2 under 2 struggle!

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I have a 4 month old and a 22 month old I love them both dearly and seeing how much my eldest loves his little brother I’m so glad we went for the gap that we did!

But at the minute I am struggling with how demanding it is, I feel as though we aren’t getting to do much outside the house so am always needed by the both of them for different things at the same time!

Obviously the youngest still feeds and sleeps pretty regularly and he doesn’t enjoy the pram unless he’s ready for a nap and he isn’t keen on bouncers or swings etc just likes being held or lying on the ground with me talking to him!

I guess I’m just finding it hard not being able to go out and do anything fun together, I know once my youngest is crawling it will get easier to go places with the two of them! Well easier in the sense of both being able to play, rather than easier for me to do it haha!

I guess I’m looking for just anyone else who felt or feels the same way and wishes they had the courage to go out more often! A family member has the same age gap although they are older now her youngest is 1, and she invites me to toddler groups and I don’t go because I know I would spend my time holding or breastfeeding the youngest and not able to look after the eldest and worry about him stealing toys etc as this is phase he’s in!

Sorry really just a place to vent my feelings just now!

I had two under two, it’s just about survival at that stage, tough I know, but you will get through it.

@Roselilly36 thank you, it definitely is. Some days I think I’ve got this why did I find it difficult yesterday and then the next day can be hard again 😂

All I can say is keep going, then suddenly one day you think 'oh this is easier and actually quite good fun!'
Mine are 5 months and 23 months and I've only started taking both to toddler groups in the last 3 or 4 weeks. The other mums are great to help with toddler if I'm feeding/take baby if toddler needs me.
I'm not a fan of the baby stage, and I really look forward to when the youngest is 18 months+. There are already glimpses of the fun times ahead, so I'm sure it'll be worth the daily grind now! All the best.

@MoorGirl I’m the same I really enjoy this age my toddler is at, he’s so much fun and I find it easier that I can let him just follow me about. I think if I was a toddler group type of person I would go and I’m sure people would help too but for the time being anyway I’m more an outdoor park/soft play with one other toddler friend parent haha. Thank you and to you!