When did you transfer your breastfed baby to their own room?

[Peaplant20]

I’ve recently transferred my 8mo to their own room in the hope they would sleep through a bit more as I wondered if DH and I were waking her getting in to bed etc. She is now too big for the next to me too.

However all that’s happened is that I’m up and down all night going into another room. If she doesn’t need I didn’t even have to get out of bed to resettle her before as I would just pop my hand on her tummy or chest and that would usually soother her back to sleep whereas now I’m up and to another room. However obviously at some point she needs to be able to sleep without me putting my hand on her.

The reason I mentioned bf in the title is that LO is still having at least 2 feeds in the night, so even at the very minimum I would be going in her room twice. In reality she is requiring many many resettles before I go to bed (which she didn’t when she was in our room, maybe one or two when DH and I got into bed and it made her stir).

I sort of regret moving her but presume it only gets harder as they get older?

So I’m just wondering what age did you move your LO?

Also to add that I won’t co-sleep and her big cot won’t fit in our room.

2yo for my first one, 12 months for my second.

No, it did not magically stop the night waking and I found the same as you :o

I used to bring him into our bed from about midnight to save multiple trips.

@StopStartStop

Bizarre behaviour, putting a baby in a room away from parents.

Dd was five when she had her own bed. Years. Not months. Old enough to get up, walk about, get something to eat or drink.

Not tiny. Not helpless.

Nice bit of judgement there.

IME it is easier when they are older, not harder. You can't get a baby excited about their own room because they don't understand or care, the only thing they really have a preference about is being close to you. Whereas a toddler can really like the idea of their own bed, character/theme bedding, place to put their artwork up on the walls, space for their toys etc.

I must have had a alien baby as mine certainly didn’t sleep better in our room. They hated cosleeping too. First night in their own room they slept for 12 hours straight and have done ever since.

I’m still working on it bf DC3 is 2 and a half
She starts off the night in her own bed, but migrates into mine anywhere from 10pm onwards.

We bedshared until 24 months. Then she bedshared with DH for 6 weeks. Then into a cotbed in a room with her sister. She went into her own room aged 6 years.

@StopStartStop

Bizarre behaviour, putting a baby in a room away from parents.

Dd was five when she had her own bed. Years. Not months. Old enough to get up, walk about, get something to eat or drink.

Not tiny. Not helpless.

Five? Heavens. Mine were about two or three when they were able to walk about, get themselves a drink etc.

But to answer your question OP. I have 4 children. The first two were about 8 months, but my third was two years old and my current baby (13 months) will probably stay until he's about the same age too. For the reasons you've described! My first two slept through the night, so were fine in their own room, but my others stayed/will stay until they stop feeding back to sleep at night too.

None of mine were under 4 and our 6 year old still wakes up at around 2am and gets into bed with us (not still BF!). Our other boy was 8

Long after she was weaned, dd2 was 6 before she spent all night in her bed

Day one - my children never slept in our room. In fact (hold on to your pearls people) they actually slept on a different floor! I used a baby monitor so I could hear them breathe pretty much.
I bf both but by 8 months they had long been sleeping through the night. I had a routine from the off and while it took a few weeks to come right it did with both, even though my second had reflux and took much longer initially to settle. I never let them cry, but I was pretty strict on the routine and can only remember a handful of times when I had a really bad nights sleep.
I think you need to figure out how to drop those middle of the night feeds.