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Am I a lazy mum?

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goodlucksoonplease · 19/12/2021 12:06

I have a 12 week old. I tried breastfeeding but she wasn't feeding properly at first and I got PND (to the point I was nearly admitted to a mother and baby unit) so I gave up after about 2 days. I keep her in baby grows most of the time, she has loads of clothes but I just feel it's easier and she is comfier in baby grows if we're not seeing anyone. I see all these babies on my mum groups in cute Christmas outfits but my girl just lives in baby grows!
Am I lazy?

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RobinPenguins · 19/12/2021 12:35

Not at all lazy. I did put DD in leggings/joggers and T-shirts from quite an early age but that’s because I found it easier to just change the top or bottom when she inevitably got milk, sick or poo on whatever she was dressed in. The fancy stuff is totally unnecessary on babies and often doesn’t look comfortable for them.

chinabumps85 · 19/12/2021 12:36

Not at all. My DD wore sleepsuits only for the first couple of months😂 it's only because it was summer and it was getting hotter that I had her in a two piece vest and shorts otherwise she probably would have stayed in them for longer

SpunBodgeSquarepants · 19/12/2021 12:39

My DS is 10 months and is in babygros 90% of the time - it's easier to change his Nappy, I hate wrestling him into little joggers/jeans 😂

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Caspianberg · 19/12/2021 12:41

Of course not, they are designed to be worn for babies.
They were always called babygrows, and babies wore day and night. Now for some reason they are often called ‘sleepsuits’ so some people only use to sleep

Mine work babygrows day and night the first 4-6 months. Gradually moved out to leggings and long vest as easy when crawling as his feet got lost. But only as he outgrew them. He still has the odd footless one now at 1 1/2.

girlmom21 · 19/12/2021 12:42

@ImmutableSexQueen

My HV complained I kept my baby in babygrows and wanted to 'see all her pretty dresses'. So I dressed her up on hv days and clinic days. Personally, I think babygrows are fabulous babywear, probably comfortable and not itchy, so I dressed her that way as often as I could. She wore cardigans over them, lovely soft woollies knitted by her aunt. Perfect. I'd recommend that style of dress to anyone (under about eighteen months old, obviously. Otherwise you'd look a bit Matt Lucas).

I'd have told her to piss off - especially considering every time they're weighed you have to strip them naked and pretty outfits are hard work.

DD1 was often in pretty dresses (summer baby).
DD2 spends most of her time in baby grows and Sleepsuits. She's 3 months now so it's too much effort to keep changing her every time we go out and it's easy to put her snow suit on over her baby grow etc

Crimblecrumble1990 · 19/12/2021 12:49

I remember being confused when baby shopping seeing all the ‘outfits’ because I just assumed babies wore babygros. And then even more confused when I discovered they were called sleepsuits.

I had to ask a sensible friend if they could wear these in the day. She said absolutely so that’s all my baby wore for about 6 months! He’s nearly two and probably still looks like his wearing pyjamas most of the time as I like him to be comfy.

CheeseCrackersAndChutney · 19/12/2021 12:51

I can’t honestly understand why they sell anything other than baby grows for 0-3 month olds.

Sexnotgender · 19/12/2021 12:53

My HV complained I kept my baby in babygrows and wanted to 'see all her pretty dresses'

That’s weird as fuck. I hope you told her to bugger off.

No OP you’re not being lazy. Baby grows are comfy for babies. I hate seeing tiny babies squeezed into jeans or uncomfortable dresses.

Starcaller · 19/12/2021 13:04

That HV would have been be very disappointed with us. DD didn't have any pretty dresses. Or any at all

She was just in babygros and occasional leggings and top for the first 6 months pretty much. Does anyone really care what a tiny baby is wearing? Practical wins the day always!

Frankzappa22 · 19/12/2021 13:11

Literally didn’t even occur to me to dress my babies in anything other than babygrows! Once it seemed more convenient I think I switched to tops and leggings as I found it easier for changing. Mine are a bit older now but I am still a firm believer in comfort for the children (and some basic degree of colour coordination!) being the deciding factor in what they wear

Frankzappa22 · 19/12/2021 13:13

The only thing I worried about with baby grows was whether they pulled too much on their toes so I got some footless ones and added socks etc

UnderTheMoonlightWeDanced · 19/12/2021 13:26

12 week old here and only just started putting anything other than babygrows on! The first 12 weeks are a blur and sleepsuits are so so convenient through the sleep deprived haze And she still wears them most of the time they are also super cute!!
My other half is baffled by the turning your baby into an Instagram model stuff but that’s him and I don’t like to judge anyone what works for some people doesn’t for others and some people love dressing their babies in loads of different outfits.
You just keep doing what you are doing and you are doing great!!

DappledThings · 19/12/2021 15:05

It's totally fine. Personally I hated babygrows, found all the poppers fiddly and only used them in the day for about 2-3 weeks. But it's just preference.

RussianSpy101 · 19/12/2021 15:08

Babies are much comfier in babygrows than outfits IMO.
You’re doing great OP. Don’t compare yourself to the Instagram brigade.

RedwineforSantaplease · 19/12/2021 15:21

Babygros are perfect! Especially in the early days when they are always peeing, pooing and vomming. Both of mine went into outfits from about 3/4 months but that's because I found a top and leggings easier than a baby gro and I have weirdly long in the body babies so they get less nappy leaks in separates IME.

BertieBotts · 19/12/2021 15:29

And then even more confused when I discovered they were called sleepsuits.

It was a marketing change to try and get you to think they are only for night time so you have to buy twice the amount of clothes!

But also, "Babygro" was a trademark, I think.

Greydogs123 · 19/12/2021 15:33

My baby wore babygrows for the first six months I think! It was comfy and warm (she was born in November) and much easier for me. I only stayed putting her in “clothes” when she started to crawl and the. The baby grows seemed to get in the way a bit, but she only wore leggings and tops mostly, occasionally a dress and tights if we were feeling fancy!

nocutsnobuttsnococonuts · 19/12/2021 15:45

Dd1 had lots of outfits but only ever wore them if we went anywhere.

Dd2 practically lived in baby grows until about a year when she started walking! She was a summer baby so had shortie rompers too! We had some nicer going out ones or costume ones.

Don't put yourself down, you are doing an amazing job. A word of advice from the now mum of a teenager, enjoy the little things, treasure those late night cuddles, the times feeding them where they look at you like you are their entire world, those giggles when you blow raspberries on their tummy. They grow up so fast, dont waste a moments thought on what your arent doing, or what others are. You are perfect in the eyes of your baby and absolutely everything to them 😊

Chely · 19/12/2021 16:00

Not lazy at all.
With our 1st I dressed lo up like a dolly as she had so many outfits and I wanted her to wear them all at least once. 2nd onward, comfort was all I cared about so they all spent most of their time in sleepsuits.

ImmutableSexQueen · 19/12/2021 16:03

That’s weird as fuck. I hope you told her to bugger off.
Nah. It was 1982. We were much more docile in those days.

time2tork · 19/12/2021 16:07

Wtf
I'm having my 3rd baby and all she has is baby grows.

My other lives in vests as they born in the summer.

Wait until they voluntarily want to slouch around in pyjamas at the age of 10 because honestly that's all mine want to do on days their not at school and we have nothing going on.

Please don't stress or watch what other people are doing.

hardtimeadjusting · 19/12/2021 16:20

I did exactly the same thing until DD was about 8 months old. I occasionally put her in an outfit but only if we were seeing people/special occasions. She's now almost 2 and much easier to dress as she doesn't need changing so frequently. She also chooses her own "outfits" now ☺️

I also couldn't breastfeed as DD couldn't latch. I tried pumping but my milk dried up. I also had depression and birth trauma. Felt a lot of guilt about not BF initially but DD thrived on formula. Now I look back at DD's early photos where her weight was dropping (she was premature too) and I'm just so grateful that formula exists and that where I live in the world it's readily available. Without it DD probably would have starved to death, which is an awful thought.

Anyway, the long and short of it is you're doing a great job and have nothing to feel guilty about!! Do what works for you and your family

Elisemum · 19/12/2021 17:09

No you’re not lazy! Babies are meant to be in babygows. Mine was in babygrows until 3 months and then I started putting them in in bodysuits and leggis only because I really enjoyed it:).
You can keep them in babygrows for as long as you like, it’s cute. And don’t believe what you see on social media for one second.

Elisemum · 19/12/2021 17:11

Also re breastfeeding, god you’re not lazy, I’ve breastfed both my sons for 3 days:) it was painful and I gave up straight away. No way I’m going to be in pain where I can feed them formula which is great and so much handier and less hassle !

JennyForeigner · 19/12/2021 17:13

Nope. Got twins, a Tommy Tipperary perfect prep and they live in baby gros instead of the lovely POP stuff my mum buys them. With this amount of poo in the room, practicality wins every time.

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