What's your thoughts kids inviting them selfs over

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Just had an akward situation for the last hour where a friend of my daughters rolled up at our door step there both only 8! I phoned the mum and she was fully aware of this.

I was always brought up that you don't invite your self to someones house and you don't invite someone round untill the parents either mums or dad or whoever is the adult speak to each other and agree its ok . They was both talking in the garden so whether shes gone to her mum and said "i said its ok im not sure"

What's your thoughts on this ???

We’d phone but sometimes my friends would call for me and we’d go out to play. Not sure what’s wrong with that. All this micro managing kids play is horrible. Fine when they are little but when they are big enough to just go and play. You’re not ‘keeping’ anyones child you could suggest to kids they go play by friends house given your injuries.

where we live is temp accommodation no kids my kids know, youngest is autistic so will not speak to other kids and my 12 year old is going through a very awkward phase so just wants to go and play football with me….or sit in the house. I’d give anything to live in the village where they go to school so they can play with friends they know in the garden etc

All this micro managing kids play is horrible.

I agree. What is wrong with a little spontaneity?

Totally normal. Your parents are very old fashioned - this was OK when I was a kid in the 60s.

Does the neighbour know you have 2 broken legs, I would have thought they would have asked if you would like your DD to go to theirs

This ^

I grew up in a big City and it was very normal to play out, and knock for neighbouring children to see if they wanted to play.

I'd love this! I'd love to be the mum with 6 or 7 kids who are not my own hanging around in my lounge and kitchen.

It is really normal where we live. The children all knock for each other. Usually to ask if they want to come and play at theirs or outside though. I love it, I like having a house full of kids. Gets them off screens and stops them moaning that they are bored.

They are 8! Surely it's actually a help to you as it entertains your child?

It's so normal I can't see how you can possibly make this be rude (other than to some mumsnetters it seems like literally everything is rude!)

Kids call for mine all the time, they call.dor their friends. They go in and out of exah others houses, gardens, play on the green...it's called being a child!! I don't know what planet you are on....

I’m that mum and it’s amazing! Like I said in a previous post my front doors always open. I just had to look back for a text I sent my oh a couple weeks ago. I was sat in watching tv with my youngest when I realised my garden was full but my 2 eldest were chilling in their rooms. Their mates are as good as gold and they know even if we’re all in they can all pile into my garden and hang out. They’re a never ending source of entertainment and I don’t know what I’d do without them.

Completely normal for a child to knock on the door and ask ' can x play today' and for yours to do the same. You always have the veto if it's not convenient. Not today, sorry or just for an hour, then you have to go home etc.
I think it's an important developmental stage to have confidence to do this and a little step towards independence.

Don't know why you would want to discourage this, at age 8 it's nice some kids still can do this. It's good for them in terms of social skills instead of replying on technology. However she is your child so you do as you see fit.