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Who has legal right to name baby?

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gamechanging · 17/10/2021 11:29

My husband and I are going through a difficult patch that might end in divorce (he has been emotionally and financially abusive). Our second baby is due in a couple of month's time and I have a name that I love! I remember from naming our first baby, he pretty much dictated what it would be.

Anyway, with this one I am determined to not let that happen again, and after everything he has put us both through (I know how stress can affect a foetus), I don't think he should get a say. I can't find anything online on who gets the ultimate say on naming a baby, when a couple are married (if they aren't married, it's the mother).

Anyone have any ideas?

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Namechangegardens · 17/10/2021 18:23

Currently in Scotland you book registry online- if this is the case where you are you could get your birthing partner to book it ASAP after the birth beforeyou've told your husband?

gamechanging · 17/10/2021 22:57

Thanks for all the replies!
@Aspergirl77 What proof would he need to show he is the father/my husband, if he went alone to an appointment without the baby? I have our marriage certificate, so could keep that hidden.

I'm hoping he wouldn't have the will (or ingenuity) to make an appointment without me... but I'll make an appointment asap.

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Dipsydoodlenoodle · 18/10/2021 12:30

I'm sure the health visitor told me, if you are married just one of you needs to be there to register the baby, but if you are unmarried then you both need to be there to get names on birth certificates etc.

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popcorndiva · 18/10/2021 15:38

He can get a copy of the marriage certificate which he will probably do if you walk out now anyway. Can you not just talk to him? You will need to co parent going forward so maybe try and start being civil and cooperative from the start. Your child has a right to know their father even if you don't like them anymore

Avarua · 18/10/2021 15:46

Seriously if it's so bad that you're thinking of sneakily naming your joint baby without him, this marriage is over.

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