What age did your child...

[BelleOfTheProvince]

Worried about developmental delay was wondering if anyone who had later developers could tell me...
What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far.
What age your child said two syllable words.
When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves)
Running
Climbing steps up by holding the bannister
Doing scribbles with crayons
Using a paintbrush
Climbing up steps for small slides etc
Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and knees
Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well)
Putting on own wellies
Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food
Drinking from a beaker

Have concerns and twenty month review coming up.
I'm looking specifically for any toddlers that were on the late side of things (probably not the thread to tell me how your baby ran at 9 months- my anxiety won't take it)

I can't remember where she was with all of these specific examples, but my daughter was definitely not doing most of this at 20 months. She didn't walk until 18 months and barely talked until she was two.

She's a month off her third birthday and a bright little smartarse chatterbox.I posted on here a few times worrying about her development but I needn't have worried.

They go at their own pace. I'm yet to meet a toddler hitting all their milestones - most are ahead with some things and behind with others. Try not to fret!

Yeah it's hard not to worry because he's definitely behind in more than one area. Has been on pediatric 'watchlist'. It's really obvious I think when we are around other babies his age, but husband says it might be personality.
I think he's rather optimistic and I'm overly anxious. Need a happy medium.

I think my son was doing all of these things by 20 months but there were probably some of our NCT group who weren’t - eg there were a few who didn’t walk until 18 months and so probably couldn’t do all the physical things on your list by 20 months, and others who were a bit behind with talking. Everyone is “normal” now at 3.5, but if you have any concerns at this stage it’s really good to raise them - that’s what the check is for. Your DH isn’t a professional so you can basically ignore his view on this.

I'm not sure my DS was doing most of those at 20 months; maybe the walking/climbing ones but certainly not speaking or drawing or being able to pour water. He's now 2.2 and can manage most of them although he's definitely on the slower side re talking. Nursery have no concerns though.

Thanks. He's already under early intervention but they are a bit dismissive.

My daughter is nearly 2.5 and can only just do most of those things. For example, she has only recently started to climb stairs by holding the bannister but still mainly crawls up. She still can't put on her own wellies. She doesn't run much and can only just about jump with both feet, but not always.

At 20 months she couldn't do most of those things and has always been slightly behind with motor skills. Her speech and language is better.

DS is nearly 3.

What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far.* - only in a few words such as the d for "Daddy". Not giving many initial or end sounds, still using made-up words for lots of things and will attempt polysyllabic words but only gives a rough attempt at pronunciation.

What age your child said two syllable words. see above

When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves) Last summer, so around the 18-month mark?

Running Possibly around 20 months.

Climbing steps up by holding the bannister In the last six months, so around 2 1/2?

Doing scribbles with crayons about 2.

Using a paintbrush For random scribbles, around 2?

Climbing up steps for small slides etc Hmm. Maybe last summer so 18 months?

Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and knees Without help? Probably around 20 months?

Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well) Fairly early, I think, but focusing attention on something new when they're engrossed in another activity takes practise.

Putting on own wellies Probably earlier this year, so after 2? Still puts them on the wrong feet now though!

Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food around a year ago, although he'll still eat many things with his hands and ignore the fork.

Drinking from a beaker Not sure what you mean by beaker. He had sippy cups from around 10 months I think and used them even now, although probably aged 2 he was confidently using a normal little cup.

Dd only learnt to walk at just short of 18 months.she’s just done her secondary school cross country. She just missed making it through to represent the city in the county trials. Oh well. Maybe if she had walked a bit earlier.

I saw a lot of development after my daughter turned 2. She was still very babyish at 20 months in terms of both speech and motor abilities. The difference those few months made was enormous.

@BelleOfTheProvince

Worried about developmental delay was wondering if anyone who had later developers could tell me... What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far. What age your child said two syllable words. When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves) Running Climbing steps up by holding the bannister Doing scribbles with crayons Using a paintbrush Climbing up steps for small slides etc Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and knees Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well) Putting on own wellies Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food Drinking from a beaker

Have concerns and twenty month review coming up.
I'm looking specifically for any toddlers that were on the late side of things (probably not the thread to tell me how your baby ran at 9 months- my anxiety won't take it)

• 12 months
• 12 months
• 6 months (but we gave him pouring toys at bathtime)
• 15 months (he learned how to walk at 14 mths)
• 18 months (but it’s fine if he can’t do that up to 3)
• 12 months (but anywhere up to 24 months is ok. Playdoh or kneeding dough builds hand strength so they can hold a crayon)
• 15 months - but this is a personality thing. Risk takers are more likely to want to walk down steps. Risk averse kids won’t. You need to practice this and make sure they wear proper shoes.
• 3 months. But from 12 months they go through a spurt which means they concentrate more on things. So if he’s absorbed in play when not responding it’s fine. If he seems to be in his own world for ages and doesn’t respond at all, video it and talk to your GP about possible absence seizures. They will then refer.
• my son is 23 months and absolutely refuses to put shoes on because that’s what big boys do and he wants to be my baby lol. Provided your son can explain why they won’t (in either proper words or actions combined with gobeldegook) then it’s fine.
• 9 months. But DS was blw and given a spoon to self feed from the start (we actually gave it to him as a ‘teether’ from 3 months). If you only recently gave him a spoon it will naturally take longer.
• 7-8 months from an open cup as he was bf and he found it easier. He still can’t drink properly from a beaker or straw.

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My son has just turned 2 (2 weeks ago) and still can’t speak. He doesn’t respond to his name. I am worried about this delay. He doesn’t have a hearing problem so idk what’s wrong.
He did walk when he was 11 months and started running soon after. He’s been using a fork to feed himself since he was about 15 months.
He’s been drinking from an open cup with no lid since he was about 18 months.
I think it will be years before he can put his wellies on himself. I can barely put them on him because his feet are extra extra wide.

Ds is 18 months.

He can do all the physical ones mentioned like climbing and running, has done a while.

Things like pink not ink, no way. He’s literally just started saying dada, teeth, ba (for bath)

He can use fork and spoon, but prefers fingers. Drinks from straw beaker best

Can take a shoes off but not put on

There is a government document called What to Expect when. This is a parent version of the early years curriculum that is written for parents. This will help you understand where your little one should be you will also find they are doing so much more than you think. It also gives you ideas on how to help them learn anything you feel they are struggling with x

I would say a lot of things on your list wouldn’t be achievable by most 20 month olds, you always get exceptions but it’s also what experiences they have had. For example my ds is 18 months and I’ve never done crayons or painting with him because from previous experience, all it would achieve would be him either eating it or throwing it on the floor! He only started to walk properly the last couple of months so still crawls up the stairs etc.
Doesn’t feed himself yet but again that’s because I’m lazy and have always spoon fed him.
No where near putting wellies on or climbing up slides.
Only just starting to say words so again nowhere near saying the start of words.

I think sometimes you can get so overwhelmed by things you are expecting them to be able to do and worry can creep in. But most toddlers will get there in their own time. When looking at your list, there’s hardly anything on there that mine can do yet, obviously he’s 2 months younger but he’s always followed a ‘slower’ line of development and has reached his milestones slightly delayed. But is developing perfectly normally to me. Try not to worry too much.

Well 20 months sounds early for a lot of these to me. My kids are NT

What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far.
a few words by 20 months, but most words later

What age your child said two syllable words.
the odd one at 18 months, but massive change between 18 months and 24
When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves)
around 2? I think they emptied things before, but pour as in doing it deliberately trying to get it into another container.

Running
well early walker did it early, late walker did it late. Probably was around 22 months for late walker

Climbing steps up by holding the bannister
we lived in upstair flat with concrete stairs, so they had to do this early as I couldn't carry them, but I can remember having to help dc1 when dc2 was a baby, and so he was at least 28 months

Doing scribbles with crayons
this is a lot later than people think. I help in Sunday school creche, and a surprising number of 2 and 3 year olds can't successfully make a mark on paper. And my dc1 was still scribbling at 4.

Using a paintbrush
well, painting rather than just wacking it on paper or stabbing the bristles, again, most 2 and 3s in the Sunday school can't.

Climbing up steps for small slides etc
again, early walker early, late walker later. Can't remember an age, but it was very different.

Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and knees
hard one to say as I held their hand so they didn't drop to knees outside, (lived in dirty city) about 6 months after walking? so between 16 months and 22 months?

Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well)
from tiny. literally from weeks old. (but they also chose to ignore me a lot)

Putting on own wellies
really can't remember

Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food
well, dc1 used a spoon pretty well by 12 months. But dc2 ate with her fingers until she was about 5. I am not joking, including jelly/soup etc and she hated/couldn't use a spoon.

Drinking from a beaker
With a lid? from about 7 months, open beaker no lid? Again, watching kids in Sunday school creche, that is a lot to do with what they normally drink out of, some kids do it form 12 months, others struggle at 3, becuase they always use a sippy cup at home,

Out of your list, the one that stands out for me is the responding to name, the rest could fall within normal. I know one dd who didn't stand until 20 months and didn't walk until 2+. She had hypermobile joints. I know one dd who didn;t have any words at her 2 year check, but by age 5 she was chattering beautifully.
But if your instinct is saying that putting them together as a whole picture is a worry, then listen to your gut and fight for some help.

My 11 year old very academic child did not speak until two! They told me my now 10 year old very academic child was behind all his milestones at 2. Sometimes children just aren't where an average dictates they should be. I wouldn't worry too much... Oh and in year 5 they told me my now year 9 child was way behind in reading. She's predicted a 7 at minimum in her English GCSEs now.

My 18 month old can do none of those things and I am not expecting him to do any of them in the next 7 weeks. He only started walking this week at 18 months and 1 week.

At 2 year check up my son couldn’t do any of them and the hv said it would be expected by 2. I think I’d he’s not there by 3 then there would be some sort of assessment. Was he premature at all?

He wasn't premature but considered at risk because of the circumstances around the birth.

I can't remember when my son did nearly all of these things but I do remember that he was behind from his first health visitor's assessment at 8 months and stayed that way until his most recent assessment at 2.5 then Covid hit. The health visitor even said that she'd never seen a child so behind who didn't have additional needs. He was behind in all of the five areas they check for (gross motor, fine motor, communication, social and emotional, and I can't remember the last one). He didn't walk until he was 19 months and only had about 15 words at 24 months when they should have about 50. He went to the physiotherapist and did speech and language classes. He's going to be 5 next month and no longer has a speech delay, started school with no problems and is running around all day long with so much energy that he doesn't like to sit down to draw. He's now completely caught up.

I know it's an anxious time when they're behind but I think this is pretty common. Please try not to worry, he'll get there in his own time.

@Clementineapples

At 2 year check up my son couldn’t do any of them and the hv said it would be expected by 2. I think I’d he’s not there by 3 then there would be some sort of assessment. Was he premature at all?

That was the advice I had as well re gross motor and speech delay - basically, that they'd only start worrying if she was clearly behind at 3 or 4.

I drove myself mad thinking there was something wrong (she was slightly prem) but it turns out that she's just one of those children who'd rather hold back and observe before attempting something. She's only just started climbing in the last month - she's nearly three!

Try not to worry OP, the advice I had from physio and SALT was that there is a huge range of "normal", especially when they're so young. You can't compare your child to your friend's. My friend's little boy is just two weeks younger than my daughter and was leaps ahead in every respect from the get-go. She's since "overtaken" him in speech and with potty training. No doubt, he'll speed ahead again with something else before long.

It varies from child to child. DS could drink from an open cup by himself at about 8 months and could use a spoon to feed himself from about 1, didn't walk till 17 months or run till 18 months, didn't talk till 2.5 - possibly because he was working on his table manners.

DD (nearly 1yo) is a lazy potato baby and I'll be very surprised if she does many of the physical/personal skills ones in the next few months.

there is a huge range of "normal"

Definitely, I didn’t say a word until I was 5, my brother was chatting away by 12 months. Other brother potty trained at a year old (he hated nappies and the feel of being wet/dirty) my other brother wet the bed until 15. All of us now pretty boring average adults lol

Roughly at age of 2-3 years.

What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far. ha, not at 23 months.
What age your child said two syllable words.the ofdd one, I'd say for a few months now so 18/19 months I guess but it isn't clear, I b just know what it is
When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving about 19/20 months
Climbing steps up by holding the bannister 1
17/186
months??
Doing scribbles with crayons 19/20 months
Using a paintbrush 19//20 months
Climbing up steps for small slides etc 15 months?
Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and kneeswould dotihme hodnghans, not really sure without
Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well) bleurgh but that's a twin think in part
Putting on own wellies 20ish
Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food 18ish maybe
Drinking from a beaker hot and miss still, they prefer a bottle or open cup