4 month old waking up 5 times a night 😫

[Poppysmummy92]

Wondering if my 4 month old babies sleep pattern is normal?!

Maybe I was lucky with my DD, she slept through from 4 weeks, well, from 10pm - 6am ish. But my son, I feel like he’s just constantly awake! I’ve implemented a proper bedtime for him as I didn’t bother for ages with my DD and then she was a nightmare to get to bed at a reasonable hour as she got older, so my DS goes to bed at 6:30pm. Last night this was his night -

6.30pm - bedtime/asleep
9.30pm - awake - bottle
11.30pm - awake - nappy change and resettle
2.15am - awake - bottle
4am - awake - resettle
5.15am - awake - resettle
5.40am - awake - resettle
7am - wake up for day

Is this a normal nighttime for a 4 month old?? I thought he would be sleeping through by now!

Thanks all for your advice in advance!

I should probably add, he doesn’t wake up during the night and want to get up, he wakes crying and I have to either give him a bottle or put his dummy in and he falls back to sleep really quickly

That’s completely normal for a 4 month old. It’s also completely normal for a 12 month old.

What wasn’t normal in the slightest was a 4 week old sleeping though the night.

None of my 3 slept through before 14 months; one of them was 3 years old…

At 4 months old their stomachs are tiny. I would definitely expect a 4 year old to need feeding overnight.

My one year old still has nights like this (minus the need for a bottle). Totally normal, you just happened to have a great sleeper the first time. They do have a sleep regression around that age too so it may feel worse at the moment because of that.

Totally normal I'm afraid op.
14 month when my LO slept through

4 month sleep regression/development leap. 100% normal. They’re babies, not robots.

Normal! Mine were 3 before regularly sleeping through and that's years not months.

When my baby was 4 months, the regression hit hard for, I would guess, about 8 - 10 weeks, she’d literally wake every 90 minutes. One week her dad was awake for work and, for 3 nights running, she woke every 30-45 minutes. It was torture. So, in answer to your question, it’s normal. She’s 11 months now and still has nights where she’ll wake 3 times, it’s just babies

This is really not bad for a four month old! Some babies are waking hourly at that age. You were unbelievably lucky with your first!

Welcome to the four month sleep regression, count your lucky stars you didn't go through it with your first. It passes

Both mine have been worse than this. It's horrendous but will get better.

Jealous you had a great sleeper with one!

Totally normal.

My 9 month old still wakes 3-4 times between 7pm and 7am.

Wanted to add that the only way we survive is making sure we both get 4 hours consecutive sleep a night. A lot of musical beds or putting the monitor into the other room at the end of your shift

My almost 3 year old wakes 2-3 times a night!

My youngest slept well from 6 weeks to 4 months. At 3m he often slept 8-4, feed then slept 4-6/7. From 4.5m he woke 6-10 times a night and this broadly continued until 8m when it gradually started improving. He slept through around the time he turned 1. Unfortunately sleep progress is often not linear.

My baby 6 months breastfeeding the whole night uses me as a dummy, he cries if I move away, but my first was truly hard work reflux baby never slept genuinely through the night or day he'd have random 30 minutes was awful hes a teen now, my other 2 were like what you are saying until about age 1, there all different sleep deprivation is horrendous I get u, but I'd hate my child's needs not to be met so its just a waiting game

Totally normal OP, my first baby slept right through from 4-6 weeks, lovely I wondered why all the other mums were so useless.
Then speaking to friends I realised I had struck gold with mine, my sisters kids were a bloody nightmare until they were 4 waking multiple times a night, I was like my son as a baby and again my mother assumed her friends kids were horrendous due to bad parenting but come number 2 and 3 they were the high maintenance babies from hell.
I don't think any of us ever recovered
I didn't have another one, I thought I won't get away with another good baby.

Oh, well you’ve all answered my question, my DD has led me into a false sense of security 🤣

Myself and my husband (he works, I don’t) don’t sleep in the same room as otherwise he’s awake too and it doesn’t make sense for us both to be tired. Maybe this is us now sleeping in separate rooms!

My next question is, I’m majorly putting off moving my DS into his own room as then I’ll be in and out of his room all night surely instead of just dealing with him next to me in bed. Has anyone else waited till their babies are sleeping better before moving them?!

Some people find once they are in their own room it sleep improves!

I don't think that all those wake ups is normal at all. My first was sleeping more than twelve hours consistently at that age. My second was having a dream feed at 10pm and then having a cry at 4am at that age. We would have to get up to put the dummy in her mouth which seemed very silly so we got rid of the dummies. Had an awful week while she learnt to sleep without it. She had the dummy back a few weeks later due to sickness but by then she was reinserting the dummy herself. Personally I would press ahead with the plan to move the baby out of your room. We all slept far better once the babies were in their own room.

DD (woke twice a night) went in her own room at about 5 months. DS (woke loads) slept in the room with me until around 9 months. Started in the cot, ended up in the bed. I couldn't be doing with walking round the house all night! DH was in the spare room for that period too.

My baby is almost 7 months and he still sleeps in my room. He sleeps roughly 9pm-9am with 2-3 wake ups and I don't see the point in having to get out of bed and go into another room to see to him when I can just pull him across and quickly feed him back to sleep. Even if he was sleeping through I'd still have him next to me for as long as possible as I just like having him near me, so I'm just keeping him next to me until he out grows the Next 2 Me crib.

@Poppysmummy92

Oh, well you’ve all answered my question, my DD has led me into a false sense of security 🤣

Myself and my husband (he works, I don’t) don’t sleep in the same room as otherwise he’s awake too and it doesn’t make sense for us both to be tired. Maybe this is us now sleeping in separate rooms!

My next question is, I’m majorly putting off moving my DS into his own room as then I’ll be in and out of his room all night surely instead of just dealing with him next to me in bed. Has anyone else waited till their babies are sleeping better before moving them?!

How are you “putting it off”? Safe sleeping guidance is in with you for all sleep till at least 6 months.

Both mine were bottle fed, not by choice. DS1 slept from midnight to 7 by 8 weeks. DS2 not until 5 months, but I would have gone mad with this number of wakings - he just woke once for a feed in the middle of the night.
My HV advised baby in their own room by two months, said it was the only part of the safe sleeping guidance that she disagreed with - but this was 20 years ago. Maybe she has changed her mind! She did say that once they are a few months old and more aware of their surroundings it becomes a lot harder to move them then. I delayed moving DS2 as he’d had a cold and was a bit snuffly and I wanted him next to me, but I think we paid a price as he didn’t really settle very well later on his room.

Both mine were still on 2 hourly feeds at that age.

My good sleeper slept through usually from about 8 months. The bad sleeper was about 2 years.

Guidelines say they shouldn't sleep in their own until after 6 months, so keep him with you for at least a couple more

Both mine went into their own room around the 3 month mark. I wasn't convinced by the 6 month advice. I couldn't see the necessity for it all. SIDs rates are vanishingly rare after 3 months so hardly seemed a risk at all in my opinion. The whole family then slept far better.