How do you get 'me time' with a one year old?

[guac]

I wake up when he wakes up, go to sleep when he goes to sleep, and in between I'm taking care of him or in future I'll be at work. Where does the me time come in? Husband finishes work close to baby's bedtime and works 6 days a week. Is 'me time' pretty much non existent until my child is significantly older?

Yes my thinking was inline with @TheGrumpyGoat - it's not that I expected the dh does nothing on his day off, just that I imagine couples who spend 6 days a week barely seeing each other likely want to spend most of their one day together. That's why dh having baby while she goes out or has 'me time' is being suggested as a more occasional thing not because he should only be doing things for baby occasionally.

Yes, agree with PP.

The DH also needs some downtime. If they both work 6 days a week, him out of the home and her at home there is one day a week to play with.

DH takes the baby for a few hours so she gets some time, she takes the baby for a few hours so he gets some time and presumably the rest of the day they want to actually have some time together?

It doesn't mean the DH's sole contribution to the family is 3 hours of childcare once a week or that things should be split 50/50 overall.

Can you afford to put baby in nursery for a couple of mornings or afternoons a week? Do you have any family who would look after baby for you for a few hours a week?
My husband and I both take a half day each weekend for ourselves at the weekend and this still leaves us with family time too, if your husband is working 6 day a week this is obviously harder, could he reduce his hours to 5 days a week?

Once they start school if you work part time and if not once they old enough to go off laying with friends

I've just found a small amount of me time 7 years after having kids.

Ah OK I misunderstood sorry. Well in that case maybe OP could get more me time while her husband is looking after the baby and house at home.

@mswales

Ah OK I misunderstood sorry. Well in that case maybe OP could get more me time while her husband is looking after the baby and house at home.

Yeah no reason why not, just sometimes it’s nice to have the house to yourself. Mine are like homing pigeons and if they know I’m in the house they seek me out!

@guac

I notice a couple of things after reading replies. He goes to bed around 8:15pm because he doesn't wake until 7am and I'd rather stick to that than have an earlier wake time and earlier bedtime.

As for naps, he will nap twice a day but only for half an hour UNLESS, I lie next to him. If I lie next to him at the 30 minute mark he will grab on to me and fall back asleep but should he wake and I'm not there, he wakes up. So I'm restricted to spend time next to him for naps

I guess I have an hour/hour and a half to play around with when he goes to bed but I'm normally so tired I just get into bed and go on my phone for that time and fall asleep. I do think I'm lacking in iron and not eating well which probably doesn't help things.

My daughter is now 3 and this is pretty much the only time I have to myself too.

Yes and lots have more than one child so you have it easy at the Moment believe it or not !

Evenings! Both of my DDs (toddler and baby) are in bed by 7. DD1 is an early riser, but going to bed later doesn't change her wake up time. It depends what your priorities are - a bit of a lie in, or time to yourself in the evening. Mine is the latter! I sometimes have a bath, DH and I have dinner, watch TV etc.

DS aged 2 goes to bed at 7ish (he’s doesn’t go to sleep then, just faffs about and falls asleep anywhere between 7.15 and 8.30.
But post 7pm is time for DH and I. We alternate doing bath and bed. So evenings are pretty much our time.

DS wakes up at about 7ish and when he was 1 we would alternate weekend mornings to get up with him. Nowadays he just gets in bed with us and we watch tv and chill together (we usually have stuff on at weekends)
If one of us has had a rough week then the other will take DS out alone for a few hours.

He also moved to one glorious 2 hour lunchtime nap at 15 months which is still an hour now at 2.5 so that’s my time. On my days off with him I keep him out until 5.30ish so DH can come home from work and relax in an empty house for a bit.

So you’ve got carve it out and work together mainly.

Have a supportive partner... I usually get Saturdays to myself when dp takes DD swimming. Also I work a half day on Friday but DD does a full day at nursery so I have that too

What's me time? 🤣