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Tried to have one nice night with my toddler and now I’ve ruined my life

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Yebs · 29/05/2022 20:54

I mean a bit dramatic but I decided to let him come into my bed and watch the Paw Patrol movie on Friday as a treat, he was adorable and got so excited and snuggled up and slept all night in my arms. One of those moments you’ll look back on fondly.

Except now the fucker has slept in my bed for one night he thinks it’s his new bed, will he sleep in his bed? No. Did bed time just take 3 hours cause he’s kicking off to come in my bed? Yes. Is he asleep now? No I passed the baton to his dad who is texting me from his bedroom asking if he can just come in our bed to save the battle.

Don’t do a nice thing with a toddler if it’s a ‘once off’. Lesson learnt.

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PartyPlan · 29/05/2022 22:56

We have also made the mistake with the TV of showing YouTube Kids. Now DS wants specific videos. He can’t describe the videos in depth, so will mutter something like the one with the apple and then go nuts when it’s the wrong apple video from the 12.6 million that are on there. Same with Netflix and Iplayer, he wants specific episodes of each programme so we need to filter through each one until we find the one he wants. We should have stuck to live TV.

Oh yes, he had a 40 minute tantrum the other day as he wanted boy girl monsters on YT kids. No more information than that. Still haven’t found it.

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Yebs · 30/05/2022 13:23

Ouchmytoe100 · 30/05/2022 06:14

Let your baby sleep in your bed! Why does it have to be just one nice night when it could be many?

Because I’m trying to make another one and I think it’s frowned upon when co-sleeping!

No he’s always been a very good sleeper and in his own bed/room all night, so he sleeps better for it, as do we and we get privacy. I couldn’t co-sleep every night.

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Theresamagicalplace · 30/05/2022 13:26

PartyPlan · 29/05/2022 22:56

We have also made the mistake with the TV of showing YouTube Kids. Now DS wants specific videos. He can’t describe the videos in depth, so will mutter something like the one with the apple and then go nuts when it’s the wrong apple video from the 12.6 million that are on there. Same with Netflix and Iplayer, he wants specific episodes of each programme so we need to filter through each one until we find the one he wants. We should have stuck to live TV.

Oh my god we've done this too and now I just get "happy happy" and bouncing up and down and need to decipher which video featuring the word happy it is! So flipping cute though but this week it ends!

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OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 30/05/2022 13:31

My 10 year old still insists on going to sleep in my bed and then being carried through to his later. He will go to sleep in his but tries very hard not to. If mine isn't made because I'm washing sheets he attempts to demand that I make my bed again before his bed time so he can go to bed and is most put out if I point out he has a perfectly good bed to go to.

roarfeckingroarr · 30/05/2022 13:39

Baby shark. Every morning the toddler wakes us up with a questioning "doo doo doo doo?" and a very cute look trying to get us to put it on.

One day I thought awww he's been so good. Let's try it on the big tv. Now phone music is not good enough and he brings us the Apple TV remote in bed 😭😭😭. This is why he doesn't watch baby tv or anything else - the infant shark ruined it for bloody everyone.

roarfeckingroarr · 30/05/2022 13:43

Daddy also has to do all night time wake ups 😁 because DS knows I'm soft and tired so he will point and lean towards the single bed in there, hoping to break me down so I breastfeed him despite being night weaned snuggle together peacefully. I did it twice when he was sick. Never again.

Nothingiseverything · 30/05/2022 13:47

😆😆😆😆 OP.

I'm finding this hilarious as I have no more toddlers.

BeeMakesTea · 30/05/2022 13:50

@PartyPlan this sounds familiar- I always did my son’s bedtime, which involved 2 books and into bed. Then we had a baby and DH started doing the 3 year olds bedtime more often. He decides that as well as the 2 books he’s also going to make up a story… Over a year later and we’re still having to make up a new story every single night 😩

margegunderson · 30/05/2022 13:59

Now, if you never really had routines with your children you wouldn't have these problems with going off-piste. Keep the buggers guessing was my rule. Always.

BugsyDrakeTableScape · 30/05/2022 14:01

After a particularly brutal impaction episode, we turned to bribery with the 3YO. Now every time she performs all I hear is "Poo means prizes Mummy"

itsgettingweird · 30/05/2022 14:06

"*Poo means prizes"
*
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

MyBottomDecides · 30/05/2022 14:06

I blame my commute. Pre-pandemic, 2 hours each way, coincided with toddler DD having a massive sleep regression. After nearly crashing through knackeredness I caved... 3 years later I've clawed it back to "We alllll go to sleep in our own beds. Everyone does. EVEN Queen Elsa goes to sleep in her own bed!" And like clockwork, in the small hours, every single night, into my bed she comes, rearranges me so that she can lie on my shoulder, kicks one leg above the duvet so it only comes up to my waist, and goes to sleep like a perfect little angel. Apparently Queen Elsa doesn't wake up in her own bed...

Good luck OP!

AliceW89 · 30/05/2022 14:07

BugsyDrakeTableScape · 30/05/2022 14:01

After a particularly brutal impaction episode, we turned to bribery with the 3YO. Now every time she performs all I hear is "Poo means prizes Mummy"

😂😂😂😂

Daffodilsdance · 30/05/2022 14:08

My ds has a packet of monster munch every time I stop at a petrol station . Sometimes I catch him looking hopefully at the fuel gage . One treat, over a year ago , has led to a life long habit !

Daffodilsdance · 30/05/2022 14:08

My ds has a packet of monster munch every time I stop at a petrol station . Sometimes I catch him looking hopefully at the fuel gage . One treat, over a year ago , has led to a life long habit !

JenniferBarkley · 30/05/2022 14:32

We have a rule in our house: Never Do Anything Fun. What the adult finds fun once the child will latch on to and you'll have to do it forever.

110APiccadilly · 30/05/2022 14:44

Apollonia1 · 29/05/2022 22:50

For mine it's the TV.

At the moment, they think it's just a black box that sits in the corner. Once they know what it does, it'll be constant whinge and whine to watch TV. So I just never turn it on!
Sometimes I think, it would be nice to watch 20 mins of TV with them, but I can't face the battles/negotiations it would create!

I agree with this so much! DD (18 months) doesn't have a clue and I plan to keep it that way as long as I can. People think I'm being a PFB mum who doesn't want her child sullied by TV - that's got nothing to do with it. I don't want to deal with the demands for more! Ditto with screens - as far as she's concerned the only thing my phone does is Facetime grandma. (She does ask for that quite often, but is happy to be told we'll do it later/ another time.)

SpeedofaSloth · 30/05/2022 14:46

BruceAndNosh · 29/05/2022 20:58

Let him have your bed and you and DH squeeze into his toddler bed?

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BundtCake · 30/05/2022 14:47

Oh my god. My baby is18 months and has never been in our bed for this very reason!

PartyPlan · 30/05/2022 15:28

Poo means prizes 😂

stuntbubbles · 30/05/2022 16:44

For an alternative take, I had DD in my bed from the word go – because she was a dickhead who wouldn’t sleep anywhere else from days old – so for her, the big treat was her own room and her own bed. Got to reverse psychology the tiny dictators.

”Poo means prizes” is glorious, though.

HeArInGhandsgirl11 · 30/05/2022 18:44

I made this mistake my little bed snatchers are 8 and 5 and still there! Good luck op

ChocolateHippo · 30/05/2022 19:30

Doesn't the acceptability of this depend on the individual child, though? My DC is going through a similar stage - "scared" to sleep alone, wants to be with us - but we don't particularly mind since he sleeps like a log and absolutely no movement. If I had a kicking starfish in my bed, I'd be less happy with the situation 😁!

We also have a spare room so whoever wakes up with DC gets to go in there and have a bed to themselves, while the sleeping parent gets woken at 6am by a small child jumping on them.

dottiedodah · 24/12/2022 13:58

SuziSecondlaw Apparently all I drank as a child was water! Didnt like Squash or coke! Still like it now .Dad was a stickler for good teeth though ,and not too many sweets either

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Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 30/05/2022 04:38

Mine has to go to sleep in "the big bed"
This is all because of that one time he was poorly for over a week and it was easier to have him in bed with us than to try and settle him in his room for hours.
At least he's still small enough to be moved back to his room... and then he comes back to ours at 4am.

We're moving house soon, so hopefully the habit will be broken with the excitement of his new bedroom.

I can confirm habit was broken... then dh did bedtime one night and he likes snuggling in our bed with ds for his bedtime story, so now it's big bed for story, then off to his room to get in his bed for sleep, so not all lost yet 🤦‍♀️

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