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Anyone who co-sleeps with their kids?

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Whiteminnowfish · 30/01/2022 19:34

Dd7 sleeps with dw in double bed for reasons I won't go into on here as it would be outing.
No more issues at bed time now.
I sleep in daughters bedroom.

Hoping when she is older (about 10) she will want her own room.

My manager used to do the same. He slept in his sons room with son and his dd slept with his dw.

Any other families to this?

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powershowerforanhour · 30/01/2022 20:44

Yes it's musical beds in our house. I never know what combination I'm going to wake up with. DDs are 5 and 2. Think the 5 year old has slept a whole night in her own bed once.

samsalmon · 30/01/2022 20:44

Just do what works for you all as a family. It’s a culture specific thing to have kids and parents separated, in many places in the world and in my family when I was young, sleeping arrangements were quite communal and often fluid in a multi-generational house. In our house now, my teen daughter always sleeps in her own room, everyone else can change from time to time, no big deal. As long as everyone gets enough sleep.

BiscuitLover3678 · 30/01/2022 20:46

@Whiteminnowfish

Dd7 sleeps with dw in double bed for reasons I won't go into on here as it would be outing. No more issues at bed time now. I sleep in daughters bedroom.

Hoping when she is older (about 10) she will want her own room.

My manager used to do the same. He slept in his sons room with son and his dd slept with his dw.

Any other families to this?

Mine is still a toddler but yes. I actually coslept quite late myself.

I find the more you talk about it the more pretty much everyone you know does it.

It used to really upset me and I’d feel awful about it and like a failure, but then I realised it was just the people I was speaking to. Now it’s been normalised for me I’m actually perfectly happy. We have an arrangement where we do get some time by ourselves. A bit of bed hopping goes on.

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Socialcarenope · 30/01/2022 20:48

My best friend coslept with her parents until she was 12. She's a highly successful, very well adjusted and resilient adult.

UpsyDaisysarmpit · 30/01/2022 20:49

My kids are 12 and nearly 15 now. At one point I co slept with them both at either side of me, DH on the sofa a lot due to his back. Son would get into his own bed with help ,(was a very heavy sleeper) but DD was a light sleeper so stayed in my bed until she was about 3, then used to go in her own bed but was very light sleeper and I had to sit on the floor outside her room until she was asleep. I preferred the earlier times, definitely and we all got to sleep well. Since age 5 she started to go in her own bed and not fuss. It doesn't last forever. My older one has lots of troubles sleeping still but mostly manages this himself. Never regret co sleeping as it is so so common even though people might not advertise it openly.

AntiHop · 30/01/2022 20:55

We only have room for an ordinary double in our house too. Dd7 hates sleeping alone. Currently, dh is in dd7's room (she has a double) and I'm in the other room with baby dd.

fullofpips · 30/01/2022 20:56

We cosleep in a double with my 15 month old (and have done since she was 4 months) we have a cot attached to the side for more room but I love having our family all in one bed

Spreadingtheword · 30/01/2022 21:00

My DD sleeps between me and DP, it’s roulette of who she decides to scooch over, kick and roll on.

Frlrlrubert · 30/01/2022 21:06

We go through stages. DD is 5 and we co-slept properly until she was about 3. Now she has periods where she's happy to sleep alone (though this often takes me sitting in her room until she falls asleep), but occasionally goes through patches of not wanting to sleep alone.

We're lucky enough to have a spare room, so if she climbs in in the night I go there, or if she's having a rough patch me and her sleep in there.

If there's a vacant space (like if DH is away, or recently when I had an operation and recovered in the spare room) she'll sleep with one of us.

Anything for sleep!

HacketteofHacks · 30/01/2022 21:11

My 8 year old (youngest) DD still sleeps with me. My DH snores so he sleeps in our bed. Both my DDs have double beds.
Which is an absolute godsend.
We also have an annexe and I sneak down there sometimes and sleep in that room.

narcdad · 30/01/2022 21:12

Yep! I sleep with my 6yo and my husband in a single bed full of pink girly stuff, hoping it will end soon 🤪

Thatsplentyjack · 30/01/2022 21:16

My mum shared a room with me until I was 6 and my baby brother was born, then she went into his room with him. We didn't co sleep. We had our own single beds.

Borris · 30/01/2022 21:16

My 11 yo dd does. Hoping an upcoming house move into an exciting new bedroom may stop it but as a single parent it's not a big issue.

WhateverHappenedToFayWray · 30/01/2022 21:18

My DD7 co sleeps with me, she's Autistic and has done since she was a toddler. She has her own room but refuses to sleep in there.

ldontWanna · 30/01/2022 21:37

OH is working away atm so DD sleeps in my bed 5/6 nights a week.

When he didn't she'd sleep at least one night at the weekend with me.

OH doesn't mind and he even suggests it sometimes as he gets the sofa bed and telly all to himself and just dozes off once comfortable.

RedRobyn2021 · 30/01/2022 21:41

Mine is only 11mo but we all sleep in the same bed and have done since my daughter was 5mo.

I'm on a Facebook page called Co-Sleepers U.K. and you most certainly aren't alone OP

stuntbubbles · 31/01/2022 03:43

The super king makes no difference in our household; DD will just roll and flail till she finds me, snuggles me, and sleep crawls on top of me. Some nights end up with her fully starfished on my side of the bed while I shiver in a ball at the end like the family dog

ExhaustedMumma · 31/01/2022 04:04

Our DD (almost 4) comes in during the night and hops in with us. I quite like it. DS is four months and in the next to me crib. If he wants to co-sleep then we will have to rethink our arrangements as the bed is a bit crowded. I have several friends who are absolutely of the opinion that parents bed is off limits and several others who play musical beds are home every night!

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