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Feeling really guilty (taking kids out of school for no good reason)

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:05

Ok basically a few months ago I heard that my favourite band were touring, I sooo wanted to go but there were no dates near me on a weekend when I didn't have the kids so out of desperation I booked the tickets for a monday night, my mum said she would babysit and I would get the kids to school on tuesday morning as usual.

Thing is, I under-estimated how far the journey was and to get there on time I'm going to have to take the kids out of school on Monday afternoon, take them straight to my mums and then set off for gig straight away. My mum wasnt too happy but agreed.

Thing is, the gig is next monday (17th) and I have had a letter home saying my sons christmas play is on the monday afternoon but he wont be there...only first performance however, they're doing another one on the tuesday which he will be there for but I still feel guilty. Especially as it's all for my own selfish enjoyment.

The idea is to say they're coming home for dinner and just not take them back. I told myself it was 'ok' as we would never do it normally and its christmas week so they wont be doing much anyway but when I realised he would miss his first performance of his play I felt terrible.

Am I being really out of order here?

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FairyTaleOfNewYork · 09/12/2007 23:07

can u mum colect them from school?

twinsetandpearls · 09/12/2007 23:08

I think you are being out of order TBH.

Marina · 09/12/2007 23:08

Tbh, yes. I think you are. You did ask.
Might the school not wonder what has happened to the children if they don't come back after lunch? And maybe ring you or something?

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twinsetandpearls · 09/12/2007 23:09

There will never be a first natvity play again, that band will tour again.

But you have bought the tickets now, depends on how big a deal it is to you financially.

ineedapoo · 09/12/2007 23:09

They have probably been building up to it for weeks can another mum drop him off for you

FairyTaleOfNewYork · 09/12/2007 23:11

how long will it take you to get to the concert? is there any way you can miss the start with warm up bands etc,

can another parents collect the boys and drop them off at your mums/yours?

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:14

Sorry I worded that wrong, its not his first play, I've been to every other one he's done...what I meant was its the first performance of this particular play, they're doing 2, one on monday afternoon and one on tuesday afternoon. I will make the tuesday one.

He's disapointed anyway as he started off as the narator but the words were too difficult for him to learn so he's been demoted to "a fly" that hangs around the camel .

Nobody else can take him/drop him off for me as they all live too far away .

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twinsetandpearls · 09/12/2007 23:16

I don't know tbh, I would not keep my child off school because I was going to a concert, regardless of a Christmas play.

ineedapoo · 09/12/2007 23:18

i think the fact you are feeling guilty says it all can DH/DP be there or not

KittyLetteItSnow · 09/12/2007 23:20

Depends - what band is it?

If iyts take that / spice girls then yes, yes YABU

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:22

there is no DP.

Thing is he doesnt have a part that will be missed so to speak, he has nothing to say and his absense won't affect the play at all and as I said the Tuesday one will be fine, we'll all be there for that one.... or am I still being mean?

the kids have great attendance records, I've never done anything like this before and never plan to again, its strictly a one off.

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ItWasOnlyAWintersTellus · 09/12/2007 23:23

What are you going to tell the school?

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:23

"If iyts take that / spice girls then yes, yes YABU"

God no! it's a heavy rock back pmsl (wildhearts)

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ineedapoo · 09/12/2007 23:23

If you do it will you feel really guilty and worry or will you just enjoy the concert

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:24

telling the school is another issue, not sure what to say other than lie about some kind of apointment which I know is out of order.

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Sobernow · 09/12/2007 23:25

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:29

just had a look at the letter and the play starts at 1.45pm. How long do you reckon it will be? its year 2.

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madamez · 09/12/2007 23:29

It would of course be better ifyou could get someone else to coolect the DC etc (I don't know your circumstances, but what about their dad taking an afternoon offwork?). You know your DC best: will they thiink of it as an adventure or will they mind? Missing an afternoon's school is really no big deal in the long run.

ineedapoo · 09/12/2007 23:29

ask the school how long the play is

oops · 09/12/2007 23:30

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:32

tbh the kids are really excited about it, they love going to grandmas and getting the afternoon off school is a bonus for them. Plus DS is not as fussed about the play now that he's been given a "lesser" role, if for one minute I thought he'd be upset I wouldn't even consider it.

As it is he's not all that bothered but I still know I'm being "naughty" so to speak and putting myself before the kids which is hard to swallow.

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LordVenger · 09/12/2007 23:46

Ah jeese louise go to the gig and don't feel remotely guilty - what are they going to miss over a couple of hours schooling at that age? It's scarcely crucial cramming for a nuclear bomb making exam during war-time. Parents occasionally have to make an effort to make themselves happy - this isn't the Turret of Doom. And I bet you'll be a FABULOUSLY attentive and patient parents for weeks after. I do think the Wildhearts are shit, though.

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MrsSnape · 09/12/2007 23:52

LordVenger, I really enjoyed your post until you said:

"I do think the Wildhearts are shit, though."

How could you??? lol

I'm not trying to get people to feel sorry for me here but its been a shit year with one thing after another and this was the one thing I was really looking foward to and as my DS isn't bothered about the play either way PLUS ill still be seeing him in it the following day I'm finding it harder to "do the right thing" iyswim

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LordVenger · 09/12/2007 23:54

I think you should get incredibly, terribly drunk as well, and slam-dance down the front. A parent who has rocked out recently is a good parent.

oops · 09/12/2007 23:56

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