Naked in front of children

[whattodu]

Hi I'm female with 2 adult dd. I've never hidden my body from them while growing up as I believe in promoting positive normal body image. But I have respected their boundaries so when they were teens and more self conscious/ embarrassed by me I was more discreet. I'm happy to say they are both very comfortable in their bodies.

I now have a six year old ds with asd, he comes into bed in a morning with us and dh and I sleep naked. Obviously we have covers. He also needs lots of support with dressing etc more than a typical 6 year old does so we tend to get dressed together with me assisting him. What age should a mother stop being naked in front of sons in your opinion?

I wouldn’t describe my own parents as uptight, but I do think that a dad strolling around naked in front of teenage daughters is not something I’d be comfortable with. Or a mum with teenage sons for that matter.

@nonono1

I wouldn’t describe my own parents as uptight, but I do think that a dad strolling around naked in front of teenage daughters is not something I’d be comfortable with. Or a mum with teenage sons for that matter.

Absolutely

Personally I wouldn't be sleeping naked if one of my DC was coming into my bed every morning.

@BourbonVanilla

I don't think it's appropriate to be naked in front of your kids regardless of their age.

Surprised with the comments in this thread, especially where dad walks naked in front of daughters 🤯

And I think it's fine..mad how different people are innit.

[quote Clarabe1]@Gowithme to be completely honest I would have rather have learned from porn than seeing my parents in the buff. The very thought traumatises me.[/quote]
Then you would have a very incorrect image of what a female body look like. I never want my son's to think a woman should look like a porn star.

I think it's different for boys and girls - I stopped allowing myself to go naked in front of my son when he was about 7 - but my husband still appears naked in front of him now he's teen.

Onset of puberty, about 11, although in Germsny we all still go into the sauna together in the nuddie but that doesn’t seem to count. It’s important the child leads the way on this kind of thing.

Ds is 6yo, and doesn't seem bothered about seeing me naked 🤷‍♀️. I mean, he came out of my vagina, and I breastfed him until he was nearly 4yo - my body is not unfamiliar to him. We cosleep (he's asleep next to me right now) and I don't wear pj's. I still supervise his bath times. He sometimes invades my bath times. He is developing some sense of modesty as up until about a year ago he'd happily parade around the house naked in front of anyone. He doesn't any more. As soon as he's not comfortable with my nakedness, he won't see it.

I share a bath still with my three year old but once he starts school I think that would be it for men… can’t you just put a nightie on it is abit odd to both be stark naked and also what if they mention it someone else like a teacher it will sound abit odd?

Me*

I grew up in a house with parents who were happy stomping around the house starkers, and I am the same in my own house.
I’m not saying they or I am or were nudists, rather I’m just not bothered about going down to the basement to get clean undies or whatever. I don’t feel the need for some sort of modesty gown or whatever. Nobody cares.
What concerns me more is when I’m taking a shower and either one of my kids or, even better, my wife comes in and takes a dump. Especially if they insist on trying to talk to me at the same time. There’s really no call for it.

I agree with others that when he tells you he's uncomfortable with it.

He is autistic. He might not be able to verbalise if/when he feels uncomfortable.

@TwiggletLover

Personally I wouldn't be sleeping naked if one of my DC was coming into my bed every morning.

The child doesn’t have to come in your bed if they don’t want to!

I think if you are cosleeping in your child’s bed, ie climbing in next to them after they are asleep, fine, put PJs on because they don’t have any say in the matter.

But if they are jumping into bed with you in the morning? They know you have no clothes on, they can knock on the door and wait for you to get dressed if it bothers them. Or that can be their cue to stop coming into your bed.