My daughter swore but won't tell me who taught her.

[Kam23]

Today I heard my daughter swear. She said F'in heck. Me and my husband do not use that kind of language and so we know she didn't pick it up from us or from TV.

When asked she said it was a 'secret'. She's only 4 and started back at nursery in September. She named a boy in her class as the person who told her the secret but refused to repeat the phrase as she kept repeating it was a 'secret'.

She knew what she was saying may cause offense as whoever told her informed her prior when to use.

The problem is she won't tell me who told her.

Can anyone suggest how I can get her to open up and prevent her from keeping secrets in the future?

What are you planning on doing with the information if you get it?

Seriously, calm down about this. She now knows exactly how to get a reaction from you! Kids try out words that they hear that they know are rude. Ignore them. If they are repeated, just tell them that is a rude word and move on. The bigger deal you make of this, the bigger issue it will become.

Dd learnt the word fuck from a friend when she was 4. It happens. Don’t give it another thought.

What an overreaction

@ForkedIt

This is why I make sure I swear lots in front of my children. I would be mortified if at 4 my children were still getting such simple swears wrong.

This ^ 🤣

I’m puzzled, this is an MN four year old, surely the assumption would be that the child had logged onto MN, found a sweaty thread and read it rather than being told it by a less accomplished child.

Or even a sweary thread. Fucking autocorrect.

🤣 op just say "those are not nice words" and move on.

If it was at nursery tell the staff so they can be aware.

It's really not that big a deal.

And I'm an early years teacher!

I remember ds coming back from nursery, we were having dinner, his Dad asked him to sit nicely and he replied "Oh piss off you dick" I nearly choked trying not to laugh. Turned out it's what Melissa in the home corner says when she doesn't want the boys to play in there. It was probably usurped by him writing "Happy Christmas Connor you prick" in a Christmas card in Reception, The more you make a fuss the more likely it is to stick in their minds and repeat over and over again.

@hiredandsqueak

I remember ds coming back from nursery, we were having dinner, his Dad asked him to sit nicely and he replied "Oh piss off you dick" I nearly choked trying not to laugh. Turned out it's what Melissa in the home corner says when she doesn't want the boys to play in there. It was probably usurped by him writing "Happy Christmas Connor you prick" in a Christmas card in Reception, The more you make a fuss the more likely it is to stick in their minds and repeat over and over again.

Very few things make me properly chuckle on here but that did

Heh, always funny when an op asks a slightly daft question then abandons thread upon reading replies.

@ManicPixie