2 year old absolutely refusing to wear coat/jacket....help!

[Jsgdud]

My 2 year old has an epic melt down everytime I attempt to get her to wear a coat. I've tried bodywarmers, softer fluffy style jackets, winter coat, even a thicker cardigan and she still refuses. Literally sounds like I am murdering her and if I do manage to get it on her then she tugs at it, pulls and screams once we've left the house until it's off. It's not been that cold so far but I'm dreading winter! Any tips? (I've giving her a choice of coats...she just says no to any).

Oh and I've tried saying ok we can't go to the park then until a coat is on and she says I want to stay home.🤦

If she won't wear one it's not going to get any better.

Since it isn't that cold now, I'd drop the subject and let her go without a coat . Then for when it does get cold, I'd suggest that you might look at something like thermal underwear , which will keep her warm without having to fight over a coat. Sometimes you have to think outside the box.

Just bring the coat with you. If she gets cold, offer the coat.

Will she wear a hat and gloves?
I would just leave the house with her not wearing a coat. When she gets cold or miserable (because she is cold)- she can either wear the coat or you go home.

I.e take a coat with you

Take the coat with you and just keep offering it, she'll soon figure out it's not fun being cold.

My ds always hated coats, and as he got older it was still apparent that he runs very hot and it has to be really properly cold for him to even want a thick hoody. So I'd leave it and take the coat with you - if she's cold, she'll want to put something on

If she is cold she will tell you just bring a coat with you incase she wants it and pick your battles

Mine tried this around 2 and I didn’t engage with it at all. Coat goes on, she gets strapped into pushchair, any screaming is ignored and I’d continue to chat calmly to her about whatever we could see. As phases go it didn’t last long, probably because it didn’t get any attention. But then we lived in the northern US at the time where it gets properly arctic and going without a coat really isn’t an option!

Take it with you
I was the same. Still don't like coats!

Take it with you and get some nice thick jumpers she can wear as tops. Boys jeans are also much better than the thin leggings they do for girls.

If she gets cold she'll ask for a coat.

Give up the fight let her get cold.

I've one child who always wants his winter jacket and one who feels the heat and makes me look like a bad mum.

He's just started school, teacher asked, has he got a jacket, of course he has, it's in his bag! I think it gets used for playtime.

My DS was like this. I used to just take the coat with me, but he really didn't seem to feel the cold.

Now he's the opposite and has to wear his coat zipped up to the top with the hood up even if it's sunny and mild I just let him get on with it!

I've managed to make LO sick by having him too wrapped up for winter.

I've just come on to post the EXACT same thing!

I cried in pure frustration on the school run this morning because she wouldn't put her thick cardigan on. She did the "I'm a bar of soap with broken legs" routine and was just rolling around on the cold damp pavement.

I even purchased a peppa pig coat because she's absolutely obsessed with it at the moment, which arrived this morning. She just screamed at it, took it off me and threw it on the floor.

DHs contribution was "maybe she just doesn't want to wear a coat". Helpful when it's 3c in the morning 😡

I just don't know what to do with her!!

I have a lot of childhood memories of being yelled at for not wearing a coat while I’m sweaty hot. Adults tend to forget that running around produces a lot of body heat.

Just take it with you, and if she wants it, you've got it. If she doesn't, she'll learn that she gets cold.

If it was literally freezing/snowing/pouring rain etc, its different, but I think allowing them to understand the natural concequences of something is useful at the moment (unless actually dangerous of course)

Assuming you’re UK and not Canada based - give in. Not a fight worth having.

Leave her be. Take layers with you. Offer occasionally.
My 10 yr old has never wanted as many layers as the rest of us. Currently at school in shorts and teeshirt. A sacrificial jumper lives in the bottom of his bag. If it is in single figures or raining, he needs to take a coat with him. He's not got frostbite yet!

Haha! A photo just came up in my Facebook memories of then-2yo DD1 puddle splashing dressed in wellies, woolly hat, and a summer dress from November 2016. She always was, and continues to be, very fussy about what she wears. I just went with it TBH and took the appropriate clothing with us for when she finally admitted defeat. Unless it's -10 or something daft, DC will eventually see sense before any harm comes to them. I was more concerned with the judgment of others... Whenever we passed someone looking mildly concerned/horrified, I would wave the coat around and ask if it was wanted yet. "NO!" with a giant stomp would be the reply, and I'd give the judgey-pants a resigned eye roll and restash the coat on the buggy She now appreciates a nice warm coat, so there is hope OP as long as you don't use DD2 as an example. She still insists on shedding her clothing at 5yo

Agree with others. Just take the coat with you.

I once had to navigate the stares of endless perfect mummies as DS and I came out of one of those really big adventure/animal farm/ play barn places. It was snowing. He was wearing linen trousers, trainers and a long-sleeve t-shirt. I could feel the stares boring into my back.

But... DS (as it turns out) has sensory processing disorder and really hates the feel of anything restrictive and also stays warm quite well.

As he has got older, he has embraced the hoodie as a clothing item. He will wear coats, but only of the lightest most flexible type. He still will not, as a rule, wear layers, especially on his arms - so a hoodie means he will be wearing a short sleeve t underneath, for example. He spends more time outside now so will wear a school jumper over a short sleeve shirt and a lightweight jacket.

Don't force it. If she is cold, she will tell you. If she ignores the cold to her detriment, you may have to make some choices. Continue to offer a coat or jumper/hat/gloves etc. But don't stop what you're doing.

How much do I wish I'd chilled out, hindsight is wonderful!

I'd get LO ready to go out, put my own jacket on take eye off LO turn round and find him stripped off again- arrr I should have chilled out!

Mines 15. She refused coats, hats gloves since she was 2. She still won’t wear them now. They make her feel ‘smothered’

I remember as 9 month old baby her pulling her sun hat off time and time again.

She has sensory issues now.

Assuming you’re in the UK and not somewhere like Canada with Arctic conditions, don’t force her. Take the coat with you and offer it occasionally (like when someone is walking past and looking judgy ). My daughter can be like this at age 6, and it’s not worth the battle!