Anyone who co-sleeps with their kids?

[Whiteminnowfish]

Dd7 sleeps with dw in double bed for reasons I won't go into on here as it would be outing.
No more issues at bed time now.
I sleep in daughters bedroom.

Hoping when she is older (about 10) she will want her own room.

My manager used to do the same. He slept in his sons room with son and his dd slept with his dw.

Any other families to this?

Yep we do dd5 sleeps in the double bed with me, dd9 months sleeps in cot then bed with me
DH sleeps in other room with the dog!!!
Sometimes I feel like we are the only ones but after reading this i know we are not now!! To be honest my hubby snores so loudly so actually I think I get better sleep with the children! Happier marriage I think!!

Our baby sleeps with us.
Sometimes DH and then sometimes just me - we take turns to sleep in the spare room.
But I dislike to be away from the baby. The baby doesn’t mind, particularly- I just NEED baby beside me lol.
Baby had bed right next to out King, so often starts in own bed, then 5am in ours
I also nap with baby in my bed in the daytime and I love it
We are constantly being told we should be separating them from us, but why?
DH goes between wanting a bit of “normality” and then also being horrified at the thought of Baby sleeping away from us! So he’s no help lol
IMO ,and not judging , I feel they are too little and why would they care to be separated when they are most vulnerable?
I would hope to move Baby into own room soon, but I’ll be quite happy having a little cuddle when DH is away out for the night etc. I think at 7, a little weekend movie in bed on a Friday , is fine but just do whatever keeps you sane!

Plus baby is smaller and cuddlier than DH and snores less

Once or twice a week I sleep in DS2’s room. He’s 9 and has a double bed. He likes having company at night, and snuggling into a warm body.

Often the nights I’m not in there he’ll creep into the middle of our super king size bed.

DD8 sleeps in my bed, in a single parent though so it's not relegating anyone else. Ddog sleeps with us too

I used to co sleep with dd. It started out of desperation because she just wouldn't sleep in her cot, but then it just seemed to suit us. I used to feel so lonely and desperate at night as a child when I frequently couldn't sleep, and I didn't want that for dd. DH slept in the spare room.

DD eventually moved into her own room of her own accord. It was a gradual process and we didn't push it at all. She always had her own bed but it was her choice when to sleep in it. In the beginning, she would come and go quite a lot, doing some nights in her room and others in mine. I think she had completely shifted to her own room by around 9ish and stayed there ever since.

DH still sleeps in the spare room though. Both of us got used to having our own beds and we like it better this way. It hasn't affected our relationship negatively in the slightest!

It is a quite common sleeping arrangement, yes. Both my siblings do it with their children and I have some friends that do too. I did it when DD was age 1-3, then did ‘gradual retreat’ and trained her to sleep alone (she was devastated and there was much sobbing).

She slept alone, mostly fine, until age 7 when random night terrors began (common at this age) and now I’m back in her room for the last year 🤦‍♀️ The current compromise is me in her room but not her actual bed, so when she wakes in a panic she can see and hear that I’m there across the room in the other bed. This helps her get back to sleep.

I feel ridiculous but if I leave her alone she wakes wailing in the night and cris endlessly until someone comes, is like a newborn in some ways!! She does not ‘cry it out’ she does not stop, ever, unless comforted.

Some kids are crap at sleep. Trust me I tried EVERYTHING.

Glad we're not the only ones that Co-sleep with their kids. Though out family was the only family who did this.

Fwiw my dd doesn't have any issues at bedtime and CAN sleep in her own bed happily. She does at her dads. She slept in mine one night as I'd sorted loads of clothes and piled them on her bed then got distracted and they weren't put away by bed time so she slept in mine, the next day we were out all day so it wasn't out away then either and she's just never gone back in her own bed (apart from Xmas eve incase Santa doesn't come in adults rooms)

DH sleeps in the same bed as DD6 - double bed. I sleep in a kingsize bed with DS1. We manage, it’s not what I would have chosen, and I would love to share with DH. But it means we all get an okayish amount of sleep, so will carry on for now!

Our dd ended up in with us until about 3.5. She's 4.5 now and has a double bed so if she wakes in the night I just go in there so everyone's comfy. Heating broken at the moment though so she's in with us tonight so we can all keep warm!

For us everyone was happy as long as everyone slept. Don't care where.

We have also just purchased a super king as our 7yo is often in with us.
Our older daughter is prone to bed hopping too. We don’t mind too much as long as we all get some sleep.

Oh and h sometimes goes and sleeps in the spare bed on his own leaving me on my own while dd is also in her own bed! Just sometimes we're all more comfortable like that.

Bedroom is only big enough for a double

If dd has the bigger room then swap, she's not using it anyway, or put your furniture in her room. Unless it's box rooms it will fit a bigger bed with nothing else

@Whiteminnowfish

Glad we're not the only ones that Co-sleep with their kids. Though out family was the only family who did this.

Co-sleeping is very common, I know more people who do/have co-slept than don't.

Across the globe I'd imagine it's the most common way families sleep.

To me it just makes sense, little ones aren't designed to be left alone and I certainly sleep better being able to hear them breathing and moving around. Dd9 sleeps in her own bed but DS2 and the 6 month old baby are in bed with DH and I.

Sometimes. Ds is only 1 1/2 though. We have a super king so he just piles in the middle.
We would both rather he just sleeps than you up 1-2 hours every night resettling. Some days it’s midnight he joins, other nights 6am.
He always starts the night in own bed though

My 4 year old sleeps with me. Husband in spare room. I'd love it if 5 year old would snuggle in with me too but she hates sharing a bed, always did from when she was tiny.
Works for us. We all get sleep. Not impacted relationship with husband.

Our 5 year old sleeps in with us. They have their own bed in their own room but prefer not to sleep alone, which we are fine with as most adults choose not to sleep alone when they have the choice. Although I have to say DH sometimes sleeps in our child's bedroom as he (DH) is a snorer!

My daughter slept with us from being 6 months to just before her third birthday. Then we moved house, and put her in her own room in a single bed and banned her from sleeping in ours! If she needs us, I'll go and sleep in her room. However, she sleeps so much better now than she ever did. AND we are finally getting our sex life back after it being non existent for 3 years.

I'm a LP and have a 9y/o DS. Still in my bed after all this time! in a way it's nice but sometimes I could do with my own space. I don't feel at this stage it's inappropriate, but as soon as it feels that way I will definitely move him into his own room. He is cuddly like a hot water bottle!!

DS is 6 and occasionally sleeps with me or DH - not our choice but he has anxiety and sometimes refuses to sleep alone.

Even if he goes to sleep in his own bed he gets in our bed in the night. So one of us goes in his bed. I hate it and sleep awful with him and in his bed. Hoping to work on it during half term.

We do. Not constantly but for long periods at a time. DH takes 1 kid, I the other, we take turns with each kid. DD is less inclined than DS to sleep with us but she does sometimes. They generally start in their own room but know they can come in whenever they like. We get much better sleep this way and we get time in the evenings as well.

DH snores horrifically so I don't share with him anyway.

@jytdtysrht

Yes but all in same room. Move furniture out, get beds in so you can all sleep there.

This is what we did. Two double mattresses on the floor for all the family. Co sleeping is the normal way to sleep in a lot of the world. I read a great book about it by Deborah Jackson cashed Three in a Bed.

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Has anyone seen the musical beds episode of Bluey? It made me feel seen

If DS5 wakes in the night I will go and sleep in with him to get him back to sleep. He only has a single but as he wants to sleep basically on me, it makes no difference. I tend to just doze until he goes back to sleep fully then sneak out to my own bed. He has ASC so can’t be brought into our bed as he gets too bouncy and excitable and then nobody gets any sleep.