how do you cope with this, overwellming primative love

[robinredbreast]

hi my dd is nearly 6 months now.
and sometimes a feel so overwellemed with love for her, like nothing i have ever experienced in my life before.
ive always been a quite a cautious person before, never fallen in love at first sight
or anything [until now]

say for example when i met my now husband we dated for a year and when i was certain it was going to work out, then we brought a house, then after we had a house for over 6 months i felt sure we where gonna be fine living together so we got a cat, then in a few years we saved got married and now have recently had our first beautiful baby.
so i always been very slow and approached life with such caution

and when dd was born i fell in love at 1st sight, my feelings are so strong in a way i could never of been prepared for and i feel fiercly protective of her in a v primative way, like if anyone ever hurt her, i dont know what ill do.

like even tonight watching x factor, when nikki was singing songbird the lyrics

"To you, I would give the world
To you, I?d never be cold
?Cause I feel that when I?m with you
It?s alright, I know it?s right

And the songbirds keep singing
Like they know the score
And I love you, I love you, I love you "

just made me burst into tears!

nothing could prepare me for the intense feelings of love like a tidal wave hitting me and it feels overwelming at times

does anyone know what i mean?

Really moving post!

Yes, same here.
And I tell you what else:
Every day the feeling gets stronger!

almost everyone on here I expect

kids do funny things to us

I know exactly what you mean. And the amazing thing is that, if you are blessed with another child, you will have the same strength of feeling again - it's like a bottomless well of love. xx

Yes, don't worry, you are quite normal!
Now I have my children I get tearful about the most ludicrous things. Eg, Harry and the Bucketful of Dinosaurs - the bit where he calls all their names and so the lost property man knows they are his

i still get it now and my DCs are 8 and 2.5

it is being a mother , a parent, it is a primal thing

very powerful

Totally agree.
I used to look at my Ds' and burst into tears and DH would say 'What's wrong?' and I would reply 'Nothing, they are just so beautiful and we made them and i love them so, so much!'

Absolutely!!

I clearly remember watching the Robinson's Fruit and Barley adverts when dd (now 6.5)was a newborn, and I used to sob and sob when it came to the line: "she stops things from hurting because she's my mum". Oh dear, now I'm welling up just remembering that time!!!

It hurts doesn't it?

ohhh good im glad im not the only one
felt like a bit of a pratt bursting into tears at the xfactor !! esp in front of friends double
yes non parent friends aswell!

yes it does feel like i love her so much it hurts.

i never knew i could love someone so much and it sort of feels hard to cope with at times.

really helps to know im not the only bubbering mummy or daddy [daddyjo thanks for the compliment] out there!

I know exactly what you mean and tbh I find it quite hard to deal with at times
It's like being torn wide open, vulnerable
And simultaneously really wonderful

ooo yes, i feel like a lioness and if ANYONE dared to hurt my cub I would kill them.

But like a lioness, i feel like cuffing him around the ear when he is playing up!

We're all just animals!

Does anyone have that awful thing when you wake up in the night with a start and start thinking that if anything bad happened to your DC, you would not be able to cope?

3am is a fine time for me to start worrying irrationally about random acts of God/freak accidents etc.

I said to some of my friends the other day, I know DS is going to break my heart one day. I just know it. Because he could so much more easily than anyone else.

I try to remember when I am not so enamored with someone elses child is that parent feels that "Lioness and cub" thing too.

Hmmm, I have never been a baby person, it must be said. I did my bit when ds was a baby, but I'm enjoying him so much more now that he's a total pain in the arse three year old.

The Tsunami certainly wasn't there when he was six months old. It was more like the far out tidal waters of Weston-super-Mare

i was told i was like a rothweiller protecting my pup about ds think it was ment in a bad way but filled me with pride im doing my job so little bugger has my heart in his hands and he knows it to.nothing prepares you for the heartwrenching worry you to death love does it?

omg even just reading this makes my eyes well up!
and I'm a HARD lady!!

it gets much easier to cope with the 'primitive love' when they start to have their own opinions, and voice them over and over and over and over again

do you think the love you feel for your dh/dp or rest of your family is different from the love you feel for your dc?

like i love my dh to bits
i think hes good looking,funny,kind, intelligent,hard working, good dad and was great throughout my pregnacy and dd's birth
[he's head will be big if he reads this ]
and i cannot imagine loving another man more
but yet i still feel if he ever left me or anything i know i could eventualy get over it
[oh dear really hope,he does read this thread now lol]
so it not that i dont love him because i do

but the love i feel for dd, comes from ever fibre in my being.
know one tells you about this when your pregnant do they, prob just wait for you to find out on your own.
that why i was embaressed blubbing in front of our non parent friends earlier, if it was any of our parnet friends it bet they would of known how i was feeling

yes it does make you feel vunerable to love someome so so much

and yes vulgar i do wonder how id cope if anything ever happened to dd

opps really hope he doesnt read this thread that is ment to say.

ahhh - robin...it gets more and more intense.
I swear I can't believe I've not eaten my little 10 month old up. I never thought I'd love something soooooo intensly as this.
Its mad isnt it.
It makes you want to squeeze and squeeze them!
They are sooooooo gorgeous.

I love little babies, and working in mothercare doesnt help...little teeny babies everywhere, looking at me with big googly eyes.
I love them!!!

Oh, no, Molly! I wouldn't have bitten him

Well, just the little plump thigh, perhaps!!

In full response to the OP, just you wait until they start talking. That's when the real Tsunami comes .. even when they say random stuff like 'I hate you, Mum.'

I was told about the fierceness of the love but couldn't possibly understand how it feels (it's quite painful and overwhelming and all-consuming).
lol at the Curmudgeon
It's totally different to the love I feel for dh or anyone else
I remember a friend saying when she had her first child "I have to remind myself that I love my husband" - that makes some sort of sense to me