Feeling really guilty (taking kids out of school for no good reason)

[MrsSnape]

Ok basically a few months ago I heard that my favourite band were touring, I sooo wanted to go but there were no dates near me on a weekend when I didn't have the kids so out of desperation I booked the tickets for a monday night, my mum said she would babysit and I would get the kids to school on tuesday morning as usual.

Thing is, I under-estimated how far the journey was and to get there on time I'm going to have to take the kids out of school on Monday afternoon, take them straight to my mums and then set off for gig straight away. My mum wasnt too happy but agreed.

Thing is, the gig is next monday (17th) and I have had a letter home saying my sons christmas play is on the monday afternoon but he wont be there...only first performance however, they're doing another one on the tuesday which he will be there for but I still feel guilty. Especially as it's all for my own selfish enjoyment.

The idea is to say they're coming home for dinner and just not take them back. I told myself it was 'ok' as we would never do it normally and its christmas week so they wont be doing much anyway but when I realised he would miss his first performance of his play I felt terrible.

Am I being really out of order here?

Ask yourswlf this O wildhearts fellow fan; What would gIinger do?

I'd go to the gig and i wouldn't feel guilty about it. The kids miss a couple of hours at school which isn't real a big deal. They will have fun with their gran parents and you get some well deserved time out to have your own christmas pressie to yourself. And you will see the play on Tuesday. Can't see a problem myself. Call the school and tell them you will be picking the kids up at lunch as they have the dentist in the afternoon. I'd do it and if that makes me an irresponsible parent so be it.

Go to the concert!

Don't just take them out for lunch and not bring them back. Instead give your ds a note to give to teacher just saying you will collect them at xx o'clock. Don't give a reason. If you lie ds will prob tell the truth and make you look bad!

Go to the gig and enjoy it. Your ds is missing one performance as a fly that hangs around a camel (surely they coudl have come up with some slightly more glamorous bit parts than that!)...hardly life altering stuff.
It's not like it's his a levels (or whaever the heck they are called nowadays).

Jesus its one afternoon of school in a play where hes not exactly got a huge part.

FWIW i would go and enjoy the concert.

Tell school they have appointments you can't cancel.

Oh and i don't think you are being selfish either!!

"Ask yourswlf this O wildhearts fellow fan; What would gIinger do?"

lmao! always nice to see a fellow fan and to answer your question...I think Ginger would tell the school in his usual polite tone where to stick their attendance policy and wouldn't you just love to see the teachers having a go back?

I asked DS this morning - what do you want to do, have the afternoon off school and miss your first play or go to school and do the play twice? He jumped at the chance of having time off school

It's not often I do anything for myself.

Hope you enjoy it

Oh, go to the concert, no question. But can you not just be honest with the school and tell them you've had concert tickets for ages and no other way to get the kids to your Mum? Lying to the school is probably not a great example to set for the kids if you can help it.

But if you really can't be honest, you should still lie and go to the concert!