What time to get up with 8w old… am I just lazy?

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First time mum, DS is 8 weeks old

He is mostly breastfed but has a bottle (of either formula or expressed milk) at lunchtime and on an evening at around 10 as that works for now, he seems to settle better.

He tends to wake once overnight, sometimes twice depending on how early he goes down for the night.

If waking twice it’s around 5am which is too early to get up but then I’ll stay in bed until around 8/9am and give him a feed in bed. I feel this has created a bad habit where I’m not getting up until half 9 or half 10 some days. Then I’m not dressed etc until just before lunchtime as he’s pretty awake throughout the morning and won’t be put down.

Should I be getting myself up and ready earlier? I do feel better when I’ve done my hair/ make up/ got dressed but I’m just sooo tired on a morning. Am I just being lazy or should I be making the most of late starts with a small baby?

I see friends are up and out walking at 9 when I’m only just waking up sometimes.

I know I have it lucky compared to many as he typically only wakes once in the night but I’m still shattered all the time.

Any suggestions to make me feel better/ more energised would bd appreciated. Thank you

It's such early days just go with the flow. I sat on the sofa all day bf and watching TV when my eldest was 8weeks. Literally, sleep/rest when baby sleeps/rests should be your rule right now. There'll be plenty of time ahead where you have to get up earlier than you would like.

It's up to you. I preferred to shower and dress before my DH left for work, so by 8:15ish, made me feel better. But then I preferred getting out and about in the morning and have a siesta with the baby 2-4. Horses for courses.

Enjoy! My first born was like this and we had lots of lovely lazy mornings together - you can’t do it again with your second baby! The only thing I found is that as he got older and I wanted him to sleep more in the evening that became a challenge so it took a while to gradually move his sleeping routine so that he went to bed 7-7. But I wouldn’t worry about that yet just do whatever works for you as long as it works

I took my 8 week old baby to baby classes! I must have been quite mad.
Ahaha, same! It was baby massage for us: she screamed through one session, wanting to be held, not put on a cold mat on the floor and massaged; cluster fed relentlessly through another while my spare boob soaked me, her, the floor; slept through the third and I skipped the rest having finally figured out that what had worked for one friend’s baby was not going to work for mine. I suspect everyone with an eight-week-old baby is quite, quite mad.

I'm the same and my DS is 4 months - except you have one up on me as I don't do the housework during the day. DS doesn't settle until late so I need the sleep to function. I only make an exception on days I have a morning appoibtment. As long as I do eventuqlly make it out of the house each (or, most) days I don't think it matters!

This morning slightly different as his jabs are at 10am… I got up after his 7am feed and have already endured a huge poonami 🤢, given him a bath, sorted myself, him, put a wash load on and eaten breakfast.

I do feel better for being up with clean hair and sorted but there’s no way I could do this every morning I’d be exhausted! Might aim for once a week

Thanks again to all of you for reassuring me, it’s a big adjustment and hard to know whether I’m doing okay sometimes

You are doing just MARVELLOUS!!!!!!!

I used to do this with my first. It was lovely. Feed at about 6 then back to sleep til after 8. DH would bring me tea before he left for work while I did another feed before getting up. It was the thing I found hardest after having DS2 and DS1 then got up just after the 6am feed and that was it for the day!

We do 6-6 with ours because it suits our needs (both work early and finish early though I’m currently on mat leave with DD2). I don’t mind getting up early and throughout the night, so long as I get a couple of hours peace in the evening.

A friend also on mat leave wasn’t up till 9.30 yesterday morning, called me to say she’d be late in meeting up because she’d slept in. Her baby stays up with them until around 9pm.

No discernible difference between the health/happiness of her DS and DD2 so you do you. Congrats on the baby.