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me and dd 6months had a nice snuggle in bed this am, but why do i feel gulity?

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 10:31

took her out of mb and brought her into the bed with me when dh went to work, dd was still asleep this was about 8am and we had a lovely li in till about 930.
i woke her about 830,so we where both awake just not up
for some reason i feel very guilty as if i should get her up at 8am and start the day
dd is the only one so theres no other children to think about

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goingfor3 · 31/12/2007 10:33

That's the joy of being at home, not having other children and having nowhere to rush too. Enjoy it while you can!

reikizen · 31/12/2007 10:34

What? are you insane? Why did you wake her? Why on earth would you feel guilty? I dream of lying in bed past 6.30am! Believe me, there will be times when this morning feels like a gift from the heavens - enjoy every minute of baby snuggling love you can.

dooley1 · 31/12/2007 10:34

aw, it sounds lovely, no way would I have woken her

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08aGreatYearForCarmenere · 31/12/2007 10:37

Guilt is a totally useless emotion, particularly in this case.

colditz · 31/12/2007 10:37

get a grip, you insaniac, why should she have to get up when she doesn't have to? What on Earth did you feel guilty about?

LIZS · 31/12/2007 10:38

When ds was little we'd regularly still be in bed at 9.30/10. He'd wake for a feed and we'd doze off again. I remember a neighbour who had a dd2 same age as ds and a dd1 of about 3 called by once at 10, having already dropped her elder one at playgroup and done the shopping ... I was just up Enjoy it , you won't be able to do this forever.

Twiglett · 31/12/2007 10:39

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Hulababy · 31/12/2007 10:41

Don't feel guilty, enjoy it!

The other morning 5yo DD slept in until 10am (she'd had a late night), so me and DH had a lie in too. Was lovely. Sometimes when I am home and DD i on school holiday, but DH is at wrk, me and DD have a snuggle in my bed, dozing and reading togther until past 9am. It's lovely

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 10:42

i worry that she should be up, but i don't know why i think this
i certainly don't know why o fel guilty

dd was having a lovely time snuggling up and so was i .
i always cuddle her virtually allday and bf on demand and don't feel guilty doing that and of course why should i
but its just the getting up thing
for some reason its been ingrained in me that dd should be up by say 8am at the latest
[maybe it comes from my mum and dad,who don't believe in lie in-think its a waste of time ]

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IndigoMoon · 31/12/2007 10:42

enjoy it!!!!!!!!!!!!

when you have such things as the evil school run and you have to get the baby up to brave the weather you will miss it!

mylovelymonster · 31/12/2007 10:45

I know what you mean - we've all been getting up later and later this holiday, and we can't resist having dd (nearly 1!) in bed with us playing. There's always that voice saying "must keep to baby's routine......must get her up at 7, breakfast at 7:30..."..............which is silly and I ignore it and enjoy us all being silly and cuddly. It's those bloody books fault.
Relax!

Pannacotta · 31/12/2007 10:46

Madness, I dream of the days when I could (and did) do this with DS1. Now with DS2 its impossible.
Dont feel guilty, guilt is a total waste of time and energy, enjoy the time with your baby in bed and get up when you please!

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 10:54

i know your right,im mad aren't i ?, its crazy to feel gulity, but i do. ill prob look back on this time whn like you say im on the school run etc and wish i had more lie ins

well while we are having a little confession
i have been getting dd almost every morning either at 7am if i need the car [me and dh car share]
or at 8am if i don't want the car

so almost everyday i wake dd up, what would you do? let dd sleep until she wakes up naturally ?

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colditz · 31/12/2007 11:00

Of course let her sleep until she wakes naturally. If she needed to be awake, she would wake up. Sounds like you need to unclench a little bit. Don't wake her up unless you need her to wake up.

Pannacotta · 31/12/2007 11:02

Def let her sleep till she wakes up naturally, much nicer for her and more rest for you too.
My 7 month old is always awake by 6 but I would love him to sleep for longer and I would never dream of waking him!
I don't think babies CAN oversleep, leave that to teenagers!

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 11:04

yes there is no need for me to wake her at all

i really don't know why im like this with the getting up thing,as we have routine in the day whatsoever

mmm isnt there a saying never wake a sleeping baby,what do you think to this saying

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 11:05

no routine in the day whatsoever

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lilmissmummy · 31/12/2007 11:05

No dont wake her enjoy the lie in! DD is 3 and DS is 7 and if I lie in til 7 then I am honoured!!!! And to have baby snuggles too! Makes me all broody again!

i am so jealous!

Anna8888 · 31/12/2007 11:06

Babies should always, always be left until they wake naturally. Any routine that babies are in should suit their natural rhythms and have grown out of their own personal, natural sleep/wake patterns.

Waking a baby up at 7 am, or 8 am, is madness. Please, please let your baby sleep.

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 11:08

but my baby is not in a routine so this make it all the more crazier doesn't it

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Anna8888 · 31/12/2007 11:13

Yes, it's crazy . It's so lovely lying in in the morning - enjoy it, for the two of you.

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 11:21

mmm think its time make this my newyears resoloution no more waking dd unless say i need to for the getting the car
and enjoy snuggling with her, and to not feel guilty.

the only thing i worry about is her nappy what if dd has had it on longer than 12 hours she might get really sore.

i have read/scanned a few baby books and sears was the one that felt the most right to, although maybe a snippet of others have sneaked into my head making me think i should be up at 8am at the latest

but you are right, i well we really, should just enjoy it

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Anna8888 · 31/12/2007 11:23

If you are using best quality disposable nappies like Pampers or Huggies and she hasn't done a poo she won't get sore.

Pannacotta · 31/12/2007 11:24

If you are worried about her nappy, which I do understand, then put loads of barrier cream on her before her night nappy. I do this with DS2 and he never gets sore/nappy rash. I use a lovely, soft rich one by Neals Yard, Baby Balm.

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robinredbreast · 31/12/2007 11:28

thanks yes i use pampers and bepanthan

its going to be much nicer for dd to wake up naturally isn't it

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