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Concerns about my little one

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feda · 29/05/2022 12:37

Some concerns about my 6.5 month old

My almost 7 month old daughter is a very happy smiley baby however I do have some concerns about her that I would love some input on from other experienced mums out there as I don’t have any family in the same country for support and opinions. Also want to add that I am a first time mum and have not been around babies much.

What she does:

•	Babbles (dada mama gaga etc) blows raspberries squels LOUD
•	Smiles, laughs out loud, giggles when playing or singing to her
•	Loves attention especially when playing with toys or in bouncer etc 
•	Rolls from back to tummy but hasn’t really mastered rolling back 
•	Sits unassisted since 5.5 months 
•	Doesn’t let strangers hold her and wants mum or dad 
•	seems extremely interested of her surroundings and people 
•	Loves food and always has 
•	Sleeps and naps well
•	Answer to her name 50% of the time
•	Drinks from her sippy cup by her self since 6 months and enjoys feeding herself finger foods  
•	Loves to stand up and will hold herself up for a few seconds holding onto something
•	Super alert to new voices and sounds and will turn her head and being interested of what’s going on 
•	Follows and tracks objects excellent   
•	Is interested in kids especially older kids
•	Loves swimming and bath time and splashes like crazy

My concerns:

•	doesnt  like eye contact when being close to her face or holding her and will turn her cheek which makes me extremely worried and sad but will have great eye contact from distance for example in her bouncer, in the bath or on the sofa next to me
•	Doesn’t really like laying on me or cuddles unless very very tired which makes me very sad and hurt
•	Doesn’t like looking me in the eyes while drinking bottle but will look at me in my eyes when feeding her solids at times
•	When I leave her and dad for a while to go out she doesn’t really seem super happy to see me when coming back (sometimes if in really good mood)
•	Doesn’t really reach out arms when I come to pick her up, kind of just reaches for my hands and looks at them but do get happy when I pick her up 
•	Flaps arms and hands when angry or super excited like when watching her favourite program 
•	doesn’t really copy us doing faces or sounds 
•	HATES tummy time and doesn’t seem interested in crawling at all 
•	In general don’t feel like I’m very needed
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Sbena · 29/05/2022 13:52

Sounds like normal baby things to me. If you have concerns it's best to ask your health visitor or medical professional.

My baby wouldn't entertain tummy time. Then he hit 9 months and decided he was going to learn to crawl that day. Hasn't stopped since. He also won't copy sounds or movements, but is very interested in interacting.

Mostly babies do what they do when they do it.

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 29/05/2022 13:55

She definitely sounds lovely and perfectly normal. She sounds very securely attached and know you will come back.

AugustSeptemberOctober · 29/05/2022 13:59

Both my twins were exactly as you describe. They are 2 and a half now, and I have no concerns about them at all. They have never been very affectionate though, and that still makes me sad!

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maythe4thbewithme · 29/05/2022 14:16

If you had said 16.5 months I could maybe see some of your concerns.....but she's 6.5months so in the kindest possible way I think you are waaaaay overthinking

Dragongirl10 · 29/05/2022 14:20

Sounds exactly like my dd at that age...perfectly normal as far as l can tell.

KatieKat88 · 29/05/2022 14:26

Sounds completely normal to me! Do you go to any baby groups? They can be really helpful for seeing other babies and chatting to other parents.

Minimalme · 29/05/2022 14:41

Babies are very long sighted until the age of two-ish. When you are close to her face, you will be a fuzzy blur.

She sounds spot on development-wise. However, you sound very anxious and possibly a bit depressed?

Please talk to your HV about how you feel re: baby not really liking you.

GiltEdges · 29/05/2022 15:19

Literally the only thing that sounds remotely concerning to me in your long list, is this:

"Doesn’t really like laying on me or cuddles unless very very tired which makes me very sad and hurt"

You really need to work on not treating the innocent actions of a baby as if they're a personal slight on you. Some babies just aren't very affectionate at this age.

JenniferBarkley · 29/05/2022 15:30

GiltEdges · 29/05/2022 15:19

Literally the only thing that sounds remotely concerning to me in your long list, is this:

"Doesn’t really like laying on me or cuddles unless very very tired which makes me very sad and hurt"

You really need to work on not treating the innocent actions of a baby as if they're a personal slight on you. Some babies just aren't very affectionate at this age.

Yes, absolutely, this is what stood out for me too.

Your baby sounds like a lovely, normal, happy baby.

Your reaction to some of the points is a bit more concerning - you shouldn't be depending on a baby to feel needed. Of course you are, but that's not their job. Is everything ok?

I'm just thinking of my 4 year old telling me she wished I was away with work not daddy, and that she wished she had two daddies and no mummy last weekend because I wouldn't carry her up the stairs - babies and small children will never give you emotional validation!

Themidnightpig · 29/05/2022 15:30

I wouldn't worry at all if I were you.

I have a 9 month old and from what I've observed at baby groups and from friends babies vs my own they are all so different and focus on different things at different times. Not even 7 months is easy to be crawling, my 9mo is still struggling to master it 😃she also doesn't bother with the eye contact close up, far more interesting things to be looking at from that vantage point than me!

She sounds like she is engaging and progressing at her own pace. By all means check in with your HV to settle your mind but she sounds perfect 😊

WhatsHoppening · 29/05/2022 15:32

I agree with PP her behaviour is completely normal the more concerning thing as your response. It reads as my baby isn’t as loving as I’d want and, while I completely understand as I have a very non tactile non affectionate child that I’d love an unforced cuddle from!, is normal for some babies and children. My eldest always settled better out of my arms and never ran to me for cuddles. DD2 on the other hand would climb back in my womb if she could at 3! Take her as she comes. She sounds delightful!

WeeOrcadian · 29/05/2022 15:41

OP, I say this kindly, this post seems more about you and your feelings.

Your baby sounds perfectly normal, try to not take 'being a baby' so personally.

cardboardbox24 · 29/05/2022 15:48

I agree with above posters that your response to your baby's behaviours are a bit worrying. Also, please don't worry about your baby's eye contact. Babies get easily overwhelmed and one of the only ways they have to cope with this and regulate their emotions is by looking away. Don't try and "catch their eye" as this is intrusive for them, when they are ready they will look back at you.

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:03

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 29/05/2022 13:55

She definitely sounds lovely and perfectly normal. She sounds very securely attached and know you will come back.

Thank you :) this was such a lovely response!

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:04

Sbena · 29/05/2022 13:52

Sounds like normal baby things to me. If you have concerns it's best to ask your health visitor or medical professional.

My baby wouldn't entertain tummy time. Then he hit 9 months and decided he was going to learn to crawl that day. Hasn't stopped since. He also won't copy sounds or movements, but is very interested in interacting.

Mostly babies do what they do when they do it.

Thank you for taking your time to respond to my post, this really helps!

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:06

AugustSeptemberOctober · 29/05/2022 13:59

Both my twins were exactly as you describe. They are 2 and a half now, and I have no concerns about them at all. They have never been very affectionate though, and that still makes me sad!

That's interesting.. I am a twin too and I think both me and my sister were always so attached to each other we didn't bother much with anyone else, like ever.

Thank you for your input it helps 💕

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:07

Dragongirl10 · 29/05/2022 14:20

Sounds exactly like my dd at that age...perfectly normal as far as l can tell.

Thank you 😊

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:08

KatieKat88 · 29/05/2022 14:26

Sounds completely normal to me! Do you go to any baby groups? They can be really helpful for seeing other babies and chatting to other parents.

I do go to baby swim but I might start going to play groups, good idea thanks 😊

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:13

Minimalme · 29/05/2022 14:41

Babies are very long sighted until the age of two-ish. When you are close to her face, you will be a fuzzy blur.

She sounds spot on development-wise. However, you sound very anxious and possibly a bit depressed?

Please talk to your HV about how you feel re: baby not really liking you.

Thank you for taking your time to respond to my post, appreciate it! I wouldn't consider myself depressed but an naturally slight over sensitive and anxious person, really working on this and I am fully aware, however I've never said I think my child don't like me I came on here to see if anyone else's children are anything similar and to see what's common in this age as I've got nothing to compare to.

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:15

Themidnightpig · 29/05/2022 15:30

I wouldn't worry at all if I were you.

I have a 9 month old and from what I've observed at baby groups and from friends babies vs my own they are all so different and focus on different things at different times. Not even 7 months is easy to be crawling, my 9mo is still struggling to master it 😃she also doesn't bother with the eye contact close up, far more interesting things to be looking at from that vantage point than me!

She sounds like she is engaging and progressing at her own pace. By all means check in with your HV to settle your mind but she sounds perfect 😊

Such an nice response, thank you 💕

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Minster2012 · 29/05/2022 17:15

She sounds perfect.
My first child was not "cuddly", fussed and squirmed if you tried to have him laid on your chest for instance (in the classic baby pose like skin to skin), hated tummy time, can't remember when he "reached" out to me but def not that early & he made no moves to crawling until 9 months then he went 0-100mph crawling everywhere & walked the week of his first birthday.

He's now nearly 4 this summer & perfect.

We've got a 4 week old girl now & she loves nothing more than snuggling on us. Different babies different personalities but yours sounds perfectly normal. Try to enjoy this precious time & each time your daughter does something how amazing it really is! 😊

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:17

WeeOrcadian · 29/05/2022 15:41

OP, I say this kindly, this post seems more about you and your feelings.

Your baby sounds perfectly normal, try to not take 'being a baby' so personally.

I did not mean to come across like that, however this has been very enlightening. Thank you for your honest response!

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feda · 29/05/2022 17:19

GiltEdges · 29/05/2022 15:19

Literally the only thing that sounds remotely concerning to me in your long list, is this:

"Doesn’t really like laying on me or cuddles unless very very tired which makes me very sad and hurt"

You really need to work on not treating the innocent actions of a baby as if they're a personal slight on you. Some babies just aren't very affectionate at this age.

I did not mean to come across like that, however this has been very enlightening. Thank you for your honest and harsh response, I appreciate it

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feda · 30/05/2022 07:35

Minster2012 · 29/05/2022 17:15

She sounds perfect.
My first child was not "cuddly", fussed and squirmed if you tried to have him laid on your chest for instance (in the classic baby pose like skin to skin), hated tummy time, can't remember when he "reached" out to me but def not that early & he made no moves to crawling until 9 months then he went 0-100mph crawling everywhere & walked the week of his first birthday.

He's now nearly 4 this summer & perfect.

We've got a 4 week old girl now & she loves nothing more than snuggling on us. Different babies different personalities but yours sounds perfectly normal. Try to enjoy this precious time & each time your daughter does something how amazing it really is! 😊

Thank youuu!! this is so helpful 🥰

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SomersetONeil · 30/05/2022 07:39

Your baby sounds delightfully normal, attached and secure.

With kindness, you sound very needy.