave. Hellish!

Yep. The second we go in a supermarket mine (3 and 4) start mithering for chocolate.

Last summer when DS was 2, we went on holiday and he slept in a really soft single bed. When we got home he declared his toddler bed was 'to small and too uncomfortable' and just point blank refused to sleep in it.

1 week was spent sleeping in our bed until his new single bed and mattress arrived, complete with memory foam mattress topper, new bedding, the works. DH said I was going overboard but soon realised the new bed had to be more comfortable than ours otherwise we would never get rid of him!

He also thinks he gets a hot chocolate every time his hands are cold and a lolly every day he doesn't have a jumper on because he takes things we say very literally.