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When did you transfer your breastfed baby to their own room?

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Peaplant20 · 15/02/2022 06:20

I’ve recently transferred my 8mo to their own room in the hope they would sleep through a bit more as I wondered if DH and I were waking her getting in to bed etc. She is now too big for the next to me too.

However all that’s happened is that I’m up and down all night going into another room. If she doesn’t need I didn’t even have to get out of bed to resettle her before as I would just pop my hand on her tummy or chest and that would usually soother her back to sleep whereas now I’m up and to another room. However obviously at some point she needs to be able to sleep without me putting my hand on her.

The reason I mentioned bf in the title is that LO is still having at least 2 feeds in the night, so even at the very minimum I would be going in her room twice. In reality she is requiring many many resettles before I go to bed (which she didn’t when she was in our room, maybe one or two when DH and I got into bed and it made her stir).

I sort of regret moving her but presume it only gets harder as they get older?

So I’m just wondering what age did you move your LO?

Also to add that I won’t co-sleep and her big cot won’t fit in our room.

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labyrinthlaziness · 15/02/2022 06:27

IME it is easier done later. I moved mine at a much older age, like you I could get them to settle easily in my room and I have always felt 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it'.

I'd move out a chest of drawers or something to fit the cot in, sleep is my no.1 priority.

Carbiesdreamhouse · 15/02/2022 06:30

First baby, 8mo and then spent all night up and down and did that for 2 years and nearly died of exhaustion.

2nd baby decided that no one would die if they stayed in with us and worst case he'd just have to pretend to his uni mates at 18 that he was a bit odd with sleep. So we just co slept, I did try to start the night out in his bed so he would sleep 7-10 in his room and by then we'd be in our bed (knackered!) And he'd come in for the night. He's 2 and a half now and tends to only wake once or twice and will settle in his room but I still bring him in to ours if he isn't settling and I'm tired.

Long story short is I've been far more relaxed about it with dc2 and as a result we all got more sleep!

I'd stick a bed guard on and co sleep!

Twizbe · 15/02/2022 06:31

Moved my son at 6 months but from 4 months he'd don't the first part of the night 7-10pm in his room.

Daughter was 4 months because she just settled much better in there.

I also night weaned at 9 months so they no longer woke in the night for a feed.

Tbh I just kinda got on with the walk to the room. It was what it was. It hasn't lasted forever

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Caspianberg · 15/02/2022 06:32

Various reasons meant I moved Ds over around 12 months.
Those 8-12 months he still fed multiple times so it just didn’t seem worth it. He was in main cot squeezed at bottom of our bed from 4 months as couldn’t draw out the next to me.

From 12 months I basically stopped overnight feeding in general.

Caspianberg · 15/02/2022 06:33

Maybe a travel cot? They are usually smaller

bedheadedzombie · 15/02/2022 06:40

7 months but I moved with her. I slept on a single bed across the room from her. I moved out when she was 10 or 11 months and me going to bed was starting to disturb her sleep.

JustWonderingIfYou · 15/02/2022 06:45

I moved mine at 8/9months and night weaned at the same time. He was still feeding every 1.5hrs through the night. Night weaned in a few nights very easily- i cut feed times down by 2 mins each night. We used Lucy wolfs book to help.

Duracellbunnywannabe · 15/02/2022 06:50

The same as my ff child. Around 22 months.

konasana · 15/02/2022 06:54

We moved her to her own room at 4.5 months and started night weaning at 7 months which really helped longer sleeps - 12 hour stretches by 8 month.

PurBal · 15/02/2022 06:58

I moved DS from the Moses basket to his cot in his room at 4 weeks. We are fortunate enough to have a spare bed in his room so I slept in with him until 12 weeks. He was having 1-2 feeds per night until about 6 months. From 5 months I would take him out of his room for his feed so he’d associate his room with sleep not food. He’s now 7 months and going through some separation anxiety so he’s waking in the night again and loses it when we leave the room, he usually settles himself after 5-10 minutes.

PurBal · 15/02/2022 07:00

I should add it wasn’t plain sailing. We were cosleeping for a few weeks about 5 months pre weaning. And we sleep trained about 5.5 months (which is why I started taking him out of his room).

StopStartStop · 15/02/2022 07:03

Bizarre behaviour, putting a baby in a room away from parents.

Dd was five when she had her own bed. Years. Not months. Old enough to get up, walk about, get something to eat or drink.

Not tiny. Not helpless.

GrendelsGrandma · 15/02/2022 07:06

You either co sleep or night wean (and maybe sleep train). What you have now is the worst of both worlds.

She's got used to you being right there when she wakes, milk on tap etc. That's what she associates with sleep. You need to help her associate her cot with sleep instead, you can't be running back and forth all night.

miltonj · 15/02/2022 07:06

@StopStartStop

Bizarre behaviour, putting a baby in a room away from parents.

Dd was five when she had her own bed. Years. Not months. Old enough to get up, walk about, get something to eat or drink.

Not tiny. Not helpless.

Everyone is different and has different life styles. It's not bizarre.

ThirdElephant · 15/02/2022 07:08

Mine had their own rooms from about 8 months but they just had bedtime in there and slept in there and got resettled in there until I went to bed. After that they just came into my bed at the next wake-up.

I night-weaned at 18 months and at that point they stayed in their rooms until about 4 a.m. From age two they started staying in their rooms until get-up time.

miltonj · 15/02/2022 07:09

We moved my breastfed daughter at a year. We were definitely waking her up before that. We've night weaned her now, so I'm not up and down all night. She does still wake and my husband goes in and shushes her back to sleep without picking her up. It can be very quick or it can take a while. It doesn't work if I go in as she wants milk and cuddles. But we're getting there. I think don't move her if you're not ready to stop feeding at night time cos then you'll have the worst of both worlds. Or maybe just get a big comfy chair and lovely blankets to make it a nicer experience!

AliceW89 · 15/02/2022 08:19

15 months, when night weaned and reliably sleeping through. I think if your DC wakes sporadically and can be settled without a feed, moving them into their own room may help, but otherwise you just create yourself more work. Have you space to put her cot in your room? We could just about squeeze it in!

Thegirlhasnamechanged · 15/02/2022 08:22

DD was almost 2 when she went into her own room ahead of the arrival of DS. DS just turned 1 and won’t be off in his own room until he can sleep through (and stops needing to get in our bed during the night, every night 🤦🏻‍♀️)

JaffaCakeGal · 15/02/2022 08:28

He's 16 months, still BF but has a bottle if needed but will only do until midnight in his room, then it's in with one of us. Otherwise I end up sat on his floor for an hour or more and I need my sleep too much to do that!

FTMbg · 15/02/2022 08:35

I had some helpful advice from FATEdestiny on this thread: When to move good sleeper to own room www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/4340892-when-to-move-good-sleeper-to-own-room

She's still in a small cot squeezed into our room at nearly 12 months, with the disruption of 10m sleep regression and then nursery bugs and reverse cycling I wouldn't have wanted to be in and out of another room in the night. We'll move her when all that has settled down.

Qwill · 15/02/2022 08:36

Six months and night weaned. We all slept so much better.

becca3210 · 15/02/2022 09:13

6.5 months we moved him in and did gentle sleep training. Normally went in twice during the night but I didn't mind that compared to the hour/two hour wake ups when I had him in with me

Skyla01 · 15/02/2022 09:18

11 months. She had finally started to sleep a bit better so we went for it. She still has one or two feeds a night but I don't mind feeding her in a different room. She usually wakes early approx 430/5 and I bring her in to bed with me at that point.

AegonT · 15/02/2022 09:23

6 months with both but ended up co-sleeping after first wake-up. My first was sleeping through in her own room at 11 months. My second is 9 months and stayed in her room till 1:30am last night so I'm very much hoping she'll also be out of my bed by her first birthday.

Justcashnosweets · 15/02/2022 09:55

When she turned 8 🤣 and even then she still gets in our bed. Seriously though, babies shouldn't really be on their own at night. I don't know why we buy into this belief that babies should be able to sleep alone and self soothe at 6 months. I think its cruel tbh.

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