What age did your child...

[BelleOfTheProvince]

Worried about developmental delay was wondering if anyone who had later developers could tell me...
What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far.
What age your child said two syllable words.
When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves)
Running
Climbing steps up by holding the bannister
Doing scribbles with crayons
Using a paintbrush
Climbing up steps for small slides etc
Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and knees
Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well)
Putting on own wellies
Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food
Drinking from a beaker

Have concerns and twenty month review coming up.
I'm looking specifically for any toddlers that were on the late side of things (probably not the thread to tell me how your baby ran at 9 months- my anxiety won't take it)

Thanks for your responses especially those who had to play the wait and see game. It's hard to not feel worried about milestones when you miss them, especially when the people I know I'm real life who say that have babies that all met theirs beautifully on time.
I'm processing a lot of guilt and trauma about the birth so it's hard to know what is normal and what is just me being anxious.

especially when the people I know I'm real life who say that have babies that all met theirs beautifully on time

I can absolutely guarantee you that this isn’t the case. Trust me, when she starts preschool school you’ll hear about how all the other 3 years olds have passed their maths gcse, joined Mensa, started driving lessons. It’s all ridiculous ‘look how amazing my child and therefore I am!’ Bollocks. By 4/5 they’ll all be at the same level. Some will have special needs, some might be a bit ahead but that’s it.

I suggest looking at every person you pass tomorrow and work out which one met their milestones on time. You won’t know because it doesn’t matter, really

It’s it’s any consolation, the uk seems very ‘early’ to expect lots of these things.

I’m not in uk, and at recent check up I asked about Ds lack of speech at 17 months at the time. Paediatrician said it’s not a problem, and speech isn’t even measured here until 2.5/3 years. Whether that’s ideal or not I don’t know, but the whole country doesn’t have a high ratio of children and adults not talking so I presume it doesn’t really make much difference at this age as school age you can’t tell who talked at 8months or 3 years

DD was climbing up ladders at 10 months but didn't walk until 14 months. She is now nearly 4 and not saying the first syllables on many words and has been diagnosed with an atypical speech and sound disorder. But is bright, sociable, popular with children and teachers, good with numbers, good at gymnastics and rock climbing, and nearly swimming.

OP I think you are overthinking things, and that is an extensive list of expectations to be putting on a 20 month old. They all develop at different rates and in different areas. If they have a developmental issue then they have a developmental issue and it will become apparent in due cause, but for now relax and enjoy your lovely toddler.

I have 4 NT children. I think one of them met some of these before the 2nd birthday, 2 of them probably in the months after their 2nd birthday, other child was probably closer to their 3rd birthday before they could do all these.

What is more interesting though, is that despite these differences, by the time they were around 3 and a half years old, I would say that they were all at a pretty similar place in terms of speech and motoric ability.

My 19mo definitely isn’t doing all these, he’s been walking for ages but still can’t run or go upstairs not on his hands and knees. He’s ‘ahead’ in lots of things but in others I’d class him as not quite at where the others in his nursery class are, for example he is much less sociable than most of them.

I assume what he’s ‘ahead’ in is what he’s concentrating on now, and by the time the kids in his class are in the preschool class they’ll all be about the same, at this age there is such a variety of ability and for the most part I think that’s totally normal!

Not sure of the specifics for most of those examples, but I always remember DS1 saying 'they're daddy's keys' at 20 months and people being pretty surprised. He's 18 now and smart, but no genius.
Try not to worry.

It sounds like my little boy is a year older and I could have written half of this post last year. He's always met his physical milestones with ease so the jumping, walking, running, stairs all there before 18 months. Speech on the other hand is like a totally different bag. He will be 3 in December but still misses the starts of words , only just started using words within the last year and didn't start pointing until almost 2 he also doesn't have all the right sounds yet. We did have concerns over his hearing as he didn't respond at all for a while (I do think he may have had blocked ears as some point as just before his hearing test this all faded away) but his hearing was fine. I also quickly spoke to speech and language and they gave me simple things to do which seemed to really help. I still worry but nursery and the health visitor aren't concerned.

It's hard not to worry but I suggest looking into ways to encourage your little one on and the rest will come.

I have 3dc, my youngest is 20 months. He can do all the physical things but can't talk yet. Middle DD couldn't have done a lot of those physical things long past 2 and still finds it hard to put wellies on at 6- but she was great at drawing and painting. Oldest DD was terrified of everything at that age so couldn't have got her near a jug of water to pour and she was too cautious to try stairs, ladders, or kerbs alone etc. Nursery never had any concerns about any of them and that's my barometer as they see so many kids!

Some of these we were doing way before 2yrs. Some we weren't - below are tte ones we werengvwith some comments.

What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far. aged 2 we had less than 10 words, so some point after that
What age your child said two syllable words probably about 2.5, when he also started on sentances
When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves) no idea
Doing scribbles with crayons hates doing this, never drew or coloured as a small child, now has horrible writing at secondary school
Using a paintbrush see above, he'd never choose to

I also have 3, my eldest (girl) could do pretty much everything, my younger 2 (boys) were not talking at 2. The youngest, who is obviously freshest in my mind, was not doing most of that at 20 months but was climbing steps etc, and pouring water.

What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far. Eldest was 5 before this was consistent - he was reviewed by SALT at 3.5 and I was told it's on the lower end of normal still to be doing it on some words at 7. It's not impacted his literacy at all.
What age your child said two syllable words. DC1 was probably close to 2, DC2 was much earlier, about 14 months
When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves) under 1
Running 2.9yo doesn't yet run just sort of lollops quickly. It's fast but doesn't look like running!
Climbing steps up by holding the bannister DC1 was about 2.5 but did 2 feet on each step until almost 4. DC2 was doing it from about 20 months (DC1 wasn't walking at 21 months).
Doing scribbles with crayons about 1 for both DC
Using a paintbrush as above
Climbing up steps for small slides etc if not like a ladder then under 1- e.g. before they could walk.
Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and knees by 2
Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well) from about 6 months but it's intermittent.
Putting on own wellies
Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food
Drinking from a beaker

Those things are very specific and I don't remember but dd1 was one of those who was running around at 10 months and talking in sentences (in 2 languages) not long after 18m. Dd2 didn't walk til 17m, at 15m she still wasn't even placing her feet on the ground let alone weight bearing. If you tried to hold her to stand she'd just curl her legs up under her. She also didn't speak beyond noises and nonsense til 2 and then that was very slow progress, 3 til she made any sense at all to anyone outside of the family. She's now 8 and if her and dd1 (nearly 12- in high school) sat the same tests in maths or English I double there would be much of a difference in result. Dd2 is definitely more organised. Very early to worry abmir your dc yet

DTs are 18 months.

What age your child did most of the beginnings of words. Eg pink not ink, star not far. - they don’t say many words yet
What age your child said two syllable words. - no words apart from mama and dad that are 2 syllables
When your child figured out how to pour(water play not anything advanced like serving themselves) - yes
Running - yes
Climbing steps up by holding the bannister sometimes (last couple of weeks) - one yes the other no
Doing scribbles with crayons - yes (last couple of weeks)
Using a paintbrush - never tried
Climbing up steps for small slides etc - yes
Tackling steps like pavement drops without going on to hands and knees - no
Responding to name(was this consistent all the way through or did you have a period they didn't respond well) - yes have responded for a long time
Putting on own wellies - they don’t have wellies but my my shoes on..
Feeding self routinely with a fork or spoon without losing most of the food - yes for one, no for the other
Drinking from a beaker - yes

Definitely look at the ages and stages questionnaire, but don’t panic. I was told at the 12m review that they should be saying 3 words, and 20 words at 18 months. According to the questionnaire they should have been scribbling and all sorts of other things that they weren’t doing. Don’t panic but speak to your HV if you’re concerned.

My daughter had a gross motor delay and definitely couldn't run or climb up the steps of a slide till a bit older. She's at school now and doing well in PE and can ride a bike with gears and swim.

@AegonT

My daughter had a gross motor delay and definitely couldn't run or climb up the steps of a slide till a bit older. She's at school now and doing well in PE and can ride a bike with gears and swim.

Did you get a diagnosis or did it become less apparent as she got older. Ds had early side preference and some muscle tone difference until after his first birthday. Both are not apparent anymore but he's still not caught up with his peers, but done well enough he's been signed off from occupational therapist.

Feeling pretty down. Had our 20 month review and Ds is presenting with global developmental delay in most areas.
It's just come as a bit of a shock as his physio and occupational therapist signed him off so we were led to believe he'd caught up.

It seems like there's a no man's land between needing support and being developmentally on target.
I'm really struggling with this as he is doing well his difficulties seem almost invisible, except that they are not and fairly obvious for me.

I don't really know what I am expecting from posting, apart from a handhold from those who have been in a similar position. 😥

@BelleOfTheProvince - were they more specific on what exactly he was behind on? And how to encourage those areas?

From your original list, and peoples answers you can see there’s a huge variety of when who did what.

He's behind on gross motor, fine motor and quite severely behind on problem solving.
He's actually just in the normal range for speech but that's the area she signposted me to. She also said keep offering opportunities to develop gross motor by going to parks etc, but this is fairly pointless because he won't attempt any of the equipment and just zones in on spinning wheels etc.

Just find it all a bit disheartening when the physio had given us hope he'd catch up.

Well personally I think they are talking rubbish panicing you like that at this stage. He’s 20 months. Literally on the cusp of baby/ toddler.
If he seems to have caught up in general and no major issues, I would try and relax a good while longer

I have an 18 month old. Talking wise he has only just in the last week or two started mama/ dada/ teeth/ bye bye. He doesn’t say anything else.

There are lots of online resources for gross motor or fine motor activities, maybe take a look and find a few bits you thing he might enjoy and try them gradually

Gross motor -basically any thing involving whole body

Fine motor - more precise like finger pincers.

Responding to name, fine motor skills and drinking from beaker- age 1 I'd say
Crawling 16 months
Walking 26 months,
Running with confidence maybe nearer 30?
Using banister age 3
Speaking using 3 words 36- 40 months
Using speech and language therapist as now 3.5 and says key words but no joint words eg go mummy red car rather than we are going in mummy's red car. He has always been very behind but where he has lacked in these areas, he has always excelled socially, eg empathises with others, shares , understanding is great, fine motor skills very good from an early age

Thanks @Caspianberg, I'm just so disheartened by it.
I'm going to try and get some fine motor toys, it's hard though because he's stubborn so I've actually no idea how much is behaviour and how much is ability. For example, most of the fine motor and problem solving skills revolve around drawing, but he hates drawing and it's a no go as an activity. Ditto the gross motor stuff, he is reluctant to try things like soft play but it's hard to know if that's because he finds it hard or if he just doesn't fancy it.

I find it really difficult as I seem to get contradictory messages from professionals a lot.

Ds started talking at 26 months. First word 'key'. By 27 months he wouldn't stop talking I'd booked the speech therapist and then cancelled it.

He walked at 7 months, climbed stairs at 11 months, without using the hand rail. I don't think he's ever used a hand rail.

Dcs don't do anything to schedule, they haven't read it. I'm sure your ds will be fine x

I think it's hard to not worry because it is in more than one area. He didn't walk till late 16 months ish and has been delayed in pretty much every area.

Is he in nursery?

Gross motor skills-
He doesn’t like the park?
What about
Rolling a ball between you
Getting scarves and saving waving them around
Sweeping the floor and other pretend play “cleaning”
Posting items through tubes
Filling and emptying beakers in the bath

Fine motor
Picking up bits of pasta and moving them from one bowl to the other
Painting the fence with water and brushes
Junk modelling
Picking up pebbles and putting them in a bucket on a walk.