3 year old wants to wear PJ's or tracksuit botoms!

[Roca]

With 2 children under 4 I accept getting out of the door can be hard but it's made harder with the resistance I get from the children in terms of getting dressed!

To be short - my son age 3 loves his PJ's and resists getting dressed and repeats over, like 50 times, I want my trackies or I want my spiderman t-shirt etc etc.

So, do I....

1. say tough, you're wearing this - only to have him have a fit and repeat a further 50 times what he wants to wear

1. Take him to pre-school / town in his PJ's and see if he feels ashamed

1. Try to compromise (which is what I do) and take trackies / PJ's in his bag to change into later if he wants

1. Stay home - always!

1. Have the battle (see point 3.) knowing it will be over in a few month

1. ditto the above with my 22 month old daughter who won't wear tights and seems to decide what shoes / coat she will / won't wear

1. How do I distratct him when out and he suddendly decides he wants his super hero t-shirt and won't stop going on?!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BTW - please don't tell me not to be ruled by a 3 yr old / 22 month old - they are fab kids and they don't rule me - they are just a challenge at times!

Advice please

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I see loads of little boys wearing spiderman or batman outfits that are clearly pyjamas when I am out and about. As long as he's warm and clean, whats the problem?

Are you sure its not you thats ashamed he's wearing them, in case people think you are Mrs Slapdash? (Hope that doesn't sound harsh, not intended!)

Am sure is a comfort thing - he always wants to get changed into his PJ's when we get home - just want reassurance that, that is normal and not that I should not be insisting he stays dressed as such?

In terms of the spiderman tees etc we only have a couple and sometimes he has to learn they need washing! (how did he get to come so obsessed with the super hero thing anyway?!)

thank you

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Oh let him wear them. They're comfortable, I think it's perfectly reasonable. No reason he should feel ashamed about it either.

DS2 wore a pj like spiderman outfit for approximately 2 years, until it fell apart. He only stopped because he got so fed up of people saying 'oooh Spiderman's here'.

Probably is a comfort thing, for DS2 it definitely is because he has low-resistance to tight trousers, seams etc, but that's him.

At 3 dd would only wear 'fast trousers' which meant leggings.

Stick with the PJs/trackie bottoms. And ditch the tights if she doesn't like them - let her wear them too. Life is short. Nobody will care.

I feel it's like a balance between letting them do what they want but at times it's not appropriate so they also need to learn that too.

Realistically he needs to learn that he can't wear PJ's to school!

I wish I could wear my pyjamas all day.....

Oooh and my final thought is this - might be mad but worked for us:

If ds2 really did need to be dressed in a more normal way, then we would put proper clothes on OVER THE TOP. Avoided a lots of rows that way.

Oh he will learn that Roca, when it's time for school he will know it. DS2 has never suggested he wear his PJs to school.

Oh dear! Is there anything wrong with trackie bottoms? DS1 prefers them to jeans. It's the big tummy thing I'm sure - he refuses to button up his jeans saying it's too tight. Seems too young to be shackled by convention. Let him be!

i am with ds on this and sometimes wear my pj bottems to sainsburys (much to my kids shame) i say power to all pj wearers

my ds would only wear soft trousers for years. i gave up fighting quite quickly & just bought him lots of snuggly things. he wears jeans now, aged 6... i say don't sweat the small stuff. oh, & mine hasn't grown out of the superhero thing yet!

ds2 is like this and he's nearly 4 - will only wear soft trousers and loves soft clothes. The battle is getting him to wear 'proper' trousers for pre-school each morning - which he'll only do on the understanding that he can get changed into his joggy bottoms the minute he gets home! Not sure how we're going to get him into a school uniform from September...

Ok so we are home from pre-school and DS has got his PJ's back on - nothing new! I managed to get 'normal' clothes on him this morning (superhero tees all in the wash) by telling him how cool the skateboarding tee was!

I know it is small stuff but when there is a battle everyday to get out it becomes a bit bigger - thing is - like just now - he gets his PJ's on but then winges as he decides he wants ones with pictures on etc - it can really grind you down!

I want to be able to go to their wardrobe, grab suitable clothes and go! However much I am happy for him to wear trackies / PJ's or whatever it is still a pain in the a**se!

Ok so we are home from pre-school and DS has got his PJ's back on - nothing new! I managed to get 'normal' clothes on him this morning (superhero tees all in the wash) by telling him how cool the skateboarding tee was!

I know it is small stuff but when there is a battle everyday to get out it becomes a bit bigger - thing is - like just now - he gets his PJ's on but then winges as he decides he wants ones with pictures on etc - it can really grind you down!

I want to be able to go to their wardrobe, grab suitable clothes and go! However much I am happy for him to wear trackies / PJ's or whatever it is still a pain in the a**se!

I get changed into my trackie bottoms the moment i get home from work. I do everything in them - supermarket, going to friends' houses etc - even if I do look a scruff. I just don't like jeans and only wear them if going out somewhere vaguely civilised.

One thing that works for us is giving a choice, so pick out 2 items you're happy with and ask which he wants, that way he has a level of control.

Other than that I'd say stock up on trackie bottoms, it's not really worth the hassle.

One of the parents on the playground has a DS just like this. He has a special bag (which is actually a lunchbox!) with the Superman "S" on it as this is his fascination. In this bag he carries his SM pyjama top and wears it whenever possible - mostly under a "normal" jumper and sometimes over, but always, always in his posession.

The way I see it is - it saves arguments (I presume). It is a comfort to him, not dissimilar to the toy sheep my DS had to lug everywhere til he was nearly 5yrs (and is still obsessed about but is now able to leave "her" at home).

I'm sure he will grow out of it - could you use the bag as an idea?

Going out in pjs sounds fine to me. Or Trackies. Or use TRackies as PJs so you only have to get dressed once every 24 hours.

If any old bags look disapproving, you can always say cheerfully "Oh, path of least resistance me, it was pjs or screaming ab-dabs this morning" and then chuckle in a friendly way.

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He's 3 - let him wear trackies and spiderman t-shirts.

It is probably better than the hideous combinations (normally very very purple) that DD keeps wearing at the weekend

Flame your DD clearly has her finger on the pulse of fashion, as purple is sooo in this year

MY 3 year old DD is currently refusing to wear trousers of any kind ("I'm a girl mummy"). She has lots of lovely trousers and not many skirts, does anyone have a DD that refuses skirts and wants to swap clothes, by any remote chance? (sorry for hijack)

dd2 wears her snow white princess outfit constantly

it is trashed & too small

however she wants to wear it and you can only get away with that kind of rubbish when you are 3