Knitted gifts being sold for profit

[bobby2step]

Last year, my 94yr old gran knitted several items for my friend's baby girl. These items are now being sold by my friend on Facebook, the child has outgrown them.

Should I be annoyed that my friend is profiting from these gifts? In addition, I now have a newborn baby girl. Didn't she think to give them to us?

I don't know whether to be annoyed, furious or just let it slide as it's not worth souring a friendship.

They're hers to do with as she pleases really.

Is she selling them amongst a group of other items or specifically those items?

I think I'd be a bit annoyed too- we've been given lots of hand-crafted things and I can't bring myself to even give them away never mind sell them! We've got very well-dressed dolls, put it that way. I should pass them on really so they're getting used properly but there's nobody in close family likely to have a baby any time soon.

Just read your OP again, in that situation they would absolutely be coming back your way or first refusal at the very least.

YABU. She'll most likely be using any profit to buy new clothes for her little girl.
May have been nice for her to offer you them 1st but you shouldn't expect such gestures.

I find it sad A hand knitted gift should be cherished, I'd keep them forever in my one box of baby clothes I kept as keepsakes. If they didn't really cherish them that much, they could still give them to you or another close friend or family member. I certainly wouldn't sell a homemade gift.

@FawnFrenchieMum

Is she selling them amongst a group of other items or specifically those items?

She's selling it amongst a group of clothes. 3 items from gran in a lot of around 10-12 items.

I think I too would be miffed. Particularly as they could have been kept for her next child or passed to you. As they were gifts you’re just going to have to simmer quietly on it.

She probably just hasn't thought this through. Can you just make the best of it now? Buy the batch of clothes from her, keep the stuff your gran knitted, then re-sell the rest?

That's awful op; i could only understand if your friend needs the money badly?

I think YABU TBH. Yes maybe have been nice to offer them ,but she probably just didnt think . Lots of people are hard up ATM as well.

Mmm it's a gift so once given it's up to the person to do as they please with them really. Better that they're sold to someone who wants them instead of getting eaten by moths in a loft somewhere.

Since you have a baby it would have been nice to offer them to you first though.

We received a lot of hand knitted clothes and it’s tricky to keep track of who made what - she’s maybe forgotten they are from your Gran. Why not message her and ask to buy those items from the batch for your little one, as your Gran made them - hopefully this will remind her and she will pass them back to you for free!

Sorry missed that it was your Gran that knitted them!

My DM has made several itchy handknitted jumpers for the DCs. After DC2 refused also to wear them grew out of them I asked DM if she wanted them back.
If she'd said no I would have sold them or donated them.

The items probably have more sentimental value to you than they do to her.

If they mean so much to you, ask if you can have/buy them.

Otherwise they are hers and if they are no longer needed why not sell? Your gran would probably be happy they were getting used by another baby and your friend benefited from selling them.

Call her and ask if she would sell you those items.

As she’s selling them with other clothes I suspect she hasn’t really thought about it. Sometimes you just clear drawers without thinking about what came from where.
Why not message her and say you would love to buy just the hand made items, I’m sure she would say you can have them and she never thought about it.

I was knitted some gorgeous jumpers and cardigans when mine were young. Unfortunately they wouldn't wear them....or I couldn't get them worn often. They were either too warm, or too itchy/uncomfortable. I didn't sell them but actually gave them away to people that didn't have a relative knit for them and were really grateful for them. But....if I had wanted to sell them they were mine to dispose of as I chose. Mine were from my great aunt, her carer and her next door neighbour. But I think if they were from a friends relative I would offer them to the friend first.....although you haven't said if you have kids yourself? If not why would you want them? And if you have no kids it wouldn't cross mind to offer them back to you....

You should have said you were lending them to her until you needed them for another DC. My 0-3 month babygros have done 3 other babies between my two, and I was always clear that I'd like them back.
DC2 will be our last, so then I will sell on things we bought and give away things friends passed on to us.

@bakingdemon

You should have said you were lending them to her until you needed them for another DC. My 0-3 month babygros have done 3 other babies between my two, and I was always clear that I'd like them back. DC2 will be our last, so then I will sell on things we bought and give away things friends passed on to us.

They weren’t OP’s items to lend, though.

You are over thinking it, they are hers to do with as she pleases. My mum has knitted loads for our DS, not all to our style, we've dressed DS in them as much as possible, but we can't keep it all fir sentimental reason, its too much.

If it really bothers you, ask to buy just those items fom her

Its none of your business; the clothes belong to her .

YABU

Clues in the word gift, which means

“ a thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present.”

So they are now hers to do as she wishes and nothing to do with you

So butt out

@Garriet I misread the OP! Thought granny had knitted them for her DC and she'd then passed them on. Baby brain. Yes, you're right. OP, ask if she'd sell them to you and she might reduce the price.